Stuck in a rut at 24

AnnieO1234

Deleted%20User wrote: »

"People who wonder if the glass is half empty or half full, miss the point, the glass is always refillable"

My brother physically lost his legs 9 months ago, he felt imprisioned for a little while, only his strength of mind kept him going, sometimes don't get it but like to think his snap life changing accident easily shown me to be grateful for what I have and be selective of prolonging the most miserable situations, not the ideal outcome I'd like for mustering positive vibes, but if you can think of yours as a fixable mistake experience that you don't have to remake and can only go to strength from, life can change in a heart beat x

I have never heard that before, the glass being refillable, but it's been a lightbulb moment. Thank you. Xxx

Thatsthespirit

peachyprice wrote: »

Is there any equity in the property?If there is enough make your 'travel' excuse a reality. You have a job you hate, no ties, go live a little, you might discover there is something you do want to do.

It drives me mad this British obsession of home ownership, there's a whole world out there to discover but our young spend 18-25 saving for a damn house doing little but work and scrimp, then they get the house and spend the next 15 years working and scrimping to pay of the mortgage, life in the meantime having passed them by.

Sorry for the late response but thank you all for your replies.

I haven't actually turned in to work today, anxiety has got the better of me. Could be over sooner than I think.

Would have between £5-10k ++ in equity but think it's time to move things forward now before I really do find myself in trouble.

I'm worrying myself which is making me worse, but only I can do something about it

19lottie82

Go travelling! Now is the perfect time to do it!

Why hang about "here" (wherever here may be), if there's nothing keeping you here?

d70cw6

get a job in investment banking. i hear they pay really well.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Rent the flat out. It's an asset and potential income source that many people twice your age are unlikely to ever have.

Charge enough so that you have the freedom to flat/houseshare with a few people - that way you'll be likely to come across opportunities for socialising (and possibly meeting somebody special, although that shouldn't be the sole aim, that could be something that simply happens once you're actually around more people in the evening). Go to cheap gigs, volunteer/take an internship, work at festivals, look at getting more qualifications, have a go at learning to play an instrument, do all the things you haven't got around to doing yet.


The most likely places for shared accommodation are town centres, where you're far less likely to need a car in the first place.


You don't need to be minted to have FUN. But you have something that could make it easy in a way very few people your age experience.



Optimists see the glass as half full, pessimists as half empty.

But realists see the glass as signalling it's time for another round.

pickledonionspaceraider

Dill wrote: »

Seriously? :think:

I really wish I was joking

Tygermoth

Wow. Pickled onion. Just wow.

All those people that fought in a war so you can feel all self righteous and tell people to buck up on the internet.

They must be so proud.

Hey op,

Please don't listen to the 'some ones got it worse, you could be dead or how dare you feel the way you do crowd' - life is sometimes like this - at 24 i had a stable job a comfy house and on/off relationship. I felt constricted - the feeling got worse and worse. I then self sabotaged my life and ran away from the massive fall out. Oh my word even though my life was in tatters and not a soul understood - I felt free.

I went traveling - came back got a crappy flat on a sink hole estate and worked in a shop. I met loads of people and kicked up my heels had a wonderful time and met some great people. From there i got another job one I was great at, met my OH and settled down. This time it feels right though, this time its a choice, not a rut.

This may not be the path for you (and with Brexit keeping your asset may be advisable) but i just wanted to say i have felt like you and if you want to chat feel free to PM me.

burlington6

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

how old are you, 12? You type as if you are with such little respect for the fact that people have given their lives in previous generations and if you do not see the direct correlation between those events then you really owe it to yourself to learn ringo. It makes you come across as ignorant to not give a jot about the heritage and history

why does the comparison cause you such offence that you feel the need to display your non existent manners?

Does it make you uncomfortable to have it so blatantly pointed out to you that some of current generation are so self entitled that they really have no idea of the real world, and what the previous generations have forsaken just some of the the brats of today can bleat about everything not falling into their lap despite having more opportunity than any other generation, like ever...yet they are still not happy with their lot and bandy about words like 'depressed' or 'stuck in a rut' before they have even learned to wipe their bottom?

If world war three broke out tomorrow - we would be in real trouble as a huge proportion of the young in our nation have no backbone. They are all queing up at the gp for antidepressants for not getting their own way in the eu vote - where their forefathers would have laughed their hairy balls off

unless they are being rude on the internet to complete strangers where there are no consequences, and then suddenly the balls are hairy after all

Generation Snowflake

pickledonionspaceraider

Tygermoth wrote: »

Wow. Pickled onion. Just wow.

All those people that fought in a war so you can feel all self righteous and tell people to buck up on the internet.

They must be so proud



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Unfortunately you appear to have completely missed the point in order to use it as an excuse to be rude. This behavior is not very adult and goes someway to proving my point.

'' ran away from the massive fall out.'' AKA 'not being adult enough to deal with the consequences and legging it'.


In light of the above, please explain why you feel you are an authority on lecturing folk about being proud?!

It appears to me that puberty seems to be lasting about 30 years these days

bouicca21

When I realised I was in a dead end (in terms of job satisfaction but not pay) I got myself some new qualifications.

Rent your place out. Get some counselling and do a lot of navel gazing. You need to sort yourself out as well as sort out your career options.