Frump to Fab 2017 - A Whole New World

DD265

I have to confess I am not sure I like the idea of Zombie Feet! The thought of... never mind I'm going to stop there.

I did not make it to the gym this morning due to issues on the road taking up all my gym time. I did however stick to the plan I made with a colleague which was to go running at lunch time. He forgot his kit so I went on my own. I didn't like the area to run in; a rabbits warren of cul-de-sacs and too many roads to pause at before I could cross. I will try and find a different route.

My new perfume (the sample, anyway) has run out. I am most miffed. I could have bought a bottle but I bought some shoes instead. I wanted some black heels to wear with my new dresses. I'm slowly building a wardrobe where I have something I'm happy to wear for any occasion. The next occasion is our engagement shoot next weekend.

savingfortomorrow

I have been ran off my feet, (very neglected and tired feet) for the last few days. I have worn the best outfits to feel more confident and give a good impression. I had a mixed reaction to the hair shampoo and treatment to volumize my hair- it was amazing the first day, ok the second- terrible the third. I usually get four days out of the wash and this annoyed me as on day three a pancake has more volume than my hair.

LL It is only fair upon yourself to deligate the tasks related to probate. The cost financially is far less than the emotional tole and the time involved. You have to look after yourself and the energy required to do the probate could be better spent looking after your self. I agree totally with you as regards stress. Stress is a big nasty- it effects every cell in the body and avoid it at any costs.

sugarbaby125

LL I am in fact the 2nd youngest of the 12 children my Mother and Father had. Unfortunately 2 of my sisters and 2 of my brothers have died, so there are only 8 of us now.

I am very organised and I do not flap around in a crisis, so inevitably I do find myself being relied on by my older brothers and sisters. I do not resent it, but I never take on too much of my siblings woes and I will only help them in practical ways if it is convenient for me. I learnt that the person I need to look after the most is myself, so much as I like them all and love them, I like myself more and Love myself more.

Going to Karaoke is so much fun for me, so I try to go at least once a week even when I am completely knackered! Once I get to Karaoke, I just a new lease of life. I become so relaxed and energised. It makes me feel truly happy. Even my live at home daughter notices how on a high I usually am when I come home from Karaoke and will take time to listen to what happened at Karaoke to put me in such a happy place.

maman

I think you're right sugarbaby. It may be more to do with personality than where one comes in the family. That begs the question what shapes personality??:) As it happens, I am the eldest in the family but don't feel my brothers expect too much from me we're just different with different skills. One brother and I were executors and we just split the tasks down the middle. He did the practical stuff like dealing with estate agents and house clearance but that was because he was local and more suited. I took on all the paperwork and finances.


What I find hard to deal with (mostly on days when I'm feeling sorry for myself:o) is that if you come across as capable and organised and strong then you don't get any of the help and support that others get. Most of the time I just live with it but sometimes I feel it's unfair. I had to try hard not to get cross with my DD2 as she seemed to be finding it hard to find time to see us over Christmas but I know she spend loads of time with her MIL. It's not just the geography it's because the MIL has made some stupid life decisions over the years and now she needs help so (quite naturally) everyone has to rush round and help her.


Obviously it's touched a nerve this morning but onwards and upwards. I've done all my usual routine including creaming feet. Off to a meeting and then meal out with colleagues later so it'll be smart casual, probably jeans and ankle boots. What I wear on top with depend on how cold it is.:)


I did go into the city yesterday and bought moisturiser. I was surprised how few staff there are any more in stores. Usually I have a demonstration of something at Benefit counter but no demonstrator to be seen. I also had a small (£10) spend: a pair of slippers for later in the year and a jumper. I like wearing slippers at home and these are cotton rather than furry and the jumper was reduced in TKMaxx just to wear as house clothes to stop me wearing good ones to do chores.


