saving now I am single!

mrs_baggins

Guess it's a case of having too really! No there is no longer 2 incomes but just mine it is making me take all kinds of cost cutting measures. I really feel the cold and I think by now my heating would be on but now when I get cold i just put on jumpers and a pair of socks and when I get really cold I go to bed.

Food is the one thing I have to cut down on for thrifty rather than weight reasons. Its probably not a brilliant diet for a long period but i now cant be bothered with cooking and seem to survive on porridge for breakfast lunch usually a sandwich and tea is sometimes weetabix , special K or toast and marmite!

I still have Sky but the minimum channels as I rarely go out and my mate the Internet of course. Clothes shopping is a bit slow as well at the moment but I am not really missing them.

The plus side of living alone is that the washing machine goes on a lot less and I am using a lot less water to the extent they have reduced my direct debit by almost half.

Hopefully finances will not be so dire soon so I can get myself the odd treat but dont feel hard done by at the moemnt as I see it as a challenge.

Rikki

When you find yourself living on your own, it can take a little while to get into the swing of things.

After a while it will become so natural you won't even realise.
Unless you forget and end up putting on three jumpers and two pairs of socks. :rotfl:

lindsaygalaxy

At first I hated living on my own( well plus a 2 year old), but now ive learnt to love the independance. Money is a lot tighter, nd have to stay in pretty much every evening as no other half to babysit, but its ok. I now cant imagine living with someone else, things are done my way, when i want to!

mikegould

Sorry your struggling, I also live on my own, It does become easyer as you get into the swing of things, I'm sure all the people on this site will give you great help and advice over the coming months and years, your not alone, and as Lindsaygalaxy says, you'll get used to your own company, most people think they need someone in there lifes, as long as you've got friends who understand your on a budget you'll be just fine.

Ps get yourself in the debt free wanna be area, there a great bunch and i'm sure you'll learn loads.

Mike

mrs_baggins

thanks guys!!! think I am a bit of a recluse anyway as I prefer to stay in! if I go out I am great for the first 1.5 hours then after that I find it all gets a bit too much and just start thinking about a nice cuppa. Think I am turning into a right grunpy old saddo!! ah well never mind. I have always got the internet and the hamster for company!

pink_poodle_queen

Think of the money you will save now you are living on your own and not going out and perhaps having to go 'Dutch' or pay for your partner?!

I was living with a partner for 12 years, we split at the end of last year. My partner spent lots of MY money (stupidly I had a joint account, credit cards etc) yet my partner never worked all the time we were togther; I have always worked. Anyhow, since we split, I can do what I want, when I want and although I hated it at first, I am now starting to get used to it. The best thing is, I now spend oodles of time at work doing overtime and can if I want too as there is no-one moaning about it when I get home. Whilst at work it means I don't have to heat my home, have lights on, have the TV on or mope around at home alone all lonely! As a result, I have paid off a £1000 joint bank account overdraft in just a few months so have now been able to close it, have paid off my car loan, and paid off several other 'smaller' debts. So, every cloud has a silver lining ....... if I was still with the ex, I would be in worse debt now not in a reduced debt situation following my Lightbulb moment earlier this year ...... the Lightbulb moment would never have happened if I had stayed with the ex! :j

Good luck and think of all the positives and benefits x

Garnet_Gem

Keep your internet. It's great when you want to "talk" to someone but don't feel like socialising. If you don't want to cook at the moment, then don't. You're in charge of you. Great feeling isn't it?

GoToGal

mrs_baggins wrote: »

thanks guys!!! think I am a bit of a recluse anyway as I prefer to stay in! if I go out I am great for the first 1.5 hours then after that I find it all gets a bit too much and just start thinking about a nice cuppa. Think I am turning into a right grunpy old saddo!! ah well never mind. I have always got the internet and the hamster for company!

Join the club sweetie - always thought I'd grow old disgracefully, not curled up with a cuppa and a hobnob!

can I start the homebodies club then?

blackwidowz

I split from my husband of 22 years last night and i am worried how to cope, i do work but he paid all the household bills.
Reading these threads and posts are a help it shows i am not on my own and it should get better.
As for not going out, i never did anyway, i can now take my 5 year old out more without his dad moaning.

pink_poodle_queen

Good for you Blackwidowz. It may seem hard and scary at first, but we are all here to help if you want .... just ask! It will get easier and just keep reminding yourself if you are having a bad moment why you split from the hubby and how now you can enjoy yourself as you are your own person and can have lots of good times with the 5 year old without, as you say, the hubby moaning!

Well done you ....... and good luck with being a 'Singleton', I've never looked back, it has given me a new lease of life and much to be positive about despite the initial fears :j

mikegould

Hello, as you can see mrs baggins, its not all bad, its the future, I've got friends who say to me, i'd hate to be single, and dont you get bored on your own. Its something you get used to, Your now able to do what you want, when ever you want to, money and work permitting.
There's nothing wrong with snuggling up with a brew. I'm 32, live in a nice house with my Border Collie, live could not be better

Another problem with relationships is, nice people always come of worse. ( were all nodding )