Not speaking but how

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I'd leave him to make his own way there. Or once he got into the car, tell him 'right, the cab fare is £however-much-he's-stolen. And the only reason I'm doing this is for Mum's benefit'.

Cold, maybe. Justified? Entirely.

Although, if he's that dishonest, she might actually appreciate some time without him - I don't like the idea of a thieving git being in a hospital where there could be vulnerable patients with handbags/purses nearby.

Marvel1

Dill wrote: »

Might be worth taking the keys back off him so it doesn't happen again?

Did consider it, but I want them (also my Mum to have one in case of emergency etc

The hospital is a funny one, we have a hospital about 2 minute away by car and roughly 5 minute or just over walk, but it's useless - they don't do operations instead it's the one 14 miles away.

Money_saving_maniac

cjdavies wrote: »

Did consider it, but I want them (also my Mum to have one in case of emergency etc

The hospital is a funny one, we have a hospital about 2 minute away by car and roughly 5 minute or just over walk, but it's useless - they don't do operations instead it's the one 14 miles away.

You need to take the keys back. Otherwise it will happen again, because he's someone with either boundary issues or he's desperate, or he's got a gambling problem.

warby68

Oh dear

He is the one who has broken trust (in a big way) so you can set the rules - just say you will provide a lift to hospital for mum's sake and everything else is for another day.

Obviously there is some background here we don't know, but not sure I agree with not telling mum/sister - if he's stolen from his son, what's to say he won't do the same to them?

paddyrg

Are you close to your sister? She at least needs to know as she's possibly had stuff stolen too and if siblings can stick together it helps offset the strange parental power dynamic of divide and conquer.

Anyway, I'm not one for letting such a complete fundamental breach of trust blow over - I'm sure you're hugely angry and you can't pretend not to be, so yes you call all the shots regarding any lifts you OFFER. If Mum has had the op now, they'll want her home as soon as they can (not just need space, but good epidemiologically too! She's less likely to meet sick people at home than in hospital), so if he can bus it for a day or two then the problem will solve itself somewhat