My son teacher who is now a senco called my son an idiot fuming???

RuthnJasper

Hard to comment without having the other side of the story. But reporting the teacher to Ofsted immediately wasn't appropriate.


It's hard enough for teachers in some schools (I am not a teacher and don't work in education) without threats from the pupils themselves or their parents threatening physical violence and/or career-damaging actions at the slightest provocation.


I would have been 100% certain of what happened, rather than the report of another (presumably also 13 year old) child, before I even thought of contacting Ofsted.


More worrying is that your son is too scared of you and of being embarrassed to confide in you.

martinthebandit

RuthnJasper wrote: »

More worrying is that your son is too scared of you and of being embarrassed to confide in you.

I had the same thought.

OP do you always over react to unsubstantiated claims?

I suspect you are going to need to do some serious apologising, your over reaction has made it into a very serious issue.

pollypenny

Was he behaving like an idiot? It happens, you know.

LadyDee

Whatever the teacher called your child (if it actually happened), I feel desparately sorry for your son. He'll be the laughing stock of his schoolmates, at 13 having mummy kick up a stink, if they get to hear of it.

If you hadn't gone storming in like a mother tiger on the sayso of another child, you could have perhaps encouraged your lad to ask to speak to the teacher concerned in private, and explain to the teacher that she had made him feel uncomfortable by calling him an idiot and could they "start again".

I'm sure the teacher would have looked on this as being a very mature response by a 13 year-old, rather than the hysterical over-reaction that you displayed.

Total nonsense. Are you raising a young man or a wimp?

wazza99

Break out the cotton wool......

MothballsWallet

LadyDee wrote: »

Whatever the teacher called your child (if it actually happened), I feel desparately sorry for your son. He'll be the laughing stock of his schoolmates, at 13 having mummy kick up a stink, if they get to hear of it.

If you hadn't gone storming in like a mother tiger on the sayso of another child, you could have perhaps encouraged your lad to ask to speak to the teacher concerned in private, and explain to the teacher that she had made him feel uncomfortable by calling him an idiot and could they "start again".

I'm sure the teacher would have looked on this as being a very mature response by a 13 year-old, rather than the hysterical over-reaction that you displayed.

Total nonsense. Are you raising a young man or a wimp?

Well, the OP's got a 100% chance of being a Social Justice Warrior (SJW)...

NCC-1701

Having worked in a school I know how idiotic some teenagers can be, if it starts to become habitual they need to be told even if it embarrasses them in front of their classmates.

SpammyTheSpammer

Does your son fall into the "Special Needs" category or is he just a regular teenager
(not sure how anyone can tell the difference frankly...

Mr.Generous

Do 13yr old boys ever behave badly?
Do children tell lies sometimes?
Has your son ever been called names before?

Perhaps you could consider that there is a faint possibility you have been told half a story, and with a slant put on it to get you to react.

I hope your son gets over it, not being called an idiot - he wasn't upset enough to mention that - YOUR embarrassing reaction!

If my mum had done anything like this is I'd have wanted to crawl under a stone and hide!! How do you think he feels at school among the aspiring to be mature classmates when mummy kicks off with everybody to protect him??

Your trying to do what you think is best, that's obvious. Try and remember your own school days a bit more. Ask your son what HE wants!!

SpammyTheSpammer

savebackdate wrote: »

... He was handing in his work to the teacher who was talking to someone from school leadership team and she just called my son an idiot. That's shocking to be said that in front of a senior teacher who now thinks my son an idiot...

So, someone from the "school leadership team" was present when this alleged event occurred. Did this person acknowledge the event, i.e agree that the culprint was an idiot, or did they reprimand the teacher/support your son?

Sounds a bit to me like they agreed with the assessment.