Breakup gone bad need advice please

hazyjo

Wouldn't pay a penny. They are just trying to keep the conversations going. Block numbers and don't look at anything they're saying on social media. I'm guessing you have done something to pee them off, or you decided it was over which they don't like. Either way, the best way is to cut all ties and tell them to sue you if they don't agree. End of.


Good luck.


Jx

darkrev

Thank you again. I feel able to deal with it now. I also am seeking advice for the abuse. It has helped me see all sides of the debate and I will consider it all. Regards

Domayne

I wouldn't pay them back - they offered knowing you had no money so it's their own problem really. Tell them to jog on.

TBagpuss

Your partner offered to pay, so the holiday was a gift. They don't get to take back their gift just becasue the relationship has subsequently ended.

Don't pay, on't offer anything.
You mention abuse - do speak to your GP about this and asjk that they refer you to your local domestic abuse support services. This will not only allow you to access support now, but if your ex becomes abusive about tryong to get you to pay them, it will make it easier for you to qualify for legal aid to help with the costs if you end up needing to take legal action.

DKLS

I can't see any obligation to pay towards holiday or glasses.

Block email addresses, block phone numbers, change mobile number if needed, block and delete on any social media and lock down your social media settings.

martinbuckley

Tell them to bring their case to Judge Rinder if they feel that strongly.

yvonne13_2

Tell your ex to take you to court if she want's the money back so badly.

lush_walrus

peachyprice wrote: »

Perhaps because at the time they WERE together and they came of out the household income?

Yep I read the reply from the OP too... Of COURSE that additional information puts a new spin on it!

Detroit

There is no way you are legally or morally responsible for payment, unless you had any sort of agreement you would repay your ex partner.
The holiday occurred during your relationship and your partner was seemingly happy to pay. The fact the relationship ended doesn't change the past.
What next? Should you refund him for any times he paid at the cinema, while you bill him for the jumper you bought him last Christmas?
This sounds to me like bitterness on the part of your ex, and I think you're within your rights to ignore him.
That said, I think I might pay for the glasses if it was me, just so I wouldn't need to feel beholden to him. Unlike the holiday, they are a gift personal to you, and I I wouldn't want a gift that was begrudged me.

densol_2

Your ex doesnt really want the money back - its just an extension of their continued emotional controlling abuse. Be strong, ignore all contact, block all numbers and set all social media to private. Maybe seek some counselling to talk through things and keep strong. Well done for getting out of this situation. Your life can only get better.