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hampydoodums

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

He's doing very well, thank you - he's gained half a pound, has been moved from his incubator in high dependency to a cot in the low dependency bit :T he's taking feeds from the bottle now too :j

I can't have cuddles though until he comes home, which isn't likely to be for another four or five weeks yet

That's a fab improvement QOC, bless him.

Savvybuyer

Really big hypocrite aren't I really? (If I may be permitted to apply such a term to myself:rotfl:. (It's not censored, I can imagine it could cause upset if directed at an individual, and that's where the system in a way fails as fails to prevent that, though I would hope that no-one would ever use it in that way. Gosh, I'm now putting a taboo on something:rotfl:. But I think it's already, in effect, how we would behave and in practice the restriction is already there.))

But I mean I'm a hypocrite in the sense that, even more than almost everyone else it seems, I behave in a totally different way in my home and then - whilst my friends behave (quite okay) in the same way as I do on my own at home - I behave differently, because of my own suppression of myself, and put across that I am a different person to the person I really am even in greater areas than almost everyone else in society.

I'm not polite and well-mannered - I'm as vulgar and crude as they come and even more so than many people (even though I don't know why it's seen as "vulgar" - objectively it's nothing). Although actually I am in fact polite as I don't go attempting to break any rules around others. But I am a completely different person, obviously, like I think we all are in different situations and there's no real pretence about that as we do really all know that to be the case, but I think even my friends may not realise what a different person I really am or would wish to be around them (without causing them any problems) but just, for some reason, can't make myself be the different person that I would like to be. Yes, I'd like to be swearing, like everyone else is, in the appropriate situations (normal conversation around friends of same age as me) but I just put onto myself something whereby I seem to have convinced myself that somehow I could not. Anyway, I would not want to go that all the time around others, because sometimes with Asperger's, tone comes out differently to what was intended and with words like that it can make such a difference. I've enough problem with that anyway - getting the right moment to say anything - and will just behave as I currently do. Not swearing (and I never imply any either) does not normally cause people offence - even if it seems very odd that I don't (or don't seem to, to those people whom I know in real life). Obviously, you could call someone a non-swearword insult and cause offence, but I wouldn't do that to someone unless obviously we were all joking and they knew (and everyone present else did) that that was the case.

Actually, I do swear, in front of my father, but not up to the top. He does though - yet despite that won't let me say the same thing as him. (And I'd like to point out that I have no problem with his doing so and that we are not in an abusive relationship. I have no problem with it.*) And, despite that, I even find the words I can say in front of him to still, in the past at least, have caused me discomfort when on the television sometimes (and always before 9pm) in front of him. Yet I watch movies with him with "worse" and everything and... no problem:huh:. I don't know - it's completely illogical - I think it's because "you wouldn't say that on the radio (or television in daytime)" even if you would or might do so in real life. So, it's the broadcasting standards actually that have caused this problem for me:rotfl:. Though those standards deriving from the public generally including myself. I don't agree with those standards at all now though:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:. (But I'm sure others - especially parents/carers - would disagree with me, and in society we have to take everyone's opinion into account. Unfortunately:p:rotfl:.)

*Actually, I find a word that they can use in print in the Times newspaper, as if it's inoffensive, that refers to gay people (and I didn't think I was but, nowadays, I don't know what I am:rotfl: - I've no clue anymore - is everyone okay if I say that I think I'm probably 88% heterosexual? Don't know what the other 12% might be:rotfl::rotfl:. Oh, in fact, forget it... let's be less than that 88%:rotfl::rotfl:) - anyway, I find the word, one that Chris Moyles once used on daytime without punishment, came across a bit harshly to me on one occasion when my dad was a little angry - but fortunately he doesn't do that too much and we get along fine - we all occasionally have outbursts and it's to be forgiven and part of a normal family I think - and yet if he uses the 'dreaded' (not dreaded for me) "C" word, that doesn't bother me at all. So actually, society's thing doesn't apply - and people are so wary of saying that, that that's never yet in any event at all caused me any actual offence in life. Instead, it's far supposedly "milder" words, that people are not as careful about saying and which they therefore use more widely, that have sometimes got me and done so on more occasions, than the total of zero times the C word has ever caused me offence in my life. Because people are so so wary about it and only ever use it in the most restricted circumstances - in which it's ones in which it never bothers me. So, it's the stuff seen as more "mild" that has ever managed to cause me offence. Actually the euphemism that I'm using managed to bother me on one occasion more recently when people had not said the actual word:rotfl::rotfl:. It's the other "C" word that I find a bit more upsetting when people say these days - the word cancer. But that's because that's a nasty illness and is one that always touches my heart and has affected so many of us as relatives of others. Actually, it reminds me of that television programme ages ago where they said "today, we're talking about... the C word" (and everyone goes oooh) and it turned out they meant Merry Christmas. Which is a bit inappropriate me recalling this now in July:rotfl::rotfl:.

