what would you do?

Newdirections

husband has stated on a number of occasions that he wouldn't want to take more than 5k from a divorce as he is aware he hasn't put any money into the property or paid any of the 'mortgage' towards the property(granted, that might differ when a divorce starts). selling may be an option to think about.

Parents are not named on deeds at all.

Guest101

The husband is owed money from the property, so that needs to be addressed.


Either by mortgaging or selling

Person_one

Newdirections wrote: »

husband has stated on a number of occasions that he wouldn't want to take more than 5k from a divorce as he is aware he hasn't put any money into the property or paid any of the 'mortgage' towards the property(granted, that might differ when a divorce starts). selling may be an option to think about.

Parents are not named on deeds at all.

Then he needs to get legal advice too, if they've been married more than about 5 years its not about what they've each 'put in' its about what is in the marital 'pot' and how that can be split to best meet the needs of both after the split.

If the parents aren't on the deeds and don't have a charge on the house then they're about to find out the hard way that it isn't their house at all and they won't have any say over what happens to it.

Pixie5740

Unless this was a short marriage it doesn't matter if the property is only in the wife's name it will be considered a marital asset during the divorce. The pair of them hanging on to the property and letting it out will not allow both parties to move on.

Rain_Shadow

Newdirections wrote: »

husband has stated on a number of occasions that he wouldn't want to take more than 5k from a divorce as he is aware he hasn't put any money into the property or paid any of the 'mortgage' towards the property(granted, that might differ when a divorce starts). selling may be an option to think about.

Parents are not named on deeds at all.

That may well change when there is a real prospect of a five or six figure sum.


He wouldn't be the first drug abuser to lie in the cause of getting money.

TBagpuss

the marriage is clearly over, so it would be sensible for one ofthem to stat the divorce process.
If Wfe is able to raise £5K then that would (in most areas) be enough for husband to pay a deposit and 6 months rent up front to allow him to secure a tenancy somewhere, which then gives him 6 months to get himself together in terms of finding work so he can aford rent, claiming benefits if necessary etc.

He is almost certainly entitled to more than that. It may well be that short term, the best soluitin is to sellthe property - wife may be able to buy a different property with her share of the equity in due course.

Alternatively, if Wife is able to raise a lump sum of £5K she may be able to buy H out and then resolve her issue with her paretns directly. However, if she goes down that route it would be very importnat that she and H both get independent legal advice and sign a separation agreement, otherwise there would be nothing to stop him from claiming a further share of the property at a later stage.

But step one is to try to talk to each other - if both accept that the marriage is over then they can start to discuss how they resolve the other issues.

W is not responsible for H's addiction. H is not responsible for W's decision to cheat.

hazyjo

I also think he'll want more than £5k once he knows he's entitled to around half! If she pays him £5k, it must be done formally through her solicitor.


Jx

pigpen

I'd kick him out.. if I had to get a court order to get him out I would.. I'd speak to the police about his drug using and abuse and use that against him too.

Assuming the child the parents want to have the house is this couples offspring then she has good reason for not continuing to have him there... I'm fairly sure the courts would agree.

Guest101

pigpen wrote: »

I'd kick him out.. if I had to get a court order to get him out I would.. I'd speak to the police about his drug using and abuse and use that against him too.

Assuming the child the parents want to have the house is this couples offspring then she has good reason for not continuing to have him there... I'm fairly sure the courts would agree.

There is no actual child. The daughter is the 'child'.


No point getting authorities involved unless she's happy to have the affair public knowledge.

piglet74

I would put him out and start divorce proceedings