ESA medical cut short

Quirky25

I went for my ESA medical yesterday for OCD, panic disorder, BDD, depression and my bowel problems.

I was an absolute state. I couldn't look up from the floor, was shaking like a leaf, went through about 10 tissues, ran to the toilet because of my bowel 4 times in 10 times and I cried hysterically and that was just in the waiting room.

In the interview, my mum came in with me and I was in the same state as I was in the waiting room and the doc spoke a lot to her because I couldn't string a sentence together and then he looked at my file, psychiatric letters etc and saw that I have/had self harm and had suicidal thoughts and then he left the room to speak to his superior or something and came back a few mins later and said they could stop the interview and they had enough evidence and they were so sorry I had to go through this. I was literally only in the interview room for about 10 mins so now I'm panicking that I messed up the interview due to my nerves and bowel and I wont get paid as I have read that the medicals should be about 30/45 mins.

How long does it take roughly to hear a decision back from ESA? I don't really know much about ESA and I'm new to it. Do they notify you by text or call or is it just letter?

Thanks

TELLIT01

From your description of your state during the medical interview it would have been very apparent to the person doing it that they didn't need to go through the rest of the process. That would be why the appointment was cut short, not because they thought you were trying it on.
You will get written confirmation of the outcome, although that can take a few weeks depending on the area you live in.

Quirky25

Thank you

Bananas123

it sounds like they shouldn't have dragged you there in the first place >

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it can take up to months to hear back from them, so don't start "checking the mail" everyday (i am waiting to be called in for my WCA currently...)

but as it sounds like, as they should be awarding you the benefit, hopefully it will be alot quicker for you.

kind regards!

lovetowinacar

Hi - has this panic disorder come on recently?

How did the interview for the job go recently? Your recent post (June 2016) suggests that you were having a job interview and now you are such a state of panic a waiting room is too much. Are you a troll or is this a wind up or perhaps the panic, OCD has come on since posts of a month ago?

"Hi guys. A bit of hair history - been dyeing my hair since I was 12 and I am 24 now and I've been nearly every colour and for years, I used to use permanent ginger dye every month or so and then in January this year, I got my full head bleached. I ended up going back to ginger a little later and then 2 months ago, I used Adore Truly Red over the ginger and it turned out lovely. It did fade quite quickly though. Last week I decided to go back to my natural dark brown (or as close as I could get to it). I knew that getting rid of red is very hard so I was prepared for this. I used Adore Mocha as my mum had a bottle of that in the house and it went a nice reddy brown colour which was a nice colour to start with to get me used to being dark again.

A few days ago, I went over my hair again with the same dye and it came out looking super patchy. Some parts look almost black, my roots to the lengths that were bleached months before are a dark red and wont go any darker, big chunks at the back are very red, not just little strands and wont go darker no matter how much more adore I put on them and it just looks a mess overall. I've used Mocha 3 times to try and go over it. I read online that Mocha is a green based dye so it would neutralise the red tones but it hasn't with me. I've ran out of Adore and I can't buy it in any shops near me and I usually just buy it online but I have a job interview and a birthday night out next week and obviously want my hair to be fixed by then. Is this a job I could do at home or could only a hairdresser fix it?

If you could recommend any dyes that I could find on the high street like Boots or Superdrug that would be great. I assume I should avoid warm colours. I know some are obvious from the name that they are warm such as warm copper gold but is there a way to know a dye is green based or any other tone that could get rid of the red? Should I go for a lighter colour than I want in case it goes darker or go for a dark brown? I'm just worried about it turning out jet black as I really don't suit that! joy should I use a permanent or just stick to a semi permanent?

I was thinking of using Colour B4 so it would take me back to a lighter colour and then put a brown on top of that but I have been reading that it doesn't work on dyes like Adore, Manic Panic etc. I've used it in the past but only for permanent dyes.

Other posts suggest such a 'normal' life with the ups and downs we all face "I am getting a new car tomorrow and I still have my old Suzuki Ignis 2003 version. It does have a few faults such as the bonnet release wont work so you can't open the bonnet and I don't know how easily fixed that problem is and one of the back doors doesn't open from the inside. Its MOT runs out in July and I know it wont pass with those problems and I don't know if these are easy or cheap things to fix. Everything else with the car as far as I know is fine and in good condition. I also got new front springs on it about 6 months ago.

I'm just wondering if anyone would buy it with those faults or I am just better selling it to a scrappy. I've been told I could sell it for about £100/200 as spares/repairs but I don't know anything about cars so don't know what to do." but the medical made you panic so much that you had to leave.

lovetowinacar

TELLIT01 wrote: »

From your description of your state during the medical interview it would have been very apparent to the person doing it that they didn't need to go through the rest of the process. That would be why the appointment was cut short, not because they thought you were trying it on.
You will get written confirmation of the outcome, although that can take a few weeks depending on the area you live in.

Unfortunately, some people appear like this during a medical for ESA but also appear to have a normal life and function much the same as the rest of us - going off for job interviews without so much as a panic apart from concern of what colour hair to go with... job interviews are for most more stressful than a medical

Quirky25

No, I am not a troll or wind up. I was in therapy and my therapist recommended I go and look for voluntary work and I was given an interview. I then went back to my GP and they recommended I go to a psychiatrist instead and therefore quit therapy with that therapist and didn't have to go to the interview but still dyed my hair. As for a birthday night out, know where it was? My gran's sheltered housing complex. Some family and friends came and I wanted to look good.

Also, I don't drive. I own the car legally but my partner drives it. I only have a provisional and haven't had lessons for a while due to my conditions.

electic

OP, I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you received that response from lovetowinacar, and I hope it doesn't stop you coming back to the forum in the future. It's sad that some people assume that anyone with mental health issues cannot do anything interesting, or - God forbid - fun, with their lives, and instead sit sobbing 24/7.

Obviously we do sometimes get trolls on the forum, but we should be very careful before accusing someone who appears to be vulnerable, as getting it wrong could be really upsetting and prevent them seeking help in the future. Some people should focus on entering competitions for, say, motor vehicles, not accusing others.

Quirky25

electic wrote: »

OP, I just wanted to say I'm sorry that you received that response from lovetowinacar, and I hope it doesn't stop you coming back to the forum in the future. It's sad that some people assume that anyone with mental health issues cannot do anything interesting, or - God forbid - fun, with their lives, and instead sit sobbing 24/7.

Obviously we do sometimes get trolls on the forum, but we should be very careful before accusing someone who appears to be vulnerable, as getting it wrong could be really upsetting and prevent them seeking help in the future. Some people should focus on entering competitions for, say, motor vehicles, not accusing others.

Thank you. Its ok, its the risk you take when you post anything online that you'll run into a cynic or two. As hurtful as it can be to be called a liar, a fraud or whatever, I have nothing to hide and don't mind fighting my corner when I have to

densol_2

OP - your assessment sounds exactly like mine. I posted on here last year too about how short it was. I was given ESA support and heard about a week later. All the best

Miroslav

lovetowinacar wrote: »

Unfortunately, some people appear like this during a medical for ESA but also appear to have a normal life and function much the same as the rest of us - going off for job interviews without so much as a panic apart from concern of what colour hair to go with... job interviews are for most more stressful than a medical

Not for someone who is unwell and relies on needing support and understanding.

I think if my situation depended on the opinion of someone who can change my life for the worst, i'd be worried too.

Job interviews are a piece of cake on the other hand. Never once worried about one, in fact I enjoy them.

We can't really judge someones life based on a post on MSE and in any case, an assessment or the worry of one, can be a trigger for many.

It also depends on your definition of a 'normal life'.