ex and ctc, cb problem

Mojisola

hanstar wrote: »

He is really angry that I have not yet changed it over and everything always boils down to money and no real interest in the children.

hanstar wrote: »

I just thought this was a way that I would be sure he kept a roof over his head and for the children when they stayed

I feel safer knowing they are going to a nice house.

He's interested in the money; you're thinking of the children.

It's very difficult for the NRP but very few manage to hold on to a house unless they have a well-paying job. He will need to downsize and you'll have to come to some arrangement about when he sees the children and for how long at a time.

The usual starting point is every other weekend and one evening a week but you would have to be confident that they would be properly cared for before leaving them for a whole weekend.

Detroit

It is not fraud for a non resident parent to claim CB and CTC. As long as the benefits are only claimed by one parent for each child, you can choose who gets it.
The only time residence of the child is an issue is where parties disagree about who should claim
He shouldn't say the children live with him to increase his HB/ LHA rate. This would be fraud.

FBaby

If he is on ESA, I expect he isn't paying much child maintenance. So frankly, he should be grateful that he gets to have a close and regularly relationship with children he isn't supporting financially. He might be ill, so can't, but ultimately, if it wasn't for you or the state, he wouldn't be able to see his children much at all.

If you agreed on them seeing their dad weekly, then you should leave it to that for the time being. It isn't fair on them to yet have to face another change, and for him, if he is going to get better, he needs the stability of seeing his children regularly.

They do run check on Child Benefit, even more if someone was to report fraud, so don't take that chance. He would have to repay everything (at best) and you would be considered party to it as you would have taken the step to get it changed.

hanstar

I used the online service last night to put in a change of circumstance to say that the child in question would no longer be living with him. I will ring them today as well. I know his claim hadn't gone through yet although they stopped my child benefit a few weeks ago. so I have decided I will just pay him the rent shortfall ( £20 a week) from my own money to keep the roof over his head so the children have somewhere they consider home when they visit him. I am doing more than I need to but need to know my children are happy and in a good environment.

Diary

You've done the right thing. This would've been found out and the consequences of fraud are serious.

Please get some help from women's aid etc, your pain comes through in your posts. While your children are paramount you matter too OP.

kimplus8

Hi Hanstar, hope you are feeling better, how are things going now??
I hope you are remaining amicable and are working through things.
please post if you need any further support.
K+8