Need a shoulder to lean on...

Kynthia

I find your posts offensive with distasteful views. You've not helped at all.

Men who love their partner don't cheat and repeatedly lie to and betray that person because they don't stay as attractive as when they first met or go through a few months of being unwell. If a decent man was unhappy with a relationship he would wait if it was temporary, talk to his partner to try and fix things, or eventually end tge relationship. Cheating and lying is not excusable or in any way their partner's fault. The OP said they were drinking too much not that they were drinking all day or when they were alone with the baby. Someone's idea of too much may be a lot less than what you're accusing them of, and we have no info to believe the other parent isn't present with the baby when this occurs.

OP, you are exhausted, at a very vulnerable time in your life, and have been betrayed again and again by the person you are supposed to be relying on greatly right now. It's not your fault this is happening and your husband is treating you appallingly. He has lied again and again and damaged you and your relationship each time. You need to rely on friends and family for support and not alcohol or spending money you don't have. Telling them will help you more than these other false crutches will. Your GP will help you if you tell them how you are feeling as it could also be post natal depression for which there are things they can do and there's no shame in having this medical condition.

I personally think you are better off without this man who repeatedly betrays you and hurts you so much but I can understand if you don't want to make such a big decision yet. Being alone is better than being with someone who destroys you. Hopefully the counselling will help you get the best outcome for you.

paddy's_mum

Quite apart from the obvious risks involved with the drinking, you might want to consider putting an immediate stop to it so that your husband has no opportunity to start minimising the damage his behaviour has done by pointing a finger of blame at yours.

With so dishonest and juvenile a 'man' as this one, give him NO OPPORTUNITY WHATSOEVER to play tit for tat.

It's a dreadful position to be in and I wish I could wave a magic wand for you. Good luck.