Large single Parent Family getting Debt free

Smodlet

Damn, Mila, can't say it any better than that. Well done, DD! Here is congratulatory cake, sorry it's not real:

:bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake:

Smodlet

I know I'm evil butt check out this thread...

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/70992877#Comment_70992877

kimplus8

Smodlet wrote: »

I know I'm evil butt check out this thread...

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/70992877#Comment_70992877

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
I just laughed out load- really loud!!
'Just how 'small' is this problem'' :rotfl:

kimplus8

Today I am tired and really tearful.
I am really feeling it being a single parent today. I feel so emotionally battered and worn and I miss my ex.
I know he's a !!!! head but he was my !!!! !!!! head and I was so in love with him. I can't believe I'm in this position, on my own with 8 kids. I'm not an unintelligent woman, I have 2 degrees- one from exon. I just make rubbish relationship choices and let men treat me like dirt.
I just need to have this baby and get my body back- I'm done in physically as well as emotionally and I need to be me again. I look like a beached whale!! he is looking great and so so happy back with his Mrs.
I just feel like- no wonder he couldn't love me- why would he when I'm such a waste and he can be with her in their lovely house and nice new cars, where as I'm here on my own putting bunk beds together and scraping enough money together to buy tea bags.
I'm sorry guys just on a real downer tonight and need to let it out.

milasavesmoney

When I hear your sorrow I want to give you great big hugs, a foot massage and put you to bed>>>and then go kick his butt! And her's!!

It's just so very hard being the only one. It's horrible to love someone, thinking this is the one, and then be done the way you were done. Rejection absolutely sucks eggs! But he has not turned out to be the man you thought he was and fell in love with. He is not a nice or good person, especially for someone of your caliber! I'm so sad that this has happened to you!

I also made bad choices and married one of them. I had four children with that serial philanderer. The last time I found out (he called and told me) my youngest was six weeks old. That was it! I kicked him out. He tried to worm his way back but I was through!

I married a man with two young children and we have made a life together. It has had its ups and downs but I love him dearly as he does me and we have made it through the tough times. Prayer got me through.

Hoping you have a good day tomorrow Kim. :beer:

Smod you are a rascal! I nearly peed my pants! (Older women have that problem when laughing hard )

Smodlet

Aww, Kim, babe! I, too, am sending you hugs, lots of them. I am so sorry I wasn't around when you posted this, I had an early night, actually had some hopes of sleeping tonight but, here I am, awake again, refreshingly not because of them.

Did the laughing trigger the downer? It can happen like that sometimes. If so, I am sorry. I just wanted to share a chortle with you guys; it is the only gift I can give you and can never repay the kindness you and Mila have shown me. We are here for you and you are an amazing woman, an inspiration... and what is he doing with nice cars when he is not paying a penny towards the upkeep of his children, hm? I think it might be time to let the gator out, mate. Were he a man, he would be with you but he sounds as if he needs to grow up, himself, to me. I want to scream at this new woman of his to take steps to avoid getting pregnant unless she wants to end up like you, and the poor woman he dumped in the !!!! before you, who is still waiting for child support from him. Is there any point chasing that up, do you think? If the CSA ever remove their collective digit and attach his earnings, this new woman - or is she the one he was with before you, to whom he still owes child support??? might find him less attractive... and save herself a lot of grief - unless she is the first Mrs??? in which case, where is her head???.

Babe, I don't know what you fell in love with but I really don't think he is it. Your projection/fantasy version of him, maybe, but he does not live up to it. Does that make any sense? He is not worthy of you.

You must be exhausted, physically and mentally, after all that decorating and assembling on top of everything else you have to do. Take some Kim time, if you can. Your sprogs (please write this word in your vocabulary book, Miss Mila) sound pretty cool to me. I am sure the eldest one(s) can help out so you can relax for half an hour, now and then, perhaps? They already do darn well, from the sound of it. The oldest ones are old enough to understand that their mum needs their support, as well. It does not make you a failure, it merely makes you human. Wondermama is allowed to take a day off, now and then, just as Smodlet is allowed to be down, occasionally. A couple of decent nights' sleep and the lunacy resurfaces. You will feel better too, very soon, I hope.

