Etiquette for Childrens joint Birthday Parties?

Options
donnalou
donnalou Posts: 498 Forumite
First Post First Anniversary Combo Breaker
Has anyone got any advice for when small children get invited to joint Birthday Parties?

My DD got invited to one earlier this year, the invite was from a girl and boy. She didn't know the girl. So I just got her a token present ( a small teddy) and boy a present for about £10. Would this be the correct thing to do?

Also what if the invite is from more than 2 children? Her friend is having a party with her brother and 2 others. Do I need to buy a present for everyone on the invite. Or just the one she knows?

Thanks in advance for your help

Donna

Comments

  • mr_knight
    mr_knight Posts: 943 Forumite
    Options
    I would only buy a gift for the children you know. I've have done a joint sibling party but only put both names on the invite if the child knew both of my children.
  • springdreams
    springdreams Posts: 3,623 Forumite
    Rampant Recycler Car Insurance Carver! Home Insurance Hacker! Xmas Saver!
    Options
    I'd only buy for the child/children your daughter knows.
    squeaky wrote: »
    Smiles are as perfect a gift as hugs...
    ..one size fits all... and nobody minds if you give it back.
    ☆.。.:*・° Housework is so much easier without the clutter ☆.。.:*・°
    SPC No. 518
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,559 Forumite
    Name Dropper First Post First Anniversary
    Options
    donnalou wrote: »
    Her friend is having a party with her brother and 2 others.

    If I was expected to buy four presents, I'd find something else for my child to do that day and miss the party.
  • Spendless
    Spendless Posts: 24,177 Forumite
    Name Dropper First Post First Anniversary
    Options
    This used to drive me nuts when mine were young enough to attend birthday parties! Your child gets to attend 1 birthday party but you get to fund 2/3/4 birthday presents!!

    I totally understand that parents club together to reduce the costs but really think they should split the invites out too. Eg if Bill is having a joint party with Jane and Sam,an invite should read 'Bill invites .... to his party with Jane and Sam', and then you should just buy a present for Bill. Jane and Sam do the same. In your case OP I think buying for just the child she knows.
  • donnalou
    donnalou Posts: 498 Forumite
    First Post First Anniversary Combo Breaker
    Options
    Well she did get the invite for the party with 4 children but the invite was just from the one she knows, It seems that Mummy had thought about things and has even put my babies name on the invite too :)
  • paddyrg
    paddyrg Posts: 13,543 Forumite
    Options
    Token gifts are fine, and indeed a nice touch.
This discussion has been closed.
Meet your Ambassadors

Categories

  • All Categories
  • 343.8K Banking & Borrowing
  • 250.3K Reduce Debt & Boost Income
  • 450K Spending & Discounts
  • 235.9K Work, Benefits & Business
  • 609.1K Mortgages, Homes & Bills
  • 173.4K Life & Family
  • 248.5K Travel & Transport
  • 1.5M Hobbies & Leisure
  • 15.9K Discuss & Feedback
  • 15.1K Coronavirus Support Boards