How much should I be paying rent to my Mum?!

gettingtheresometime

Our son pays us £250 a month - that includes food though he will buy bits & pieces now and again.

If £600 per month is the new going rate I might have to look at increasing his rent lol

FBaby

As asked already above, is your mum working and how much does she earn? Really, what it comes down is that she certainly shouldn't be charging you such an amount that she is left with more disposable income than you. If the issue is debts, then again, that shouldn't be for you to pay towards it.

Pollycat

My initial thought is that the amount the OP is being asked to pay plus what she is already paying for is too high.

BJV wrote: »

Does your mum work?

Tammykitty wrote: »

Does your mum work?

FBaby wrote: »

As asked already above, is your mum working and how much does she earn?

^^^^ A key question that the OP needs to answer if further replies are to be of any use to her.

Stevie_Palimo

Can only mirror others posts on here with the fact that your mother seems to be taking the mick with you.

I would only ever believe that a rate of 20% of the wage they earn be considered towards the household bills and anything more is taking liberty's, If I were you I would look to move in with your father and but only after seeing what amount he would want.

breaking_free

Hi again OP.

I'm sure that by now you have read all our posts and are probably feeling both hard done by and apprehensive in equal measure. Apprehensive because you will have to sit down with your mum and have a difficult conversation.

You *might* consider showing your mum this thread, but only if she completely refuses to accept that she is overcharging you. If she does read this thread it is likely to put her back right up ("What would those strangers on an Internet forum know! They don't know anything about me at all!" - cue incandescent rage)

I find it really difficult to accept that any parent would let their child subsidise them to the degree that you are doing, but clearly your mother has no problem with it at all. Based on her complete lack of awareness that her position is completely wrong I don't think that she will have a light bulb moment when you bring the unfairness to her attention. No indeed, it's more than likely that she'll be angry at you for pointing out that you are being massively overcharged. Then again, only you can predict the likely outcome.

In your shoes I might feel so uncomfortable that I'd not have that chat at all. Instead, armed with the knowledge that you're paying more than enough to live completely independently I'd do just that; move out of mum's home and into a flatshare with other young people. You can afford to do this and will probably save money.

I wish you all the best in whatever you decide to do. (HUG)

Pollycat

After re-reading this thread, there's some interesting bits of information that's thrown up some questions.
The OP moved in with her Mother after she and her Dad split up.
So how much was she paying for rent, bills etc previously?
How much better or worse off is she after doing what I think is a very kind thing to help her Mum?

She's also bought furniture and appliances for this new place.

Why did she move without discussing what her contribution to the household would be?

sooty&sweep

Hi

What are the monthly costs for the house ? Rent, gas, electric, water, council tax etc etc.

How much is your mum contributing ? What is your mum earning ?

Personally I'd work out the running costs for the house & then agree a split.

Jen

badmemory

Pollycat wrote: »

After re-reading this thread, there's some interesting bits of information that's thrown up some questions.
The OP moved in with her Mother after she and her Dad split up.
So how much was she paying for rent, bills etc previously?
How much better or worse off is she after doing what I think is a very kind thing to help her Mum?

She's also bought furniture and appliances for this new place.

Why did she move without discussing what her contribution to the household would be?

I think we need to remember that the OP is only 20. She was probably thinking oh poor Mum how awful for her. My son (who is way older than the OP) pays half of household expenses. BUT, and it is a big but, when he was paid min wage or unemployed (made redundant 4 times) he paid a lot less.
I just worry that mum is very bitter & can't get back at dad so is taking it out on the OP. Have you discussed this at all with dad by the way? His intervention would no doubt make the situation worse but he does know the personalities involved.

Pollycat

badmemory wrote: »

I think we need to remember that the OP is only 20. She was probably thinking oh poor Mum how awful for her.

All the more reason for her not to be ripped off by her Mother.

Lily-Rose_3

Hannurh wrote: »

So, after my Mum and Dad just seperating, I've had to move in with her due to the fact my Dad is in debt. Anyway, I have a full time job and the wages are range from £950 to £1,000 a month. My Mum is asking me to pay £150 a week, which sadly won't leave me with alot of money. I took it upon myself to pay for Broadband and the line rental on top of the £150, plus buying my own food as well as public transport because I don't drive yet but I'm not sure if this is too much or just right?
Update:

I pay for my own food,
I pay for Broadband + line rental,
£375 a month altogether for gas, heat, electric

£150 a week? :eek:

No, that is far too much.

And you have to buy your own food too? And pay for broadband? !!!!!!? :huh: