Help on selling joint property

Guest101

Marcie_m82 wrote: »

Hi Guest101

You may not see the constant demanding and using manipulation as harassment but I can assure you it was. - Then you go to the police and you get court ordered child arrangement. Only once a week was reasonable as a the starting point - the starting point is 50/50. You haven't given any indication that he was a bad dad, and you aren't a special case for being a woman. . There are reasons for this which I have spoken to a solicitor about. - and then you went to court...?

I have now moved and we are 1 hour away so the contact is an issue - funny that.... but I have offered a fair solution that I have been advised to offer from the solicitors - do you assume solicitors are magic? they have suggested the MINIMUM because that's what you pay them for and he point blank refused as it wasn't what he wanted. This is a whole different part of the situation. - agreed. go to court to resolve this

I need to go back and speak to my solicitor from the responses on here as I have not really spoke about it in depth as my sons well-being was the most important to sort out. - If your legal adviser is your solicitor, find a new one

Thanks for questioning if I am the best carer for our son the answer to that is yes. I put my son's need the priority and ensure he is well cared. - I'm asking because you said you have medical conditions, which can impair you.

We are both named on the mortgage but we are not married. The debt has accumulated over the 7 years that we were together. My ex had to have the best of everything and pushed and pushed until i would give in and buy what he wanted IE furniture, sofas etc usually on pay monthly which has lead to us being in debt. - So you can attempt to sue him I am fully aware its in my name and therefore I am responsibly even though all furniture that i'm in debt for is still in the house. What I need is the house to be sold and then I will be able to clear the debt. - go to court The purpose of mediation for me was access and financial issues. He refused to talk about finances which was his choice I asked if both could be talked about. As i said before I offered contact that was advised by the solicitor. - Honestly it doesn't matter what your solicitor advised. If you cant make a decision that's best for your son, i'll reiterate my point about who the best care giver is.

Thanks

Nat

Your son deserves a dad, you offered him a dad 52 days a year. You haven't mentioned anything to suggest he would not benefit from regular contact, and then you moved 1 hour away.


Imagine how you'd feel?


- edit: leaving aside my moral position, as I feel I'm getting too involved. You need to now act reasonably on the house sale. You need to give written notice of your intention. You need to give reasonable time for him to act (lets say 28 days) and then you may need to go to court. A solicitor is useful for this (please not whoever told you that rubbish about arrears)

Marcie_m82

There is a whole situation that I am not going to detail on here as this is a site for advice on money problems. I understand that my son deserves a dad but just because of that I still have the well-being of my son to consider. I know how I would feel but I also know what I would be doing too.

I am medicated for anxiety and depression mostly due to my work and financial issues so I am still a fit parent and my son comes first. Yes it is 1 hour away but it is where we are surrounded by family that are helping our situation.

Never having been in the situation I am currently in I am taking all the advice I am giving and making my decisions however using the solicitor to ensure that I am not being unreasonable. As the head and the heart can obviously cloud judgement i circumstances like these.

Thanks

Nat

Marcie_m82

My friend is not my solicitor and I am going to make an appointment to get things moving.

I am trying to act reasonable and do what is best but its hard when the other person is not being reasonable.

Thank you for your points it is good to have someone give constructive criticism so you can rationalise and think about if you are doing the right things.

Thanks

Nat