silent treatment

skintmostofthetime

Hi... has anybody dealt wth 'silent treatment' ... where your partner for whatever reason decides that they are annoyed with you so merely ignores you ... or insults you if they do speak ?
Had this for sometime and whilst I can read all about it being for obssessive or narcissistic people actually DEALING with it is hard. Any useful suggestions please.

dealer_wins

Get a new partner!

OldMotherTucker

skintmostofthetime wrote: »

Hi... has anybody dealt wth 'silent treatment' ... where your partner for whatever reason decides that they are annoyed with you so merely ignores you ... or insults you if they do speak ?
Had this for sometime and whilst I can read all about it being for obssessive or narcissistic people actually DEALING with it is hard. Any useful suggestions please.

Ohh - sounds horrible!

They are not able to express their anger and it sounds like your SO wants to hurt you or punish you for something . .

Ask them if there is a reason for this behaviour because you'd like to resolve it. Gently state that you don't like being treated like this!!

Li0nhead

Have you tied talking to them?

Li0nhead

Have you tied checking if your partner is still alive?

Marisco

Li0nhead wrote: »

Have you tied checking if your partner is still alive?

:rotfl::rotfl:

martinthebandit

My first wife was a champion sulker, my advice is .........


Second wife's are sooooo much better.

Mrs_Arcanum

Just carry on as if they are not sulking, even if you have to mentally fill in the gaps where they are not speaking.

If they cannot learn to articulate their problems, you have to remind them you are not a mind reader.

Stevie_Palimo

You can view the plus side here whereby you are getting peace from the situation, Whilst living in silence is not a great thing to deal with in some cases it will be better than full blown rows, Then when things are back to normal explain that the silent treatment hurts more so than discussing like an adult, If this fails to work after a few times then addressing the fact that you with this person is a must with a view to move on perhaps.

Oakdene

I'm awful at going silent if there is something on my mind or if I had a row with my partner. My last partner used to take me out for a walk somewhere as she knew getting me out the house would get me to talk & say what was wrong.

Marisco

Stevie_Palimo wrote: »

You can view the plus side here whereby you are getting peace from the situation, Whilst living in silence is not a great thing to deal with in some cases it will be better than full blown rows, Then when things are back to normal explain that the silent treatment hurts more so than discussing like an adult, If this fails to work after a few times then addressing the fact that you with this person is a must with a view to move on perhaps.

TBH I'd prefer a good old humdinger then it's over and done with, than something dragging on for days. My ex could be like that at times, I just used to ignore him and crack on