Nursery Fees

MrsF34

I'm not seeking anything. I have read all the emails that my husband sent to them and I'd rather they had pulled my children out then be left with a £4K debt that will ultimately be left to me. Im not a scrounger and have always paid my own way. I'm not expecting not to be let out the debt, I just feel that they should have informed me sooner. I do fully understand my husband is at fault.

marliepanda

MrsF34 wrote: »

I'm not seeking anything. I have read all the emails that my husband sent to them and I'd rather they had pulled my children out then be left with a £4K debt that will ultimately be left to me. Im not a scrounger and have always paid my own way. I'm not expecting not to be let out the debt, I just feel that they should have informed me sooner. I do fully understand my husband is at fault.

They were chasing and talking to your husband. You don't know if he told them things in person which made them decide to keep you out of it. Maybe he told them you were ill, which is why money was tight enough for him to not pay them for months and months.

Most companies would not think 'ooh lets inform the wife as well, I bet she doesn't know.' They may not have wanted to embarass you whilst picking up your children by saying 'yeah about this 4 month overdue bill...'

The issue is between you and your husband, not you and the nursery.

You used their service. You need to pay them.

Then you need to work on your trust, honesty and finance issues with your husband.

lush_walrus

MrsF34 wrote: »

I'm not seeking anything. I have read all the emails that my husband sent to them and I'd rather they had pulled my children out then be left with a £4K debt that will ultimately be left to me. Im not a scrounger and have always paid my own way. I'm not expecting not to be let out the debt, I just feel that they should have informed me sooner. I do fully understand my husband is at fault.

If thats true then I would suggest you take them out now so that you can clear your debt without more accumulating costs. I presume as you are happy for them to have been taken out at the start of the debt you are able to look after them and work without the Aid of a nursery so they were there for socialising only.

MrsF34

They weren't there for essential childcare reasons. A part actually was to be around other children as they don't have that day to day. Notice had been given before I found out as they are both starting school nursery after the October break. I guess I would have found out then. The first repayment is on Monday.

theonlywayisup

MrsF34 wrote: »

They weren't there for essential childcare reasons. A part actually was to be around other children as they don't have that day to day. Notice had been given before I found out as they are both starting school nursery after the October break. I guess I would have found out then. The first repayment is on Monday.

That sounds like a good way forward if you no longer want to pay for care.

Be thankful the nursery have given you a plan for the arrears, after all this is money that should have been paid. Without knowing the financial situation you/your husband are in it's impossible to comment but, the fees were due, should have been paid and were not.

MrsF34

My husband is being evasive but we were in a comfortable enough position to be able to afford to pay the nursery and now to pay the arrears. Thanks

LilElvis

MrsF34 wrote: »

My husband is being evasive but we were in a comfortable enough position to be able to afford to pay the nursery and now to pay the arrears. Thanks

If he's being evasive then it is imperative that you check that all other bills have been paid and find out what he has done with the money which should have been paying the nursery fees.

LABMAN

MrsF34 wrote: »

My husband is being evasive but we were in a comfortable enough position to be able to afford to pay the nursery and now to pay the arrears. Thanks

Then pay them and move on. You got the service so pay...simple really!

pinkshoes

You need to aim all your anger at your husband.

If the nursery had contacted you regarding this, it would have been undermining your husband. They had no reason to doubt that as a couple you were fully aware of this. Why wouldn't you be??

If my husband didn't tell me about such a debt, I would be furious at him!

I hope the two of you manage to sort this out, and perhaps it would be advisable if you held the purse strings for a while?

marliepanda

MrsF34 wrote: »

My husband is being evasive but we were in a comfortable enough position to be able to afford to pay the nursery and now to pay the arrears. Thanks

Well £700 a month has gone somewhere, otherwise you could pay off that £4k in one go rather than making the nursery wait even longer for their payment...