Bright and sunny here but cold.:)

savingfortomorrow

maman it is difficult. It can be very difficult, however, your daughter's kindness and consideration to a potentially stressful MIL is something to be proud of. Many would not be as considerate. It is true that sometimes when you have to spend time with someone picking up the pieces after bad decisions, you don't have the chance to relax and spend time with others. try to meet up outside of the holiday season more, when there is less pressure on her. Its a difficult situation for both of you.

day off today and well look like i've been dragged through a hedge. I really need to make an effort.

dd265 i love the shoes they are so gorgeous, the heels and detail. you will get so much wear for them, you can glam up jeans or little black dress or popping a nice black trouser.

lessonlearned

Dd265. What gorgeous shoes. Love them.

MAman.... I so get what you are saying about sometimes we are too capable for own good, next time I'm definitely coming back as a brainless bimbo. :rotfl:

Re your daughter....she sounds lovely, hope her MIL isn't putting on her. Savingfortomorrow makes a good suggestion about finding time together outwith the Christmas period, when hopefully she is under less pressure, although of course I can appreciate you how wanted to spend some family time together at Christmas. It's only natural.

There is talk that DS1 and DIL might spend next Christmas in either Madrid or Venezuela. I have told them to go with my blessing. It must be hard for DiLs parents missing their daughter at Christmas. I don't think she has seen them at Christmas for around 6 years now. I have had them for the last two. I mustn't hog them to myself, I have to play nice and share.:rotfl:

I think DIL is a bit homesick at the moment, she is working flat out on her PhD as well as adjusting to married life and a new job. It's a lot to cope with all at once.

Did my Aldi shop and Had a nice mooch round a couple of charity shops this morning. Bought a fabulous burgundy satin evening blouse/jacket - very glamourous. £5. And a small Caithness glass bud vase for £2. I often snip little flowers in the garden and don't really have a nice little vase just for the odd single stem so this will be lovely by the side of my bed.

Got killer backache now so just resting with a lavender wheat pack and then I'll need to finish putting the shopping away and tidy up and then cook dinner. Don't really feel like doing much now. Luckily I have Physio again tomorrow so that should help.

Very dark and murky here. Roll on spring.

maddiemay

A bit lax on the fabbing front here at MM towers, I have been fighting off a cold bug, fortunately not succumbed fully yet:D, and have had a really bad couple of weeks with IBS. I decided yesterday that I will try and be really strict with myself over the food I eat for a few weeks, I intend to eat mostly fish, chicken and egg based meals with a selection (rather small) of fruit and veg that do not cause me to bloat/have pain. GF and lactose free too. Sadly I made the most yummy GF cake (from one of Phil Vickery's books), but the dried fruit caused big problems, I think that I will freeze it and hope that in a while I will be able to eat a slice occasionally, normally I would pass it over to OH, but I had already made him 2 normal fruit cakes. Pleased to report feeling much better after just one day:D:D

Another plus today, I had a good session at the gym this morning PT had me go up a weight for some of the excercises, not been able to that for a long time:j

lessonlearned

Another one feeling very unfab today. Caught sight of my reflection in a shop mirror.:eek: I really do look absolutely drained and washed out.

Another IBS flare up today......scrambled eggs, so along with the backache Feeling rather fed up. Been limping again too because I sometimes drag my leg when my back is bad. I think I might need to go lactose free again and cut back on eggs for a while. Sometimes cutting right back to "stoneage" food is the only way to get things back on track.

Honestly I feel like a right old crock. Instead of doing some housework I fell asleep and now i feel dreadful, the house is a tip and I just can't face it.

woe is me.....:rotfl:

Maddie.......Hope you fel better soon. IBS can be pretty miserable. Good news With the exercise.

Picked up a newspaper today, noticed there is a spread about insomnia, will read it Later.

Managed about 5 hours sleep last night so not too bad.

Pinkpetal

Hello is it to late to join the party?
I've been lurking for the last two weeks and really needed to post.
It has been very eye opening to read other people's thoughts which I could really relate to. My priority is to make some friends and I desperately want a social life but I'm terribly shy and haven't a clue where to start. I'm dreadfully unfit but do try with my appearance when I go outdoors which sadly isn't often.

Floss

Maman we are having our family Christmas next month, as DS1 doesn't drive and always works inbetween so has to be at home for his train. DB2 was also working, as was DB1 in London, DS2 & DDiL were planning to visit her family and we were invited to DH's brothers home.
It takes the pressure off the kids to come here, so we too can relax!