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Should I expose my colleague?

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  • unholyangel
    unholyangel Posts: 16,866 Forumite
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    The university wouldn't be in breach of DPA (as suggested by a previous poster) unless he was a student and they were disclosing information. The same way if you lied about working for a certain company, that company can respond that no one matching those details was ever employed by the company but if you did work there, will respond usually with nothing more than a statement to confirm that you did work for them.

    This is because there are exemptions to the DPA - such as for the detection and prevention of crime (such as fraud by false representation).

    As for OPs dilemma on whether to tattle or not...thats really only a question you can answer. If you just want to get back at the person then I'd say no as revenge often serves little purpose other than to escalate a situation. If however the degree is an integral part of the job (such being a qualified accountant, doctor, lawyer etc) then I would at the very least highlight my suspicions to a superior or HR and leave it for them to progress.

    In the meantime however, I might have a little fun talking (in front of the pillock in question) about this case I was reading about where the person lied on their CV and got 3 years in jail for fraud and could you ever imagine someone being silly enough to risk jail time by lying about something so simple to check up on.

    In my experience, when people repeatedly talk about something its because they feel you wont come to that conclusion on your own given the facts/reality. For example abusers & users will often repeatedly refer to themselves as "a nice person". Or how people post all the perfect parts of their life on fb but none of the imperfect parts. Its basically them compensating for the lie they know they're telling by them trying to drill it into your head as the truth. Its actually one of the tell tale signs someone is fibbing.
    You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means - Inigo Montoya, The Princess Bride
  • jetplane
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    Did your colleagues have an exit interview, were the bosses made aware of why they were leaving? If management are not dealing with him then your expose will make no difference and any satisfaction you feel could well be short lived.
    The most potent weapon of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed. Steve Biko
  • chesky
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    You say he doesn't know that you went to the university he claims to have been to. I wondered why you have never mentioned it in passing - if a colleague had been to the same uni or school as me, it would seem to be the most natural thing in the world to say so; these sort of details are what make up everyday life. When you first met you couldn't have known what kind of person he is, so why didn't you say 'oh, what a coincidence, I went there too'.
  • Brighty
    Brighty Posts: 755 Forumite
    edited 10 July 2016 at 10:25AM
    Is this not the plot of tv programme 'suits'?
  • anotheruser
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    You must have absolute proof he didn't attend there.
    You should also ask him for his photo, the one all Uni students have carrying the scroll. If he can't provide it, it's likely he didn't go. I don't know any Uni student who didn't get their photo done.
  • Callie22
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    You must have absolute proof he didn't attend there.
    You should also ask him for his photo, the one all Uni students have carrying the scroll. If he can't provide it, it's likely he didn't go. I don't know any Uni student who didn't get their photo done.

    I didn't and I know loads of people who also didn't. It was a total waste of money. I have a degree certificate (somewhere ...) and I went to my graduation, but I didn't bother with any of the pricey nonsense they tried to get you to buy - t-shirts, photo packages etc etc. Not to defend this person, but not having an official graduation photo isn't proof of anything.
  • Pollycat
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    You must have absolute proof he didn't attend there.
    You should also ask him for his photo, the one all Uni students have carrying the scroll. If he can't provide it, it's likely he didn't go. I don't know any Uni student who didn't get their photo done.

    But how does the OP suddenly ask his workmate for the photo without raising suspicion?
  • borkid
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    You must have absolute proof he didn't attend there.
    You should also ask him for his photo, the one all Uni students have carrying the scroll. If he can't provide it, it's likely he didn't go. I don't know any Uni student who didn't get their photo done.

    Out of my 4 family members only one has a photo of them with the scroll. All have the degree certificate though which I presume if a degree was necessary for the job would have had to be produced.

    Whenever I've applied for a degree level job I've always had to produce the original certificate.
  • hcb42
    hcb42 Posts: 5,962 Forumite
    So few jobs actually require a degree (or from a specific university) compared to the number of graduates there are.

    I have two degrees and a good job and my employer doesn't give a rat's tail about either degree!

    Checking up on him is weird, you need to concentrate on specific behaviours e.g. bullying, or move on

    I'm not advocating lying on CV is good, but it isn't your remit to catch him out here.
  • Detroit
    Detroit Posts: 790 Forumite
    You must have absolute proof he didn't attend there.
    You should also ask him for his photo, the one all Uni students have carrying the scroll. If he can't provide it, it's likely he didn't go. I don't know any Uni student who didn't get their photo done.

    I didn't. I didn't attend my graduation either.
    I was young, and if I remember rightly, it was against some misguided principles I held at the time.

    This isn't very viable anyway. I can't imagine any circumstance where you'd ask this of a colleague.
    I also still can't understand why this matters so much.


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