Should I report this person - and how ?

DoaM

Ho hum ... here we go again ......


I'll leave you both to it.

robotrobo

50Twuncle wrote: »

My Father (himself in his mid 80's) tells me that one of his "aquaintances", who is 96 years old and still driving - has become a danger to himelf and to others on the road
He has had several collisions with other vehicles including a few weeks ago - when he reversed out of a car park on to a main road and was hit by a van who didn't expect a car to be reversing out in front of him....
Somehow, he avoided the police being called and his insurance company are not aware !!
He appears to have become senile - he drove 30 miles to a nearby town and then denied it
His family have all disappeared off the scene
Obviously he is unfit to be driving - but denies that he has a problem
What should we do ?.



First thing i would stop him from playing football with the kids on the drive ,and then tell him his girlfriend looks a bit common in her mini skirt.:)

Robisere

I am 71, disabled and have driven for many years. In Army service I drove everything from tracked Armoured Vehicles to aircraft recovery artic's. However, when the time comes that I believe I am no loger fit to drive (and I will know) then I will inform Motability and the DVLA myself. I was a workshop foreman and I well remember my 78 year old neighbour, whom I had known since childhood, coming up to the garage, parking up, and handing me the keys. "Sell it for me: I cannot stand driving today, traffic is beyond me."

We moved some years after that, but I also remember the old guy next door to me at the next house, who was 81 when I would have been around 62. He was a very dangerous driver, drove at 25 to 30 and was regularly on the wrong side of the road. He was also a deeply unpleasant old git, everyone disliked him. I knew he was going to cause an accident sooner or later and everyone else seemed to think it was someone else's problem. I phoned his surgery and asked for an interview with his GP, I told him that I understood patient confidentiality but was afraid that he was going to cause an accident and possibly injure an innocent party. The GP addressed my concerns by basically telling me it was none of my business. I next went to the police staion, who could do nothing until something happened. I made them make notes of my concerns, by saying that I would inform a solicitor that I had been to them.

The old git grew increasingly more erratic; finally he atttacked a lady neighbour who would not let him into her house. She locked him out and then phoned me, I went across and he attacked me. I could not hit him, so I picked him up and pushed him onto the grass, then we sent for the police. Still nothing was done. Then he did cause the road traffic accident I was dreading, by driving around a bend on the wrong side of the road, head on into a car with a family inside. 3 were injured, and as you might expect, the old git got away without a scratch. That opened the floodgates; next day the police interviewed myself and others, taking statements. Eventually the old git went completely bananas, was diagnosed with dementia, classified as dangerous, and placed in a special Care Home, where he died.

Now, before I am criticised for my attitude regarding the old git, let me tell you that he once had a family, marrying late in life to a widow with two daughters, one of whom had learning difficulties. One of the older residents here told me that, many years ago, the old git had attacked this girl and tried to throttle her. The family left him and he grew bitter and twisted, blaming everyone else for his own behaviour. When I moved next door, I tried to help him several times, but his erratic behaviour meant that I could never know how he was going to be from one day to the next.

So it does not matter who you tell about the old man you posted about, OP: no one wants to know, until something bad happens and an innocent party suffers the consequences. The best that you can hope for is that he falls of his perch before too long. Brutal? Yes - but true.

sheramber

My husband reported an unsafe elderly driver to our local police. He did have dashcam evidence of the driving.

We gave it a lot of thought as we live in a rural area with no public transport but would have felt terrible if he had killed someone. He was driving passed a school.

The police visited the gentleman who was in his 80's and discussed the driving with him. The old man was horrified that he could have caused an accident. He immediately agreed to surrender his licence.

The police took statements from my husband and myself as evidence in case he didn't surrender his licence and then they would have taken action.

It turned put he was on medication that had nasty side effects including dizziness. However, he said he consulted his doctor about it but had not been told to stop driving so continued to do so.

We did have a case a few years ago when a lady in her 90's left the road, ploughing into two cyclists who had stopped at the side of the road to put their waterproofs on. The wife was killed and the husband was airlifted to hospital where he spent several months.

She had no memory of the incident and at her trial admitted that she had had dizzy spells but continued to drive.

It is difficult for elderly people in rural areas to accept they are no longer fit to drive.

Robisere

Obviously he is unfit to be driving - but denies that he has a problem
What should we do ?.



First thing i would stop him from playing football with the kids on the drive ,and then tell him his girlfriend looks a bit common in her mini skirt.:)[/QUOTE]

So that is your attempt at humour: would you still be amused if this old driver caused injury or death to one or more of your family?

neilmcl

DoaM wrote: »

Ho hum ... here we go again ......


I'll leave you both to it.

Yeah you leave it to the adults.

Sicard

DoaM wrote: »

Given this was clarified over an hour before you posted, the purpose of your post was .....?

Why is it there's a spate of posters like you who appear to get turned on by needlessly critising another poster for no other reason they've got nothing better to do? I've come across a few before. You really need to get out more.

GTE_Boy

Robisere wrote: »

I am 71, disabled and have driven for many years. In Army service I drove everything from tracked Armoured Vehicles to aircraft recovery artic's. However, when the time comes that I believe I am no loger fit to drive (and I will know) then I will inform Motability and the DVLA myself. I was a workshop foreman and I well remember my 78 year old neighbour, whom I had known since childhood, coming up to the garage, parking up, and handing me the keys. "Sell it for me: I cannot stand driving today, traffic is beyond me."

