Boost to go to a meetup tonight

Kynthia

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My 21 year old who has crippling shyness goes to local meetups and she has loved it, her first was a very cliquey indian meal and she came home in tears as they ignored her but she persevered and now goes out weekly and has made herself a little social life from it, small steps but good small steps, lots of luck x

I think it's worth giving these things three goes as it can take time, and take different activities and attendees, to break into conversations and see if you'll make friends.

Ilona

I used to run a singles club/dating agency. We had weekly meetings in a pub, or a meal, or bowling, a varied programme of events. New people would ring me first to ask how it works, some of them were so very shy and did not want to come by themselves. I arranged to meet them in the car park as they arrived, have a chat, and bring them into the group and introduce them to someone they could talk to. I was the meet and greeter.

It was amazing to see the changes in them, from the very shy, in a few weeks they would be chatting to everyone and be full of confidence. All it takes is a little effort to make the first move. Yes, I was invited to the first wedding, and there were more, people found partners, but the best of all was that people made new friends as well. It gave them a social life.

ilona

psychopathbabble

Look up Round Table and Ladies Circle too if there are any near you, it's worth going along. Socialising and fundraising!