How much do you spend on your adult children at Christmas?

Dird

74jax wrote: »

One is enough.:rotfl:

Then I guess the only alternative is for DD to become Mrs Dird :money: better make that 2 apples

Marvel1

As the adult child £0, if I want something I get it, not sure how much they spend on younger sibling, partner and grandchildren.

Trazy

I have spent about £200 on my adult son and about £100 on his partner.

I haven't finished shopping for my granddaughter yet, last year I spent about £500 but I'm hoping to spend less this year

OldMotherTucker

ska_lover wrote: »

I spend around £200 ish. I do buy practical presents, but some treats too.

My parents, after years of buying for us, have seized buying presents over the last few years and I am relieved they did as it was an unnecessary burdon for them now they are getting on in years a tad

Ceased?

It's stressful - the last thing I wanted my MIL (the Last Grandma) to do was race around spending her WFA on gifts for the sake of it It was exhausting for her to keep up with what everyone liked or didn't like and we were just happy to see her - not even necessarily on Christmas day. Her family roasts were legend and her pride and joy was having us all round the table!

In later years she couldn't cope with the noise and chaos so our traditions changed.

I'm an aunt to 16 of her 19 grandchildren and an ever increasing number of bio/non bio great grand children. I can barely remember their names let alone identify some of them in FB pictures!! I'm not buying them each individual gifts and neither do I want 16 impersonnal gifts in return. what a waste of time and resources!!!


The older we get, the more mindful we become about how time is spent - not money!!

tea_lover

Kim_kim wrote: »

I think Christmas presents should be just for children really.

I don't. There's only one child in our family, and she's now well into her teens. I love buying presents for my parents and sister and know they enjoy it too. We all spend a good few hundred, none of us would ever go into debt.

AylesburyDuck

Kim_kim wrote: »

That's something else I'm inclined to do differently - spend more on birthdays & less on Christmas.

After all there is only one to buy for on birthdays - plus they are people's special days.

I can understand that, non of my sons and daughters however feel the same about their Birthdays as they do Christmas so this is why we maybe do it differently.

AylesburyDuck

Kim_kim wrote: »

I'll be honest I don't add up what I spend on my two grandchildren, I don't make sure I spend the same on both or set a budget.

I just get what I think people (all of the recipients) will like.

Dangerous, if they are old enough to notice cost differences they will and then you get into a sticky situation if they play the favourites card, IE you like "insert name" better.
Now i know full way it's NOT the way it should be , but more often than not its the case.

SingleSue

£40 each for my children (18 - still at home, 20 - at uni, 23 - at uni). They don't have partners so no spend there.

My parents have a strict budget of £15 per their adult children and the same for their partners and £20 per grandchild (I have a set budget of £5 per niece or nephew)

I don't have a partner/husband/boyfriend/significant other, so I don't have to worry about that section either!

maman

OldMotherTucker wrote: »

Ceased?

It's stressful - the last thing I wanted my MIL (the Last Grandma) to do was race around spending her WFA on gifts for the sake of it It was exhausting for her to keep up with what everyone liked or didn't like and we were just happy to see her - not even necessarily on Christmas day. Her family roasts were legend and her pride and joy was having us all round the table!

In later years she couldn't cope with the noise and chaos so our traditions changed.

I'm an aunt to 16 of her 19 grandchildren and an ever increasing number of bio/non bio great grand children. I can barely remember their names let alone identify some of them in FB pictures!! I'm not buying them each individual gifts and neither do I want 16 impersonnal gifts in return. what a waste of time and resources!!!


The older we get, the more mindful we become about how time is spent - not money!!

WFA?


Agree that it's time rather than money (for which I'd often substitute 'stuff') that's important. I'd prefer a day out or to have friends and family round for a meal over any gift set of smellies someone bought last January in Boots sale!

DD265

I'm not actually sure what my parents spend/spent. I dare say it used to be around the £300-400 mark - largely dependent on how well Dad had done at work in a given year. Circumstances are different this year as my parents are divorcing; Dad moved abroad, and my sister has also moved out (I got my own place last year) plus Mom is selling the now ex-family home to downsize.

In the past couple of years, as a family we agreed to focus more on birthdays but haven't specified a value for Christmas. Last year we all flew out to my grandparents so the cost of that ate into what we all might've spent.

OH and I have set a cap of £50 to spend on each other for Christmas but birthdays remain unlimited. I'd like to agree a set cap with other family members too but suspect that will be easier said than done.