Employee Came onto me

xapprenticex

ringo_24601 wrote: »

You go to HR to protect yourself from anything else that might be coming. OP did the exact right thing in terms of telling his wife right away.

Things might fade away, but what happens when he refuses her advances on the next work night out?

If he has another works night out drinking alcohol with that woman then maybe he's asking for it.

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Bogalot wrote: »

Hopefully he'll learn from this that staff and alcohol do not mix.

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TBagpuss wrote: »

What she did was inappropriate and unprofessional. IT may cuase difficulties in future and OP is right to be concerned.

Whats professional about an after-works-hours night out drinking alcohol with staff? Who is saying OP is wrong to be concerned?

Solution, dont go out drinking alcohol with staff if you cant handle to potential consequences of doing so!!!!!

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bugslet

Bogalot wrote: »

Hopefully he'll learn from this that staff and alcohol do not mix.

I've got 23 staff, I'm female and all but one of the staff are male. I'm not about to not go out with them at Xmas.

If one of my lot said that, I'd tell him he was a to$$er the next time I saw him and that'd be that. Maybe it's easier dealing with truck drivers.

xapprenticex

Its true that work and alcohold does not mix, doesnt mean you SHOULDN'T do it, just means you a have to accept what can come with it without running to Mommy/HR when things go wrong under the influence of alcohol. Without the alcohol that harlot would have kept her mouth shut and kept it to herself.

We go out for drinks and will be doing so this week again, but we accept what may come with it and tbh its usually hilarious. And yes, people hitting on others and the awkwardness that comes with it is quite common, and people dont try to get each other sacked for it.

Dont get me wrong, if someone is getting physical agaist your will then yeah, deal with them, but if its a drunk pouring their heart out then do you really need to involve HR or get them sacked lmao/

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Bogalot wrote: »

Hopefully he'll learn from this that staff and alcohol do not mix.

Hopefully SHE will learn not to get !!!!ed and come on to the boss

It's her problem, not his.

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ringo_24601 wrote: »

Hopefully SHE will learn not to get !!!!ed and come on to the boss

It's her problem, not his.

if it wasn't his problem he wouldn't be here disusing his problem would he?

daytona0

TBagpuss wrote:

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The thing which bothers me the most is the fact that OP didn't feel it necessary to contact the police RE: harrassment.... They are your go-to peple if you are being harrassed in a public place!

Seems a bit snide to then go on and make a big deal out of it at work, when it wasn't bad enough to warrant the correct action (contacting police) being taken.

Instead of creating further possible embarrassment I would simply have an informal chat with said woman and leave it at that. No warnings. No file notes. No threats. No speaking to HR.

Life is too short to become embroiled in such hassle at work!

If the worst thing to happen to you at work is some woman trying it on with you then happy days! :beer:

getmore4less

Solution is have Xmas evening works events with partners.

All our Xmas "works people only" were lunch time with the afternoon off.

bugslet

getmore4less wrote: »

Solution is have Xmas evening works events with partners.

All our Xmas "works people only" were lunch time with the afternoon off.

Not saying you aren't right, but out with a group of women last week and we all said that we hated going to our other halves Xmas dos.

TBagpuss

daytona0 wrote: »

The thing which bothers me the most is the fact that OP didn't feel it necessary to contact the police RE: harrassment.... They are your go-to peple if you are being harrassed in a public place!

Seems a bit snide to then go on and make a big deal out of it at work, when it wasn't bad enough to warrant the correct action (contacting police) being taken.

Instead of creating further possible embarrassment I would simply have an informal chat with said woman and leave it at that. No warnings. No file notes. No threats. No speaking to HR.

Life is too short to become embroiled in such hassle at work!

If the worst thing to happen to you at work is some woman trying it on with you then happy days! :beer:

Would you say the same had it ben a male staff member harassing a female one? I think it is perfectly possible for something to be inappropriate, and to give rise to disciplinary issues in a work environment, and not to want to take it as far as involving the police.

There are plenty of kinds of behviour which are not appopriate and which would result in your employer giving you a warning which are not criminal.

yes, OP could have cotnacted the police if he felt it appropriate, but the fact hedidn't want to do that doesn't mean that the only other option is doing nothing. I think an informal warning, and something on the personel file just in case it happens again is a reasonable and proportionate response. Quite apart from anything else, this time it was OP who was the victim, who is, if I understnad it correctly, the owner of the business. Another time it could be another employee - it's both reasonable, and sensible from the perpective of managing risk, to deal with it through the context of the internal diciplinary process.

getmore4less

bugslet wrote: »

Not saying you aren't right, but out with a group of women last week and we all said that we hated going to our other halves Xmas dos.

If a place cant do a decent enough do that the OH want to go then they should not bother and just do the long lunch afternoon off and don't have your employees waste one of their own nights.