If you were me, what would you do?

missbiggles1

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Ooh...you never know....:rotfl:

You know you're getting older when younger men are no longer "giving you the eye":rotfl:

But the basic principle I go by is of getting my house together in a way that will work (as far as possible) for anyone - and no-one would ever know an old-er (in a few years time - old) person lives there iyswim. Age gets few concessions from me personally:rotfl:

The same way as I was urging my parents to rip out the bath in their bathroom and have a decent shower cubicle instead (of the perfectly ordinary/any agegroup would have done type) and they would have had a perfectly standard "no-one would have known the difference" bathroom - that would have been a sight easier for them to use if anything (else) happened to their health. Cue for the fact they did rip out the bath and put in shower cubicle I'd been urging them to - but it was after the event (ie hip replacement) and they had to have it done as an urgent job and put up with neither outgoing bath or incoming shower just when it was most problematic to do so. Duh! Always wise to ensure a bathroom is future-proof - but inconspicuously so if you think the way I do:rotfl:

But, within your own home - why?

moneyistooshorttomention

missbiggles1 wrote: »

But, within your own home - why?

Well - I hope I'll continue to have friends visiting in my home.

But - call it pride, vanity, what you like....

Same reason my elegant mother can't be persuaded to use a walking stick. She knows/I know/etc it "doesnt make sense" at one level - but she still wants to look like "her" and I can't say I blame her - even whilst I'm urging her to do so and telling her there must be some stylish ones out there somewhere. She is an elegant little lady and used to be very pretty in her youth - so I understand.

I think basically that I personally am all too well aware just how my mood would "swing straight down" and I'd have distinct problems getting it back up again - if I could manage to do so at all. Personally - I'd find it incredibly depressing/constant reminder/etc to have any visible signs of illness around. I've got rid of temporary personal "supports" I've had before now for temporary illness - as it was just too depressing to have that reminder/visible sign of illness. I know...I know... but some of us think that way...

missbiggles1

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Well - I hope I'll continue to have friends visiting in my home.

But - call it pride, vanity, what you like....

Same reason my elegant mother can't be persuaded to use a walking stick. She knows/I know/etc it "doesnt make sense" at one level - but she still wants to look like "her" and I can't say I blame her - even whilst I'm urging her to do so and telling her there must be some stylish ones out there somewhere. She is an elegant little lady and used to be very pretty in her youth - so I understand.

I think basically that I personally am all too well aware just how my mood would "swing straight down" and I'd have distinct problems getting it back up again - if I could manage to do so at all. Personally - I'd find it incredibly depressing/constant reminder/etc to have any visible signs of illness around. I've got rid of temporary personal "supports" I've had before now for temporary illness - as it was just too depressing to have that reminder/visible sign of illness. I know...I know... but some of us think that way...

And, when they do, the majority of them are likely to be of your age and will probably welcome the fact that you have a downstairs loo/stair lift/raised toilet seat or whatever for them to use.

You need to get away from equating aging to illness - unless you go before your time (never a good thing) you will get old and pretending to be younger than you are is rarely a pretty sight.

moneyistooshorttomention

There's a lot of subjects for discussion there in just one post Miss B.:rotfl:Starting with "never a good thing to go before your time" :huh: - but we'd better leave that for another thread.

lisa110rry

I am 60 and live at number 36 with my husband, who is 69. At number 6 a lady lives who is a good twenty years older than me. We often meet walking our dogs along the same lanes. We can walk for miles, tiring our rather elderly dogs. My husband, on the other hand, would not be able to walk from our home to hers and it's just a normal lane with side-by-side, mostly substantial semis with the odd detached. For that lady and myself, the moral is, keep moving, something my husband did not do. When he had his ankle replaced in 2006, he just stopped walking, although the op was a resounding success. I remember saying to him "if getting no exercise causes you to have severe heart disease in ten years' time, won't you wish you had worn out that ankle a bit more?" Turned out to be exactly the case, but only took two years to happen.

(The lady at number six looked so elegant in pastel culottes walking to church on Sunday.)