Pet hate - being asked for a title

Mojisola

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I just don't like he sound of Ms, I think it sounds daft.

While Missus is such an elegant, sweet sound! :rotfl:

Lambyr

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I just don't like he sound of Ms, I think it sounds daft.

I don't mind seeing it in print, but there's something that irrationally irritates me when it's spoken. Might be cos I hear both "Miz" and "Muz".

I don't mind if someone addresses me as Miss Lambyr (which is correct based on societal standards) or Mrs Lambyr. The only time I get bothered is when I'm asked and it's phrased as "Is that Mrs Lambyr?"... I know they don't mean it and it's totally my own hang up but it reminds me so much of the way some of my family keep barking on about how I should be "married by now".

Georgiegirl256

Mojisola wrote: »

While Missus is such an elegant, sweet sound! :rotfl:

Well it's better than Ms! :rotfl:

Person_one

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Well it's better than Ms! :rotfl:

Is that the real reason you don't use it? Being completely honest with yourself?

Mojisola

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Well it's better than Ms! :rotfl:

I think it's just because we grow up with the sound 'Missus' so don't really hear it whereas 'Ms' is still a strange 'new' sound - although I've been using it for forty years so goodness knows when it will stop being unusual and new.

Georgiegirl256

Person_one wrote: »

Is that the real reason you don't use it? Being completely honest with yourself?

The real reason why I don't use Ms? It's one of the reasons yes. The others being that no matter what anyone says, when people hear it, they either think you're divorced or a raging feminist.

Mojisola wrote: »

I think it's just because we grow up with the sound 'Missus' so don't really hear it whereas 'Ms' is still a strange 'new' sound - although I've been using it for forty years so goodness knows when it will stop being unusual and new.

Probably yes

Before this thread I hadn't realised that it wasn't a new thing. I didn't realise it had been going 40/50 plus years.

southoftheriver

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Imo - we should offer literally every single title we know of as an option when it comes to it and a "dont have a title" option.

That way we show up people who insist on a title of some description. Be it "Mrs/Miss" or "Lady/Sir" or "Dr" (when they arent a medical doctor), etc, etc.

With this - imo the practice of using titles would die out gradually - as it became clear to those who wish to use a title of any description that its regarded in exactly the same light as a "first name" or a "surname".

Not quite sure what to do about the modern practice of amalgamating two peoples surnames and double-barrelling it when they become a couple. I understand what they are getting at - but find it blimmin' ridiculous when they clearly havent come from a "double-barrelled" background and do wonder what on earth would happen if they have children as to what the surname would be. I've come across another instance of that today and there just is no more infallible marker of having come from a "working class background" imo than a double-barrelled surname being given for someone that clearly aint "posh" by any defition.:rotfl:

You wouldn't have much time for me then, since I'm a doctor (and I use the title) and I've double barrelled my name outside of work since getting married. Oh and I'm working class by upbringing.

Our children will have my husband's name. But I wanted to keep some memory of my maiden name but also respect the fact that something had changed. Not trying to get ideas above my station or appear posh. I use my maiden name professionally.

Person_one

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

The real reason why I don't use Ms? It's one of the reasons yes. The others being that no matter what anyone says, when people hear it, they either think you're divorced or a raging feminist.

Would it be so terrible for people to think you were a feminist? After all, it just means you believe that men and women are of equal worth, that's not so extreme is it?

missbiggles1

Torry_Quine wrote: »

It may seem strange to you but not to me. As I took my husband's name on marriage it is to me the natural thing to be Mrs X. LIke others Ms has connotations which may not be true but perception is what matters.

Perception is totally irrelevant if the facts are incorrect.

Georgiegirl256

Person_one wrote: »

Would it be so terrible for people to think you were a feminist? After all, it just means you believe that men and women are of equal worth, that's not so extreme is it?

Well not really no. But it does also in a lot of people's minds, make people think you are divorced, which isn't true.

But all that aside, it really does come down to the fact that I just don't like it.