We moved some years after that, but I also remember the old guy next door to me at the next house, who was 81 when I would have been around 62. He was a very dangerous driver, drove at 25 to 30 and was regularly on the wrong side of the road. He was also a deeply unpleasant old git, everyone disliked him. I knew he was going to cause an accident sooner or later and everyone else seemed to think it was someone else's problem. I phoned his surgery and asked for an interview with his GP, I told him that I understood patient confidentiality but was afraid that he was going to cause an accident and possibly injure an innocent party. The GP addressed my concerns by basically telling me it was none of my business. I next went to the police staion, who could do nothing until something happened. I made them make notes of my concerns, by saying that I would inform a solicitor that I had been to them.

The old git grew increasingly more erratic; finally he atttacked a lady neighbour who would not let him into her house. She locked him out and then phoned me, I went across and he attacked me. I could not hit him, so I picked him up and pushed him onto the grass, then we sent for the police. Still nothing was done. Then he did cause the road traffic accident I was dreading, by driving around a bend on the wrong side of the road, head on into a car with a family inside. 3 were injured, and as you might expect, the old git got away without a scratch. That opened the floodgates; next day the police interviewed myself and others, taking statements. Eventually the old git went completely bananas, was diagnosed with dementia, classified as dangerous, and placed in a special Care Home, where he died.

Now, before I am criticised for my attitude regarding the old git, let me tell you that he once had a family, marrying late in life to a widow with two daughters, one of whom had learning difficulties. One of the older residents here told me that, many years ago, the old git had attacked this girl and tried to throttle her. The family left him and he grew bitter and twisted, blaming everyone else for his own behaviour. When I moved next door, I tried to help him several times, but his erratic behaviour meant that I could never know how he was going to be from one day to the next.

So it does not matter who you tell about the old man you posted about, OP: no one wants to know, until something bad happens and an innocent party suffers the consequences. The best that you can hope for is that he falls of his perch before too long. Brutal? Yes - but true.

How do you know that time hasn't already come?

50Twuncle

robotrobo wrote: »

50Twuncle wrote: »

My Father (himself in his mid 80's) tells me that one of his "aquaintances", who is 96 years old and still driving - has become a danger to himelf and to others on the road
He has had several collisions with other vehicles including a few weeks ago - when he reversed out of a car park on to a main road and was hit by a van who didn't expect a car to be reversing out in front of him....
Somehow, he avoided the police being called and his insurance company are not aware !!
He appears to have become senile - he drove 30 miles to a nearby town and then denied it
His family have all disappeared off the scene
Obviously he is unfit to be driving - but denies that he has a problem
What should we do ?.



First thing i would stop him from playing football with the kids on the drive ,and then tell him his girlfriend looks a bit common in her mini skirt.:)

I am sorry - am I missing something ?
Please explain.......

wba31

Robisere wrote: »

I am 71, disabled and have driven for many years. In Army service I drove everything from tracked Armoured Vehicles to aircraft recovery artic's. However, when the time comes that I believe I am no loger fit to drive (and I will know) then I will inform Motability and the DVLA myself. I was a workshop foreman and I well remember my 78 year old neighbour, whom I had known since childhood, coming up to the garage, parking up, and handing me the keys. "Sell it for me: I cannot stand driving today, traffic is beyond me."

We moved some years after that, but I also remember the old guy next door to me at the next house, who was 81 when I would have been around 62. He was a very dangerous driver, drove at 25 to 30 and was regularly on the wrong side of the road. He was also a deeply unpleasant old git, everyone disliked him. I knew he was going to cause an accident sooner or later and everyone else seemed to think it was someone else's problem. I phoned his surgery and asked for an interview with his GP, I told him that I understood patient confidentiality but was afraid that he was going to cause an accident and possibly injure an innocent party. The GP addressed my concerns by basically telling me it was none of my business. I next went to the police staion, who could do nothing until something happened. I made them make notes of my concerns, by saying that I would inform a solicitor that I had been to them.

The old git grew increasingly more erratic; finally he atttacked a lady neighbour who would not let him into her house. She locked him out and then phoned me, I went across and he attacked me. I could not hit him, so I picked him up and pushed him onto the grass, then we sent for the police. Still nothing was done. Then he did cause the road traffic accident I was dreading, by driving around a bend on the wrong side of the road, head on into a car with a family inside. 3 were injured, and as you might expect, the old git got away without a scratch. That opened the floodgates; next day the police interviewed myself and others, taking statements. Eventually the old git went completely bananas, was diagnosed with dementia, classified as dangerous, and placed in a special Care Home, where he died.

Now, before I am criticised for my attitude regarding the old git, let me tell you that he once had a family, marrying late in life to a widow with two daughters, one of whom had learning difficulties. One of the older residents here told me that, many years ago, the old git had attacked this girl and tried to throttle her. The family left him and he grew bitter and twisted, blaming everyone else for his own behaviour. When I moved next door, I tried to help him several times, but his erratic behaviour meant that I could never know how he was going to be from one day to the next.

So it does not matter who you tell about the old man you posted about, OP: no one wants to know, until something bad happens and an innocent party suffers the consequences. The best that you can hope for is that he falls of his perch before too long. Brutal? Yes - but true.

My parents know someone currently awaiting sentencing for a death by dangerous charge (failed to stop and hit and killed a child on a pelican crossing) after his own adult children had been asking him to consider being re-assessed to be safe for driving.

MY advice would be report it via the link posted earlier in the thread and hopefully someone will take note...