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moneyistooshorttomention

LellSasha wrote: »

I was left her jewellery in the will...unfortunately after her will was made her jewellery was take and pawned by the boys barring the earring she was wearing...I received those earrings. silly me didnt lock those earrings away and both the earrings from my mum and pendant from my dad were taken from my jewellery box early this year before all the other problems began...

Do you have any evidence you could use to have them done for that theft?

On another tack - you talk about your mother, awful brothers, distinctly biased uncle. Do you have any more "normal" relatives still alive? What about your father - was it a divorce or did he pass on a while back? Some fathers can be very fair-minded - and protective...;)

BTW - get all your paperwork well away from your awful relatives too. It would add insult to injury if they found a way to take out a loan in your name or raid your bank account or something. They've proved they are capable of anything. What about your computer - might they work out your passwords? Do you do online banking?

LellSasha

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

If the washer, dryer and fridge-freezer are mums - then divide by 3 and one of those is rightfully yours. I'd be wondering whether to remove whichever of those 3 came to a one-third of the value as well.

You'd better have company with you when they come round on a "seek and destroy" mission.

In hindsight it might have been better to keep quiet about being battered by the brother until this had all been sorted - and then find a way to pay him back (cause him to lose his job/tell his wife about any unfaithfulness you knew about/etc). But I cant say I blame you for speaking out at the time, rather than doing "Revenge is a dish best served cold" - as I'd probably have lost it and Told The World at the time myself.

Fingers crossed for you - and I must confess I'm surprised people don't seem to be being more helpful considering what your brothers did to you.

When this is all sorted out one way and another - do come back to the thread and say how it all finished up. I'll be hoping you will come back to say "All my possessions safely protected and one-third of mothers and I got the house".

I had people with me the last time they came I was being looked after due to being bed bound it made no difference the execs have say over the possessions I have no leg to stand on if I cant produce receipts...theyll be there only to console me as they chip away at my emotional state...

Id tried my hardest I endured days of being locked in my room with only the food and drink Id managed to sneak while he was sleeping. I ran the risk of being beaten if I got caught heading to the bathroom. I gave my job up because I couldnt explain why I couldnt get to work..in the end I became quite used to living that way until he started hurting my dogs and I couldnt do anything to protect them..he allowed me out of the house to go searching for a dog he knew had been taken by the dog warden hours before...a came back heartbroken and with a friend i begged not to come back with me. there were drug dealers everywhere and I had broken the rules so he made sure I knew who was boss and beat me all over the stairs in front of these people as Id tried to run to lock myself in my room . It was my friend who called the police but the previous phone calls from before I agreed to keep quiet in order to keep the mortgage application were stacked against him and this was their final straw.

my plan was to take it until our joint mortgage as siblings had been accepted and then I could continue seeking help again but as seen as he did it with witnesses again it was out of my hands and so he halted the mortgage application and the sale mess began..

so many people are helping me mums friends my friends etc an thats how Iv come to be where I am at. I got myself a simple job to get my confidence back and Iv been helped towards going down routes to keep the house..in all fairness this thread is making me want to give up..I highly doubt I will be coming back with that result now..

missprice

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I should've added, "without permission" but I did say that a legal arrangement was needed.

Also not true, my grown up kids live in my house and i live elsewhere no legal documents regarding that. Also no rent paid or required

LellSasha

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Do you have any evidence you could use to have them done for that theft?

On another tack - you talk about your mother, awful brothers, distinctly biased uncle. Do you have any more "normal" relatives still alive? What about your father - was it a divorce or did he pass on a while back? Some fathers can be very fair-minded - and protective...;)

BTW - get all your paperwork well away from your awful relatives too. It would add insult to injury if they found a way to take out a loan in your name or raid your bank account or something. They've proved they are capable of anything. What about your computer - might they work out your passwords? Do you do online banking?