Smodlet hugs wending their way through the ether to you. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

kimplus8

I'm wide awake now!!
I fell asleep crying tonight but I've woken at this cruddy hour and actually feel miles better- thanks Mila and Smodlet!!!
I also have no idea why I fell so hard for him. He is not the father of my other children Smodlet, I guess that's why. I met him 12 months after ex hub and I broke up- fell in love, was looking at houses etc and he left me to be back with his ex.
I think I have had such a rough ride with the ex husbeast that he was my knight, there to save me and then it turned out to be a lie. I just can't get over how stupid I was to be with him and fall so hard.
I saw him today and I think that is what has triggered me feeling so low. I miss who I thought he was, you see before I found out I was the other woman in his life and he wanted to get back with her we had never argued or had a bad word, we were like best friends always laughing and joking.
Now I see him with her laughing and happy and I'm feeling like a complete loser!
I'll get over it, I know this is just a wobble because I'm tired and weeks off giving birth. Xx
Thanks for your lovely replies guys xx
K+8

Smodlet

Ah, I forgot about him, number 8's progenitor. Smodlet on page, now, it usually takes several hours/days... Presumably the Mrs. knows what a !!!!er he is? If not, and he does not pay child support for number 8, do you think you might tell her? Either she already knows or she, too, is living a lie... think the gator must be getting real hungry by now, mm-hm, yeah.

Just remember we are here for you, lovely Kim, Mila-in-a-different-time-zone and Smodlet, the insomniac.

Did you see how many thanks I got for that one, small post? Trust Smodlet to lower the tone, always. Must be gator heaven, where they are...

Bedtime, now. Wonder when the dawn chorus will start?

TTFN, S xxx

kimplus8

Smodlet wrote: »

Ah, I forgot about him, number 8's progenitor. Smodlet on page, now, it usually takes several hours/days... Presumably the Mrs. knows what a !!!!er he is? If not, and he does not pay child support for number 8, do you think you might tell her? Either she already knows or she, too, is living a lie... think the gator must be getting real hungry by now, mm-hm, yeah.

Just remember we are here for you, lovely Kim, Mila-in-a-different-time-zone and Smodlet, the insomniac.

Did you see how many thanks I got for that one, small post? Trust Smodlet to lower the tone, always. Must be gator heaven, where they are...

Bedtime, now. Wonder when the dawn chorus will start?

TTFN, S xxx

Sadly she knows about me and the baby but doesn't care.
She messaged me on social media to tell me that as far as they are concerned the baby isn't his and will never be considered 'family' in their eyes.
It's sad because my boy has siblings that I'm sure would come to love him but that's not my call to make.
I will apply for child support and if that causes them problems then again- it's not my problem, I think they believe if they deny paternity it will all go away- it's doesn't work like that though and if he refuses DNA test the court will assume paternity and grant me child support anyway.
He won't get away with what he has done and no matter what I will fight tooth and nail for my boy to get what he is entitled too.
I feel better today- stronger even!!
I have £20 left this week from my shopping budget so I've taken the kids to maccy d's for pancakes! My daughter has worked so hard on her SATS and deserves a treat so we having a nice breakfast as a family!
We're walking touching in a mo and then I'll be off to post stuff I've sold and run errands- I'm then going to grab some bit in town that we need- do a weekly shop and go home.
We're having a bbq picnic at school tonight put on free by the PTA.
Tomorrow we're going to the library to join the free summer reading scheme- all Ronald Dahl focuses this year- and the kids love Quintin Blackle so it's perfect!!!
Have a great day everyone ) k+8

Smodlet

Yay, K+8! Wondermama is firing on all cylinders; 'twas but a blip, me dear, we are all entitled to them.

You fight for what's yours, damn right. (To ex) Sticking your head up your proverbial does not work, sonny Jim! Stops the sun from shining out of it, so you can't see what's under your own nose!

Maybe, if it gets to court, Mrs. will care. How can she take him back? Must be the size of his wallet, can't be his trustworthiness and loyalty. Looking forward to hearing his wallet has shrunk, as much as possible.

Hope you have a great day, Kim, Wondermama, and your Magnificent Seven.