Letting someone down gently

catoutthebag

Hi. I've been on a few dates with a girl, but don't think she's my type. She seems to like me saying, as we kissed (which just kinda developed) 'youre such a fit and good looking I didn't think you'd like someone like me' and when I disagreed she said 'you are, you're beautiful man'. Asking if I had anymore dates and wanted to meet again.

Is there a polite reason and way to let her down gently? She's nice, but I can't just settle for nice. I hate thinking im a heartbreaker

ellesbellesxxx

I think you are being very gentlemanly by letting her down gently.. Too often I hear of "ghosting" which is so harsh! Or fob offs like " I am really busy at the moment but why don't we meet up in a few weeks" it's like that scene in Sex and the City where Burger tells Miranda.. If a guy is into you, he is booking the next date.

I think something along the lines of "I don't think we are compatible" is worded gently Enough.

catoutthebag

Yes I've had those fob offs from girls. So I don't really want to do the same.:o

LKRDN_Morgan

Be a real man and just stop texting her

No seriously there is no easy way of doing it. If she likes you the rejection is going to sting but she'll get over it. Be honest with her (but not brutal!) I think we're better off as friends, I think you're great blah blah blah

And do it quickly. The longer she thinks it's going places the harder it will be

DUTR

catoutthebag wrote: »

Hi. I've been on a few dates with a girl, but don't think she's my type. She seems to like me saying, as we kissed (which just kinda developed) 'youre such a fit and good looking I didn't think you'd like someone like me' and when I disagreed she said 'you are, you're beautiful man'. Asking if I had anymore dates and wanted to meet again.

Is there a polite reason and way to let her down gently? She's nice, but I can't just settle for nice. I hate thinking im a heartbreaker

Don't worry about it, you won't be the 1st or last.
I'm still trying to get rid of one from weeks ago and tried the straight out with it and insult method which still hasn't worked

gt568

Text her this:

Dear Baby, Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you.

Works everytime.

smartpicture

The most important thing is to be clear, and final. Nothing worse than leaving someone hanging and wondering and waiting.

baby_lemonade

catoutthebag wrote: »

Hi. I've been on a few dates with a girl, but don't think she's my type. She seems to like me saying, as we kissed (which just kinda developed) 'youre such a fit and good looking I didn't think you'd like someone like me' and when I disagreed she said 'you are, you're beautiful man'. Asking if I had anymore dates and wanted to meet again.

Is there a polite reason and way to let her down gently? She's nice, but I can't just settle for nice. I hate thinking im a heartbreaker

:rotfl::rotfl: :T

AylesburyDuck

You wernt drinking coffee in Cafe nero yesterday was you.
A mate overheard someones first date
He said he wasnt going to lie that he knew he was good looking ect but he liked to give girls like herself a chance.
He also said he was looking for a traditional virgin but you couldnt be choosey these days.
She had to leave because they overheard her laughing and clocked it was him she was laughing at.
:rotfl:

PeacefulWaters

"I'm afraid you're just no right for me".

Job done.

Detroit

catoutthebag wrote: »

Hi. I've been on a few dates with a girl, but don't think she's my type. She seems to like me saying, as we kissed (which just kinda developed) 'youre such a fit and good looking I didn't think you'd like someone like me' and when I disagreed she said 'you are, you're beautiful man'. Asking if I had anymore dates and wanted to meet again.

Is there a polite reason and way to let her down gently? She's nice, but I can't just settle for nice. I hate thinking im a heartbreaker

If you're a fit, good looking, polite and beautiful man who won't settle for nice, you must have loads of experience of this already.

Dude, you should be giving tips to us!:)