Money Moral Dilemma: How much rent should I pay my parents?

Pollycat

MSE_Nick wrote: »

This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...

It should perhaps be noted that since the majority of replies to the original post said the OP was wrong, she hasn't been back to the board - that was on 27th July and on page 2 of a thread that has reached page 18.

So I doubt this Moneysaver wants advice at all - she's already had plenty, she just didn't like the advice she got first time around.

tastyfish wrote: »

Are people really asking why this has been taken from a post hidden on another board within the vast MSE forum and highlighted as a moral dilemma in the weekly email which has exposure to millions of subscribers?

Look, if people dont like these dilemmas then please dont comment. The rest of us are bored of your whinging.

And your contribution to this 'dilemma' is.......?
Maybe instead of just whinging about 'whingers', you could post your viewpoint.

Pollycat wrote: »

It doesn't matter how frugal you are.
I think if you stick around on MSE you'll find lots of people who are much more frugal than you are - because they have no choice about it.

The point is that your Mum has given you a figure that she thinks is reasonable.
It will leave you with 60% of your monthly pay.

Actually, I think you should go back and read your own first post.
It really does smack of entitled-ness.

I think you posted on here expecting the majority of people to agree with you so you could take it as ammunition to bargain your Mum's £50 per week down.
It's not worked - it was never likely to - because the £50 pw is fair.

This ^^^^ was one of my contributions to the original thread - and I have no reason to change my opinion.

janiebquick

In my day, the going rate for board and lodging was half of whattever you brought home, so you are underpaying IMHO.

Pollycat

sez655 wrote: »

I live with my BF, have done for a year. When I moved in his parents took us along to a lawyer & got me to sign to say that I wasn't entitled to any money etc from the house as he had paid the mortgage for 6 years. I understand this, but I did say that I will only pay the bills, nothing towards to mortgage. We calculated at the time that the bills came in at approx 200ish. It was agreed that I pay 200 a month & put £50 into a "food allowance" which he also does. I added an extra 10 when I got a lizard so now pay 210. We have since recalculated & the bills are now approx 310. I'm thinking of giving him more... what do you think?? Suggestions of amount would also be appreciated. Thanks in advance! Sez

Sez
I suggest you start your own thread as your post is likely to get lost among the replies to the original post.

There's a 'New Thread' button on the left hand side, click on this and repost your question.

fairy_lights

tastyfish wrote: »

Are people really asking why this has been taken from a post hidden on another board within the vast MSE forum and highlighted as a moral dilemma in the weekly email which has exposure to millions of subscribers?

Look, if people dont like these dilemmas then please dont comment. The rest of us are bored of your whinging.

It wasn't a post 'hidden away on another board', it was on this board, last week, it went on for days and had hundreds of replies. It was literally picked apart in forensic detail and just about every regular visitor to this board will have seen it and contributed.
The topic was done to death and I really don't see what good bringing it up again is going to do, especially as now it's a 'moral money dilemma' none of the important details are included.
Not to mention, I'm sure the OP of the original thread doesn't want it going over again, as the responses didn't exactly go in her favour last time.

Mr5Micawber

It's a good few years since I was in your position but I gave my parents (well, basically that meant my mother) 50% of my net income as well as shopping/buying quite a lot of food (and cooking it!). As a result they were both better off and she, in particular, was better off than she'd ever been for those few years and thoroughly enjoyed her 'pocket money'. She went on to have an early widowhood and has had Alzheimer's for the past 10 years so I'm glad she was able to benefit from a bit of extra enjoyment during a happier time of her life.

silvercar

The purpose will be to attract a wider audience and bring people into the MSE fold.

It would be helpful if the threads were merged and the comments posted previously were included on this thread, otherwise there is the temptation to repeat ourselves.

paddy's_mum

The MMD is missing one vital fact. The OP states that she is offended that her parents prefer not to heavily subsidise her, so that she is able to put most of her money aside.

Here's an interesting point to consider; morally, who would the savings belong to? The parents or their daughter?

crmism

I assume you are working only part-time to be paid £100pw gross, or some 13 hours per week at minimum wage.

You have a choice - either you find a few other jobs to improve your financial situation, or you try and find a landlord somewhere who will feed and house you for less than £50 per week - for that's what your parents are doubtless doing.

You don't mention your age, but I presume you are an adult; if so then, by this time in your life, you should realise that you have to pay your way and not expect others to support you indefinitely.:(

Auntie-Dolly

Good grief woman, you are in your 30's!!! You stopped being a child a long time ago.

Pollycat

crmism wrote: »

I assume you are working only part-time to be paid £100pw gross, or some 13 hours per week at minimum wage.

You have a choice - either you find a few other jobs to improve your financial situation, or you try and find a landlord somewhere who will feed and house you for less than £50 per week - for that's what your parents are doubtless doing.

The OP explains her work situation here:

SparklyB wrote: »

With regards to my anxiety I've had various treatments over the years. Counselling, CBT and hypnotherapy. I found a very good hypnotherapist through the charity Anxiety UK.

Over the years I've learnt what my triggers are and how I can look after myself in order to keep myself well. Getting plenty of sleep, eating well, not doing too much so I get run down. My self-employed work is creative and I've found that the less time I have to be creative, the more depressed I get, especially if this is because I'm working more. Long working hours especially in retail jobs are extremely tiring (this is where I have the most experience so these are the jobs I'm able to get) and I've found realistically I can work about three days a week, possible four before I start to get run down and my anxiety starts to get worse. I can do short periods of time working more hours, I have done 12 hour days before but this isn't something I can do on a regular basis as I struggle a lot with it.

I am looking for jobs with more hours, but I'm also aware that I was looking for jobs for 10 months last year, applying and not having any luck. So I don't want to give up what I have so easily as it is a job and it's regular. There might still be a chance that I can get overtime here and there, which is why I thought maybe giving my parents a percentage of my wage would be better. Then when I get more hours, they get more money.

crmism wrote: »

You don't mention your age, but I presume you are an adult; if so then, by this time in your life, you should realise that you have to pay your way and not expect others to support you indefinitely.:(

The OP mentions she is in her 30s in the original thread.

All these points have been made to the OP in the original thread.
I doubt very much that she is coming back to comment further.