Just Had A Row......

Bingbong_2

Get a red ribbon and tie it around your.....

Understand your situation, other people don't always make it easy to be sensible 100% of the time. There is always a middle ground and I'm sure the silent treatment won't last for too long.

Bing

KME91

Little things can mean so much more.... i found a book for my oh for his birthday on his favourite subject. it was out of print, but i just came across one in a random bookshop, i seem to spend a lot of time mooching in bookshops. anyway it was really cheap, but it meant a lot to him because it showed him i supported his hobby, even though it's really not my cup of tea.

i'm sat here now knitting him a scarf for christmas, because he goes abroad a lot for work, and he's got a lot of cold trips in the new year. it's little things like that, time rather than money, that mean a lot to him, and to me.


try talking to your oh again when you've both calmed down. tell her you want to make your special birthdays memorable, and do something unique and special together, rather than have gifts. BTW check out the freebies board, nectar are giving away free adventure days out or pampering sessions......

milkydrink

I read your problem out to my husband, he says you should let her do what she wants...............

He says its easiest that way..............

red74

Not very debt-free but personally let her do what she wants - it doesn't mean you then have to go and spend a fortune come her birthday - just put in a lot of effort.

I say this because I've just had a similar fight with my OH whose birthday was a couple of weeks ago. Bascially there was only one thing that I know he really really wanted but it was pretty damn expensive so he wasn't going to 'let' me buy him it. This is where I had the problem - it is MY present to HIM, it should be for ME to decide what to get HIM, not him deciding what he is going to allow me to get him (PS my birthday was first so I wasn't setting myself up to get a reciprocally large gift). I could have got him loads of cheap crap that would have never been worth the little I'd paid for them, which would then hang around cluttering the place up and gathering dust because he couldn't get rid of them because I had bought them for him.

It is her gift to you, let her decide what she gives you and accept it with good grace.

madmoney_2

MadDogWoman wrote: »

Hi,

DH and I have agreed a maximum of £20 on any present.

DH just took me out for a meal last year for my 30th as we had just started a DMP with the CCCS. Plus I got a positive pregnancy test that day so no present could top it.

I would definitely try and compromise.

MDW

sorry to hijack the thread but congrats hun!!

Mark6_2

Why not spend more than you should on something cheap!

For example, a box of chocs would cost you about £3, but one single chocolate from a specialist chocolatier would cost the same. Like a good wine, if a normal Tesco bottle is £5 you just drink it, but if you spend say £50 on a similar bottle it seems more special, and you will savour it.

My advice would be to spend £5-£10 on something that you normally could spend 50p-£1 on. It will be as special and extrvagant as a £500 bottle of wine.

So I suggest a single chocolate £2-£5, or maybe two, the pleasure could be even better shared! and you'll still have money in the bank.