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Breakup gone bad need advice please

darkrev
darkrev Posts: 478 Forumite
in Marriage, relationships & families
Hi, just before our break-up I went on holiday with my then partner. They paid for the whole holiday due to my reduced income , are their suggestion. They also contributed towards a pair of glasses. They are demanding the money back. Please could someone advice me
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  • pinkshoes
    pinkshoes Posts: 20,674 Forumite
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    Offer to pay for the glasses but tell them the holiday was their idea and they offered to pay for it,bas otherwise you would not have gone.

    Do you have anything in writing?
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  • Mr_Toad
    Mr_Toad Posts: 2,462 Forumite
    pinkshoes wrote: »
    Offer to pay for the glasses but tell them the holiday was their idea and they offered to pay for it,bas otherwise you would not have gone.

    Do you have anything in writing?

    A better question perhaps would be do they have anything in writing?
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  • lush_walrus
    lush_walrus Posts: 1,976 Forumite
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    Surely you want to pay for these things? Why would you expect or want someone you are not with to pay towards your glasses? If you can't afford to, maybe arrange a gradual repayment.
  • darkrev
    darkrev Posts: 478 Forumite
    Hi, thanks for the replies, nothing was put in writing. They lived a virtually rent free life at my property and had a good income, they also had control of the finances as we were saving for a house. So household expenses like my glasses were shared, the main cost of the glasses came from a charity and I needed extra help with the frames as I have a very low income. It was classed at the time as household expenditure. As for the holiday, totally their idea. Out with my ability to pay for and meant to be a gesture of thanks for living with me so cheaply and a reconciliation from their previous emotional behaviour.
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  • Stevie_Palimo
    Stevie_Palimo Posts: 3,306 Forumite
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    In the above case seeing as they lived at your home I would be inclined to say no chance of anything being given anything to you and look at it as payment for the free living arrangement you had whilst with me.
  • pmlindyloo
    pmlindyloo Posts: 13,104 Forumite
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    Personally I would bill them for the cost of rent and utility bills and food whilst they were living with you.

    What happened to the savings for the house?

    Another reason to keep all your finances separate in the future.
  • burlington6
    burlington6 Posts: 2,111 Forumite
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    Household expenses like my glasses were shared........haha

    Pay up and move on with your life.
  • peachyprice
    peachyprice Posts: 22,346 Forumite
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    lush_walrus wrote: »
    Surely you want to pay for these things? Why would you expect or want someone you are not with to pay towards your glasses? If you can't afford to, maybe arrange a gradual repayment.

    Perhaps because at the time they WERE together and they came of out the household income?
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  • pigpen
    pigpen Posts: 41,152 Forumite
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    I'd cover the cost of the glasses if they paid for them but not the holiday.. sounds like you are well rid.. financial and emotional abuse is not a pleasant way to live.
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  • OneLeggedPig
    OneLeggedPig Posts: 138 Forumite
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    They willingly gave you the money. If there was no previous mention of paying it back... then you can ignore them about it now. If they know you are on a low income then they shouldn't pursue it.
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