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Just to let you know.
I have just binned my handbag that had the dog poo on:eek::eek:To do is to be. Rousseau
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TrulyMadly wrote: »Just to let you know.
I have just binned my handbag that had the dog poo on:eek::eek:
Dog poo?:eek: how did you get that on there?:oSealed pot challenge number 003 £350 for 2015, 2016 £400 Actual£345, £400 for 2017 Actual £500:T:T £770 for 2018 £1295 for 2019:j:j spc number 22 £1,457Stopped Smoking 22/01/15:D:D::dance::dance:- 5 st 1 1/2lb :dance::dance:0 -
our errant youngest son is another issue altogether.
He has now disowned us altogether, cut himself off from us, not heard from him now in 3 months, although Ive messaged him a few times with no reply. We know nothing whatsoever about his life or anything he is doing.You have to let them live their lives though and do whatever they need to do.
I sent down a big box of his Christmas presents and cards etc including some for his GF, which again we know nothing about, he has never discussed her with us.
Technically we dont even know where he lives, its only because he sent me a screen shot of a letter he had from the car insurance company people (he put us down as 2nd and 3rd names, didnt bother to ask us but the insurance company needed our details)
It was only by accident the day we were going away in August that I found out he was moving from one flat to another.
I know the Christmas box arrived but he never bothered to message us to let us know.
So on Christmas eve we get a postcard from York to say Happy Christmas - only posted second class on Thursday. i knew he would not be home for Christmas - I really had no idea what his plans were but I sort of assumed he was going to his mates and his Gf in Wales who has a big extended family and a cabin so he would be there.
We had no idea he was heading north - driving from Kent, stopping very briefly in York, not even for a day. Eldest child and her BF were also driving up to York the same day but by the time they arrived errant son and his GF had set off again ...
Then I was messaged to say Merry Christmas and that they were in Fort William so I checked his FB page and they were in Wetherspoons that evening.
He also said he wanted to come and see us before New Year - its amazing how some people only seem to remember they have families one day a year.
He also said he loved us but I just put that down to the drink talking
Christmas day we had a message wishing up hapoy Christmas and asking if it was OK to ring later so I said Ok but our home phone is on the blink so we missed a call later. I just messaged him to say this and just to wish happy Christmas. It would have been a very awkward call, no idea what you say to someone who you know nothing about anymore.
I imagine his phone is mostly switched off to conserve power and possiblt a bad signal anyway because I dont think he has been online since.
So Christmas Day they were walking in Fort William, 3 degree temps (it was 13 degrees here in Cheshire even in the evening) sleeping in that van of his in laybys ( no washing or toilet facilities)
He put a picture up of their Christmas dinner - 2 penguins and 2 pot noodles - what on earth is that supposed to mean.
Not heard anything more today
I can't imagine how hard this must be for you mhoc:o I think I would have to put it all to the back of my mind and just try to get on with my life:o
However I know how true the saying"blood is thicker than water "
is, and the odds are that the situation will right itself over time. The fact that he is sending messages to you, shows his desire to get in touch once more and if you keep the lines of communication open, things may improve.....you never know.....I really hope so:ATo do is to be. Rousseau
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I've been giggling to myself:rotfl:
Imagine being in a hurry to get ready:rotfl::rotfl:
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To do is to be. Rousseau
To be is to do. Sartre
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TrulyMadly wrote: »I can't imagine how hard this must be for you mhoc:o I think I would have to put it all to the back of my mind and just try to get on with my life:o
However I know how true the saying"blood is thicker than water "
is, and the odds are that the situation will right itself over time. The fact that he is sending messages to you, shows his desire to get in touch once more and if you keep the lines of communication open, things may improve.....you never know.....I really hope so:A
Yes I must admit getting the postcard was a shock and realising he was heading north although I know Scotland is his favourite place to be so I should have expected this.
Yes I suppose its a good sign that it is him messaging me (for a change) so thats a positive but I cant help but think its just because people get sentimental at this time of the year, I dont really trust his motives.
Also he only tends to come home if he has a self serving motive - the last visit in early August was a prime example, it wasnt just to see his parents, we were just an aside.
Ive always been a very keen advocate of keeping the lines of communication open but I realised late in 2015 that it was a waste of time and energy with errant son.
Eldest son was serving abroad for a good few years so Ive always wriiten him letters to keep him up to speed with everything that was going on at home. I was also at the same time writing letters for errant son even though he was only living a few hours away to keep in contact with him. I realise now he was completly disintersted and could not care less and I was wasting my time as he just did not want to know. I was telling him everything about homelife but he was telling us nothing whatsoever in response.
as you say things will right themselves over time (decades probably) so I am just standing back, waiting but expecting nothing whatsoever.
He does contact his brother and sister and he has seen both of them this autumn - I dont think they are really bothered, just see him as an annoying younger brat who acts like an idiot - they have their own lives, work, social and he is not part of their circle and they wont act as gobetweens“Create all the happiness you are able to create; remove all the misery you are able to remove. Every day will allow you, --will invite you to add something to the pleasure of others, --or to diminish something of their pains.”0
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