Brother wants to rent a room from us

ripplyuk

smile88egc wrote: »

As others have suggested, make sure it is for a fixed term to avoid squabbles/awkwardness!

That might be when the problems occur. What happens if he doesn't leave? No one wants to be evicting a relative.

silvercar

Doing it for a low amount with a fixed term agreed, is a way to avoid him out staying his welcome.

pixiedust09

Thanks for all your advice peeps, I need to discuss it in full with him but I personally don't think £250 is asking too much, he's not in dire need, and he does have a stable job, and regular wage, in fact with the overtime he also does every week he earns more than my hubby. I want to be able to help him out in order to give him the opportunity to become debt free and give him a deposit for his next place but the little bit extra each month will come in handy towards the bills. It will be a sacrifice having him move in, as I will have squeeze furniture all over the house in order to give him his own space.

We are quite close, especially since mum died and I do feel somewhat responsible for him. I agree we definitely need to set a time limit and go from there, my hubby doesn't have a problem with him staying as long as it's only for a few months.

Gigervamp

£250 sounds reasonable, but I definitely wouldn't do his washing! He's a grown man who is currently doing his own washing, so why should you do it when he moves in?

I don't even do my adult sons washing, that's their job.

Mojisola

Gigervamp wrote: »

£250 sounds reasonable, but I definitely wouldn't do his washing! He's a grown man who is currently doing his own washing, so why should you do it when he moves in?

I don't even do my adult sons washing, that's their job.

We've got adult children at home - whoever needs to do washing checks whether the others have got stuff that needs doing so that the machine isn't on for a few items.

We don't all do individual washes.

Gigervamp

Mojisola wrote: »

We've got adult children at home - whoever needs to do washing checks whether the others have got stuff that needs doing so that the machine isn't on for a few items.

We don't all do individual washes.

We do that too, but most of the time we all have full loads.

cashbackproblems

I personally would not charge family anything for a short time and friends are the same, how much of your leccy is he really going to use, sounds stingy/greedy to me

Mojisola

cashbackproblems wrote: »

I personally would not charge family anything for a short time and friends are the same, how much of your leccy is he really going to use, sounds stingy/greedy to me

Looking at it the other way, if you were working full-time and a friend or relative offered to let you lodge with them for a while, wouldn't you want to contribute to the household, both for the bills and the inconvenience?

brodawel

The less he pays you the sooner he should be able to get sorted. I wouldn't want to charge my brother more than £20 per week but It would be a short term thing to help him out. Having a long term arrangement would be unfair on my OH who would feel obliged to agree because it's my brother, but in all honesty my OH would hate it.

Edited to add, the £20 would include meals, if he wanted to eat with us then serving up another plate of food wouldn't add up to much.

pickledonionspaceraider

it is lovely you want to help your bro, it really is.

for me, It would be not about how much to charge, but having extra people in my home. family or not I would hate that.. all the little things people take for granted like going for a pee at 3am, I would get furious if I was woke by the toilet flushing every night

doing his washing? danger sign there as you are already taking ownership of bros problems but masking it off somehow as ''making life easier for you''

and having a child in the house? oh no no no no no nooooooooooo

there are days when I feel that ill, I cant make it to work and being forced to listen to what is regular kids noise or be forced to have kids tv on , I think no amount of rent money would cover this as for me, I would be a huge inconvenience and it would take me about ten minutes before I resented the situation

I realise this makes me sound less than sociable, but I am just being honest here, and the reality of living with someone in my home would not bode well for me