I could talk about this all day:o:rotfl: - and probably have:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:.

hampydoodums

TrulyMadly wrote: »

So they were nicer than mine:o

Just reading up on Stanley Boy....I nearly mentioned a fox bite this morning but didn't want to panic you.......it seems an unusual injury for a cat on cat fight:o

I seriously thought they were your legs at first TM :rotfl:.

Up until a couple of years ago Stanley Boy was given a curfew and we called him in at night. For some reason he started to cry to go out when we locked the cat flap so we used to let him come and go when he wanted during the night. Curfew will be put in place again as too many creatures of the night where we've moved to :eek:

izzy65 wrote: »

Hampy glad it's good news for Stanley boy, love the fur babies:)

Thanks again izzy

hampydoodums

Savvy you can't half type quickly :rotfl:

hampydoodums

Right, nite all. Hopefully will sleep better tonight now I know my ginger boy is ok

Sarahdol75

hampydoodums wrote: »

Many thanks to everyone for their kind wishes for our Stanley Boy. He's now recovering and I can collect him tomorrow :T.

Op went better than expected as they didn't need to pin it. The tendons around the patella were torn so these were stitched, and are now holding the patella in place. There's a lot of bruising too bless him.

I've had to order a dog crate from eBay this afternoon as he needs to be caged for 8-10 weeks to prevent him from jumping :eek:, I went for the largest one I could find. I'm sure I've got this right and he didn't say days . I need to check on this tomorrow when we collect him. Don't know how I'm going to keep him caged for that length of time.

Yes TM, he's a big boy and can usually look after himself. Initial vet consultation said he was more than likely bitten as he was running away but she didn't think it was broken. DH thinks it may have been a fox, lots around here. When I spoke to hospital today they said they can't 100% say what has happened . At least he will be in the comfort of his own home soon and we can spoil him .

Still catching up so thanks to everyone again.

Savvy, so nice to read your posts again, really missed you

Glad he is on the mend and you can fetch him tomorrow.

When my cat got injured had broken legs and pelvis, he had to be caged for 8 weeks, :eek:


Just be warned he will cry ad cry and cry and cry, for hours on end, it is horrendous for the first few days, we had to have the radio on and put him in the furthest room away as the noise was terrible. Sorry if its hard to hear, but it is hard work.

I hated it, would spend hours lying next to the cage, just stroking him and telling him it would be ok.

Wishing him a speedy recovery.

purpledonkey

aau1 wrote: »

pd........behave! :eek:

You behave!

purpledonkey

TrulyMadly wrote: »

You might get it for 90p in A:cool:

Not when it's a trek and 60p for parking :rotfl:

purpledonkey

Tinyshoes wrote: »

Think those legs are past their sell by.

Don't think I will be borrowin them again. :rotfl:

Borrowing them for what?! :whistle:

Savvybuyer

hampydoodums wrote: »

Savvy you can't half type quickly :rotfl:

Actually - and thanks for getting me off the topic and onto another one - you're right there. I'm a quick typer and people have commented on that in my normal life before now. Although I am a two, or possibly three, fingered typer.

I could make some jokes here but I won't dare:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:.



No, joking apart, yes - and it's weird how, with the standard QWERTY keyboard, which is what it is, that I use, somehow your brain automatically knows where to put the fingers to hit the right keys and I could probably type something out, quite somewhat successfully, even with my eyes closed. Interesting - and I'm sure many people are the same on that too.

My father though - certainly everyone is not the same as me - types very very slowly indeed and if typing in just a reference number into a website for example takes ages over every key. So maybe there is some skill (we all have our own skills and he's got skills that I don't have) but maybe some of it comes from writing, into the late night hours, generally on assignment hand-in deadline day:rotfl:, long essays, appropriately enough, whilst I was at college and university. You need to be able to type to do that - or, actually, in fact, I can remember I go back to the time when we didn't have computers at all and used to hand in handwritten essays, you'd have to get the whole right and couldn't go back and edit, and I'm sure others do back to quill pens:rotfl:.:T