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Och PSL I get you with the whole diet thing, my friends do it too. It is only them trying to be nice & not offend you.

I just try not to discuss anything to do with being on a diet with them now.

My best friend is the same, she has started WW aswell so at least I have one person who gets it!

You can do this lovely.

Dxxx

GoingToDoIt

Picnic- the best thing about summer!
Well I have used the health-kick excuse before, but if your friends won't accept it then it's no use for you.
I have just started ww, and let me tell you so far it is expensive!

Lumanous

Poor_Single_lady wrote: »

This is a bit of s rant GOing-to-do-it but the frustrating thing about weight gain is that people feel they must tell you that you look fine.
I am about 1-2 stone overweight but because it's not more than this and I am not obese people always feel the need to reassure me that I don't need to lose weight. They think they are helping but they make the battle twice as hard.
So in my life I can't really be bothered to explain myself to people because I know they are not going to help. only a handful have people have said that they understand.
I think people think they are being mean if they agree with you and that you will be offended. But I wouldn't be. My hips are huge and my bum has never been so big, tummy that used to be flat is now all bulging and still my friends insist on battling me and telling me I am wrong.

I won't drink but I'm not sharing the dieting- It is genuinely easier primarily alone but only with those that get-it.
But those that do understand make everything easier.
My best friend said that I had put weight and didn't question me eating vegetables as a snack. If everyone could do this it would be easier.

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TOTALLY get this. I'm not big but put on fat (significant % of body weight for me, which is not healthy nor good for wardrobe). Friends or family might be 1 or more sizes bigger (or sometimes even same size!) and just go straight into reassurance I'm like I don't want reassurance I know I'm not a bus, I'm fine with myself but want to improve. You might not see the change but that's because you don't see me trying to put clothes on and see the times when those bits show. When my clothes LITERALLY won't do up...you can't say it's just in my head. Of course I might look fine when I see people but that's because I've dressed the larger size to look better...
I also monitor body fat % so if its gone up...its gone up, simple. If I want to work on my body just let me and encourage me, don't just try to lie to make people feel better. Just makes me feel worse and like people don't care. Everyone will have someone else they are smaller than and bigger than, doesn't mean they are happy with where they are or that it's a healthy state. REALLY frustrates me so I can sympathise PSL!

I wish I had people around who had the same attitude as me, just get used to doing it by myself.

I'm with you I just give up talking about it especially to certain people. Better to just get on with it. So I shall wish you good luck!! With you

p.s. excuse my rant too! least we are not alone

louby40

I get the weight thing too. I'm tall and carry a bit of extra weight well. But i have a load of size 14 clothes that fit but are just so uncomfortable I cant wear them! I joined WW yesterday, I figured it would be cheaper that buying a whole new wardrobe. I got a code and it was nearly half price. I only have a stone to lose.

I just don't tell anyone I'm dieting I just make different choices. It's so hard (and boring) trying to lose weight isn't it.

DaringToDream_2

Completely agree with all the comments above PSL. I've put on weight over the last few years and find that people can be really condescending about it. Like Louby i'm tall and am only a stone or so overweight, but it seems that people would rather lie and tell me i don't need to lose weight when i do. I'd much rather they were honest and say that i'd put on a few pounds to my face! I've got a fab work wardrobe that i can no longer fit into-how MSE to be able to fit back into it! My weight has dropped down and stabilised from where it was (I ballooned when i left my 9-5 routine job, changed my pill, and started commuting 3+ hours a day), but i'm still trying to find a routine that works for me with food/exercise - normally when i get home from work i'm so tired all i want to do is have something quick and easy to eat and go to bed! But at the end of the day everyone is different and you need to do what works for you, and if that is going it alone then good luck!!

Poor_Single_lady

Agree with all of this. Pushed for time tonight but very much reading my diary and nodding in agreement.

Poor_Single_lady

Good luck on the weight watchers everyone. I am trying so hard with everyone. I tried it for a year and it was good but very slow. I did think it was expensive too.
Very tired at the moment and 3 whole weeks to payday.

Thurs work then out for dinner
Fri work then home
Sat/sun low spend coffee/food shop
Mon-fri work/zero social

3 weeks to payday
£260 bills/credit card to be paid
Lots of jobs to do at home
Work is busy
Job applications are exhausting.
Not sure that I will be in a great position when payday arrives.
The next loan payment brings that down to £775/5 payments.

I decided to sign up for more exams even though if I get a new job I will have to payback the exam fee which will be just over £400. I think although it will be a big bill I hope the excitement of a new job will be worth it. As a last resort In this event I could ask my parents for help which would be OK as a once off and although far from ideal would be temporary help due a specific problem rather than this chronic debt that they can't know about.
Or best friend could also help.
Zero social next week (only out tommorow this week) and trying to keep it like this till payday.

Poor_Single_lady

**Trying hard with everything, not everyone.

Poor_Single_lady

Gone into overdraft already. So now although individual debts are coming down the total won't as I am just moving debt around rather than paying off.

Quite tough at the moment but no big expenses planned for this month - although some things yet to be paid/paid for.

3 weeks to payday.
3 dresses to go back, one isn't very nice and 2 I am too fat for!!
No more dinners out for awhile yet.

Very tiring week. Very much love looking at my empty calender for some me-time.

zippygeorgeandben

I've just been trying to look at my finances for this month. I'm already £200 into a £900 budget for the month. Haven't done the big food shop for the month yet, plus I have three heavy full on weekends coming up to. Hoping I can come in under budget and it's one month's more DDs paid towards debts.
Keep up the work