I have no living older relatives. My father passed when I was a teenager. Grandparents also deceased and I am the eldest of all my siblings both maternal and paternal...I have 2 great families as friends and a mother from one and a father from another are doing their best to help (the brokers and lender have helped them buy countless properties all over the UK and abroad so I feel in self hands...
I know it sounds like you couldnt make it up but in all seriousness I reckon I could write a book!
No the police came over the missing jewellery but because I couldnt give them a time/date of when it went missing (i just came across them missing whilst looking for a ring) the couldnt really go anywhere with it. All MY valuables are now out of the house and stored in a friends safe. Paperwork is also out of the house the only things I have with me of risk are a laptop and phone but they do not know the passwords for either..

moneyistooshorttomention

If you dont come back to the thread - and I wouldnt blame you (after some of the responses you've had) - then I would be pleased if I got a PM from you some time saying that you've been able to get things sorted out well and, hopefully, that "life is good".

fingers crossed.

EDIT; Don't know what type of job it is that you've found for yourself. But - if it's an office job - then maybe you have some lockable desk drawers you could store your laptop in. A druggie (ie your brothers) is quite capable of stealing anything they think they might get a bit of money for - or just to, quite deliberately, be nasty to you. I'd keep that laptop at work - or at a friends place.

Cakeguts

LellSasha wrote: »

I had people with me the last time they came I was being looked after due to being bed bound it made no difference the execs have say over the possessions I have no leg to stand on if I cant produce receipts...theyll be there only to console me as they chip away at my emotional state...

Id tried my hardest I endured days of being locked in my room with only the food and drink Id managed to sneak while he was sleeping. I ran the risk of being beaten if I got caught heading to the bathroom. I gave my job up because I couldnt explain why I couldnt get to work..in the end I became quite used to living that way until he started hurting my dogs and I couldnt do anything to protect them..he allowed me out of the house to go searching for a dog he knew had been taken by the dog warden hours before...a came back heartbroken and with a friend i begged not to come back with me. there were drug dealers everywhere and I had broken the rules so he made sure I knew who was boss and beat me all over the stairs in front of these people as Id tried to run to lock myself in my room . It was my friend who called the police but the previous phone calls from before I agreed to keep quiet in order to keep the mortgage application were stacked against him and this was their final straw.

my plan was to take it until our joint mortgage as siblings had been accepted and then I could continue seeking help again but as seen as he did it with witnesses again it was out of my hands and so he halted the mortgage application and the sale mess began..

so many people are helping me mums friends my friends etc an thats how Iv come to be where I am at. I got myself a simple job to get my confidence back and Iv been helped towards going down routes to keep the house..in all fairness this thread is making me want to give up..I highly doubt I will be coming back with that result now..

So when exactly were you a student again? Where did you live before 6 months ago when you said you moved into this house?

Cakeguts

missprice wrote: »

Also not true, my grown up kids live in my house and i live elsewhere no legal documents regarding that. Also no rent paid or required

Not the same you are still alive to give permission.

LellSasha

AdrianC wrote: »

After her will was made... but before she died?
If so, then can you prove it wasn't a gift from her to them? Because that's what they'll claim.

If it was after she died, then can you prove it? If so, then it's theft.

yes before she died..they admitted it but mum was too poorly to do anything about it and nobody pushed her cause it wasnt a priority at the time. She was dying and she was my priority..

LellSasha

Cakeguts wrote: »

So when exactly were you a student again? Where did you live before 6 months ago when you said you moved into this house?

I was a student and working PT up until the DA kicked in..
my course tutors allowed me to complete work offsite to care for my mum and continued this once the DA kicked in too...I rented my own property prior to moving into my mums house 6 months before she died...

LellSasha

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

If you dont come back to the thread - and I wouldnt blame you (after some of the responses you've had) - then I would be pleased if I got a PM from you some time saying that you've been able to get things sorted out well and, hopefully, that "life is good".

fingers crossed.

EDIT; Don't know what type of job it is that you've found for yourself. But - if it's an office job - then maybe you have some lockable desk drawers you could store your laptop in. A druggie (ie your brothers) is quite capable of stealing anything they think they might get a bit of money for - or just to, quite deliberately, be nasty to you. I'd keep that laptop at work - or at a friends place.

I am going back into my usual profession of mental health in a secure hospital nearby..My laptop goes everywhere with me its only a tiny thing and Im always having to create stuff I cant do on my phone ..thank you I hope to get back to you with good'ish news xx