Ex opened my mail & tried to bank cheque.. What can I do?

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

So how many kids are there here? 4 or 3?

redpete

mrswack wrote: »

I have asked my solicitor regardless, I was just hoping for some advice really as a call to the police isn't and wouldn't be on the cards.

You've said you want justice but won't involve the police, what outcome are you expecting?

Several people have explained quite reasonably why you won't get legal recourse but you reject this as not 'constructive', just because answers don't promise what you expect does not make the answer unreasonable.

meer53

If the account is overdrawn he wouldn't get access to the money anyway, plus if the account is in dispute it will have been frozen by first direct so there's another reason why he wouldn't be able to get to the funds. I can't see what you want your solicitor to do ? Give him a telling off ? It's a bit petty really.

maman

I think you'd be better placed getting your solicitor to sort out the finances in general rather than stressing about this particular issue. It could be that the PPI refund is part of the overall money to be settled.


Hope the vent did you good.

FBaby

So yoy je a hint account that you cent close because it's overdrawn and has been so for at least one year. Some money comes in that you didn't expect and therefore didn't bank on to help you pay your bills. Your ex decides to put it in that account so that maybe it could then be closed and you could separate your financial matters. Sounds to me like he was acting very sensibly so it does make you wonder why you are so outraged by it.

dawyldthing

Because that's her money and if the joint account is overdrawn then both should pay half of it off, but if he isn't paying maintaince then he needs to be contributing, whereas this cheque could help her keep going while waiting for the ex to pay up

gRoberts

You should leave this to your solicitor. What ever money comes in now such as this, could be seen as a joint asset and split accordingly. Surely if he received a lump sum, you'd expect your share of it.

Simon_c_2

There's two perspectives, legal and moral.

Legally (IANAL) I think the money is as much his as yours, as you're not divorced yet.

Morally, (IMHO) he should not have opened your post. But also, morally (assuming the miss-selling that resulted in the refund happened while you were together) then that money is as much his as yours.

Any debts/overdraft ran up after you separated is (morally, IMHO) yours. Any debts/overdraft ran up while you were together is (again morally, IMHO) joint.
Legally (again, IANAL) everything (debts and money) is jointly both of yours, until the finances are dealt with in the divorce.

It does sound like you're both battling each other, rather than trying to worth together to find a solution that will let you finalise your divorce quickly, and move on with as little ongoing conflict as possible. It's damn hard (I've been through it) and each of you will feel very hard done to both financially, emotionally, and morally. Each will have your own perspective about why any resolution either agreed, or imposed by the courts is "Wrong", and truth be known, it will almost certainly be wrong on one respect or another as there is never any easy "right" answer to these situations.
Try hard to think of the kids, and think about the situation from both your ex's point of view, and with your ex's mentality to try to understand all sides. If you can both do that, it will be quicker to move past it all and therefore better with the kids.
Sorry if this sounds patronising. And I know from personal experience how hard it is to make that work, and how much one feels taken advantage of because you're thinking of the kids, and the ex seems not to be.

Good luck !

Rain_Shadow

Guest101 wrote: »

Which law?

The Things That I Don't Agree With Should Be Made Illegal Act 2013.

Guest101

Rain_Shadow wrote: »

The Things That I Don't Agree With Should Be Made Illegal Act 2013.

So many sections to that Act!