Hi

Primrose

Separation and divorce are very similar to bereavement so it,s not unusual that you will be going through all the same emotions. Yes, do try to keep busy and comsider taking a temporary job or part time volunteering to keep your thoughts positively focussed during the day rather than spending too much time alone. And before you go to sleep every night, remind yourself of the positive things that still exist in your life

I am sure things will turn round for you, probably when least expect it.
Just look at all of our politicians right now. They don't seem to be having much of a fun time either so remind yourself you are not alone !

Starrystarrynight1

Just because you don't feel ready for a relationship right now doesn't mean that you won't in future. I think you need to take the time to focus on yourself right now, start to work on your self esteem, and enjoying your own company. Have you thought about seeing your GP to discuss how you've been feeling? He or she might be able to recommend the appropriate help to get you started.

Ozzuk

Stop worrying about being in a relationship (easier to say than do), if you are lonely then go back to work, or look for stuff to do outside a work environment.

What hobbies do you have? I pushed myself to join the local meet up group, and made myself go on my own instead of dragging a friend along, best thing I ever did.

The more you build your own life, realising that you can be on your own the less it will matter - and the more attractive/interesting you will appear to the opposite (or same!) sex. You will meet someone, and if you are secure in yourself you are more likely to succeed in a relationship and hopefully avoid choosing badly because you want company more than you want the actual person.

Good luck and enjoy the fact you can do whatever you want to do, go wherever you want to go.

Oh and change your username to Awesome guy and start believing it.