Please help with Childs name change?

dacdesigns

From what I can gather we can never change the birth certificate as that's what it say's on the tin a certificate of birth. We are fine with that, we are not massively upset about the school register although thought it was worth bringing up because I had read that you can just start using a new name and schools and doctors would have to start using it without question and we would only have need for any official document when the kids needed a passport or driving licence.

So to apply for a Passport for my Children in my partners name I first need to use one of the Deed Poll services like linked above to have the name changed?

EDIT: I think we will just go with the Goverment one as that seems the most legit service. thank you!

TBagpuss

Yes, you can call yourself (or your children) wahtever you want, and no formal change is needed.

You and your partner should do a joint letter to the school, signed by both of you and stating that you two are the childnre's parentsand the only people with Paretnal Responsibility and that the children are to be known as [new full names] .

The school may ned something formal for any exam certificates but for day to day usage provided that both parents have authorised the change there is absolutely no requirement to have a Deed.

Do the same with their GP etc.

In terms of a change of name deed, you don't need a formal deed poll, you can do a simple change of name deed and then apply for passports etc.

If you don't plan to paya solicitor to do a deed for you then I'd suggest that you look for a template and use that - it will be worth then getting certified copuies done so that you don't have to send the original off eveytime you need to update something.

Guest101

dacdesigns wrote: »

From what I can gather we can never change the birth certificate as that's what it say's on the tin a certificate of birth. We are fine with that, we are not massively upset about the school register although thought it was worth bringing up because I had read that you can just start using a new name and schools and doctors would have to start using it without question and we would only have need for any official document when the kids needed a passport or driving licence.

So to apply for a Passport for my Children in my partners name I first need to use one of the Deed Poll services like linked above to have the name changed?

EDIT: I think we will just go with the Goverment one as that seems the most legit service. thank you!

Deed poll is one 'service' the rest are form filling services. You pay them to print the forms, filled out.


Whoever told you that is incorrect. Organisations, such as schools, can choose to use alternate names, but they aren't obliged to.

Jox

Children can be cruel and can find something mean to say to anyone, whether it is to do with name, appearance, their parents etc - changing your children's name won't stop children saying nasty things. How did you manage growing up with your surname?

AnotherJoe

Jox wrote: »

Children can be cruel and can find something mean to say to anyone, whether it is to do with name, appearance, their parents etc - changing your children's name won't stop children saying nasty things. How did you manage growing up with your surname?

I've read some daft comments here but that takes the biscuit. You might as well say "dont change it as it wont stop them punching him".

It certainly will stop kids saying nasty things about the name which is the point ! Presumably the OP had a terrible time and doesn't wish that on their children?

An ex-colleague of mine did this many years ago, surname was Loo, he changed it to Low for exactly the same reasons, I think his son was around 2 or 3 at the time didnt want him to endure the hassle he had at school.

fairy_lights

I'm really curious about what the surname in question is now
Cockburn?

fairy_lights

Floxxie wrote: »

I'm confused too.

So you want the children to have your partner's surname and not yours? I'm not sure how that will change anything.

I was married but never changed my name. My children have their dad's surname.

Well by the sounds of it OP and his partner didn't really think it through and gave their children his last name, but now regret that decision and would like to change it to her less embarrassing name.

Jox

AnotherJoe, I've got a ridiculously long surname and was made fun of for that and various other things growing up, I'm married but have kept my silly long name, I've given my son my husband's much shorter name but I'm sure when he starts school kids will find any excuse to say something mean, it's what kids do and my son may do the same to other kids.

dacdesigns

The reason for giving my family name was more out of respect for my dad, we just thought it was the right thing to do at the time. My partner didn't tell me it was worrying her because she didn't want to upset me, because I didn't feel that it was much of an issue when I was growing up.

I have been there with my son when other children have had a laugh about it and it made me rather upset to be honest.

dacdesigns

Jox, I agree fully that kids will find something no matter what but at least it won't be my surname haha