Stuck in a dilemma

Missw

Pollycat wrote: »

Have either you or the other boy's parents involved the school in this matter?

The school were not happy about meditating in this situation, and so we gave them permission to give her our phone number to we could deal with it directly.

Missw

gt568 wrote: »

I would tell them to Phuck off!

That was my immediate thought, however if the same happened to my child, I know I'd be after a replacement item too.

Missw

teddysmum wrote: »

I'm sure that the police can't punish you as your son is a minor, was not under your supervision (ie was at school ) and did not act because of your negligence.


Has the school been approached about the fact that the other boy has been harassing a number of pupils ?

The school are aware.

He's already had to have 3 pairs of glasses replaced due to other children just having enough of him. So understandably she's more than annoyed at the cost of replacing items.


( As I mentioned, it is SEN school, all the children have some degree of emotional/mental health issues, fight or flight mantra - not excusing there/my son's actions btw )

peachyprice

I think the parents are being fair in saying they'll accept a secondhand model as presumably it's wasn't brand new so they're not after betterment.

One thing to bear in mind, this is a SEN school, it's all very well saying he shouldn't have had it in school, but it's quite possible it was the only way the parents could get the child to school.

Lots of concessions are needed to be made with SEN children that just wouldn't be acceptable in main stream schools, which is kind of the point of them really.

peachyprice

gt568 wrote: »

I would tell them to Phuck off!

Nice. not

Knightsuntold

No wonder the school have washed their hands of this - two special needs children in their care, and this happens? Where was the teacher? The school has a duty of care towards your child. How do you know that the 3ds was in the bag and it was definitely your child that damaged it?

I've got to be honest, I'd be asking a few more questions before I agreed to pay for anything. It might even be worth contacting the CAB, or a solicitor that gives free first advice to find out where you really stand with this.

barbarawright

Missw wrote: »

The school are aware.

He's already had to have 3 pairs of glasses replaced due to other children just having enough of him. So understandably she's more than annoyed at the cost of replacing items.


( As I mentioned, it is SEN school, all the children have some degree of emotional/mental health issues, fight or flight mantra - not excusing there/my son's actions btw )

If the kid who had the 3ds (what is a 3ds?) damaged has also had three pairs of glasses broken by other children, then it doesn't sound as clear-cut a case of *him* being the bully as you seem to think. Remember that your child is going to be making the best case for himself

pphillips

The police won't be interested as this is a civil matter and the other parent could sue either the school or your child or both your child and the school in the county court for the cost of repair or, if it can't be repaired, the cost of a similar replacement. Bearing in mind that your child may not have the means to pay, they would probably just sue the school.

Missw

barbarawright wrote: »

If the kid who had the 3ds (what is a 3ds?) damaged has also had three pairs of glasses broken by other children, then it doesn't sound as clear-cut a case of *him* being the bully as you seem to think. Remember that your child is going to be making the best case for himself

Oh I'm fully aware of that. Lol.

In this instance the child was winding up my son in class.
My son is allowed to ask for a pass to go walk up and down the hallway to calm down.
He was then unsupervised, which is when he got the child's bag, and proceeded to kick it around.

I've had everything confirmed by the school. Who are bloody brilliant with knowing the inner workings of my child.

My child does not instigate, he does however react. ( All proven/wrote in his statement etc )

I've had it confirmed by the police, that it is a civil matter, so for now I can stop worrying about her threats, and will replace the console at my earliest convenience.

It's not a nice thing to happen. And I do not condone my child doing what he did.

Edit: a 3DS is a handheld Nintendo console

maman

Pollycat wrote: »

Have either you or the other boy's parents involved the school in this matter?

Missw wrote: »

The school were not happy about meditating in this situation, and so we gave them permission to give her our phone number to we could deal with it directly.

I'm usually one for sticking up for schools which are often unfairly criticised on these boards BUT on this occasion I think they're very wrong to wash their hands of the problem.

It's probably too late now as you've chosen to get involved but IMO they shouldn't be mediating they should be handling the issue themselves. Yes, your boy shouldn't have been kicking the bag and it's up to the school to apply sanctions for that. If they have a system in place where children can go out into the corridor unsupervised then they have to take responsibility for what happens when children behave badly.

I'd be amazed if the police had any interest at all in what happens inside school that's for the school to deal with.