(Advice for a friend) Friend is lodger and having LL problems

zagubov

dekaspace wrote: »

They even said to us their parents can store the small boxes for 15 a week id expect free after the hassle

I wouldn't trust that one bit. Your friend's not going to see their rent money again and if he lets them store his stuff, he's heading for more trouble I'm afraid.

dekaspace

How to explain this. The brother of the couple is dating this girl and her father owns a shop in town. Spoke to him and he is furious as he never knew but said the family are all at it. Everything they own is unpaid from brighthouse and even their parents do this. Even told us to do a runner and take the couples tv.

Also the bin outside property is overflowing with puzza and takeaway boxes and in frong of my friend this morning theh outright said they were down the road to starbucks then off to get dinner out. The same couple that said they couldnt afford a penny back to friend

missbiggles1

dekaspace wrote: »

Thought i would add this, when i was in their kitchen i saw 3 unpaid gas bills including 1 to debt collector, a provident payment book, a handwritten note mentioning they wanted holiday in june and have 300 budget. A benefits overpayment and court appeal letters, a cash convertors 28 day buyback slip.

The gas thing makes me think when i visited both times the heating was on full despite the weather being hot outside i mean literal sweating.

They even said to us their parents can store the small boxes for 15 a week id expect free after the hassle

What on earth are you doing reading people's private correspondence!:eek:

missbiggles1

dekaspace wrote: »

Why do you think we havent accepted that?its money we àre worried about

Anyway got a phone call from friend saying he found 600 quid phone debt bill
. 2 months rent arrears letter and hd took a few photos of them. Then he said he was woken 8am as the had their toddler round eho was crying and their response was to puf child in bedroom next to his so hd heard loud screams all morning

And your mate's at it as well!

Do the pair of you have no sense of appropriate behaviour whatsoever?

dekaspace

missbiggles1 wrote: »

What on earth are you doing reading people's private correspondence!:eek:

Proof or do you ignore everything the couple has done or do you want to take the moral highground and give no advice but boost your own sense of worth by putting others down.

missbiggles1

dekaspace wrote: »

Proof or do you ignore everything the couple has done or do you want to take the moral highground and give no advice but boost your own sense of worth by putting others down.

You never read people's private correspondence - you'd be the first to complain if someone had been noseying around your stuff! This particularly applies to you who has no reason to be interfering in other people's business in this way.

If you want to help your friend, invite him to stay (or at least to store his stuff) in your spare bedroom.

dekaspace

missbiggles1 wrote: »

You never read people's private correspondence - you'd be the first to complain if someone had been noseying around your stuff! This particularly applies to you who has no reason to be interfering in other people's business in this way.

If you want to help your friend, invite him to stay (or at least to store his stuff) in your spare bedroom.

Even when theres evidence that they were in debt arrears that support they knew of the eviction. And bearing in mind friend hax autism like me. Even i saw the letters not only in full but pinned up. Its my business when i will be the one forced to take him in or then you would claim i was bad for ignoring someone in need.

dekaspace

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

You need to focus on finding your friend somewhere else to live.
There is no alternative.

Step away from the drama, you may be enjoying it but actually it's just winding you up.

Already doing so. A local church has offered to let him stay at one of their locals and pick him up but only if he cant find somewhere else by tomorrow. Another place has a suitable room but not available to monday and 10 over budget a week and no wahing machine though better than being on street.

Friend feels guilty being in someones spare room when that can go to someone on street when they see him owning a tv and computer.

zagubov

This is worrying me. I'm reading about a vulnerable adult being scammed out of the money they need to keep a roof over their head and then being made homeless.

If I knew who were the correct authorities to notify about this, I'd say go and talk to somebody.

I don't know which country/town/city/area you live in but if there is an Adult Social Care department in your local council, or a Citizens Advice Bureau, your friend needs to talk to them pretty quickly.

If any other forum regulars can suggest a next step, this would be the time to pass that info on.

And help your friend find somewhere to live, and store his stuff in the meantime.

dekaspace

zagubov wrote: »

This is worrying me. I'm reading about a vulnerable adult being scammed out of the money they need to keep a roof over their head and then being made homeless.

If I knew who were the correct authorities to notify about this, I'd say go and talk to somebody.

I don't know which country/town/city/area you live in but if there is an Adult Social Care department in your local council, or a Citizens Advice Bureau, your friend needs to talk to them pretty quickly.

If any other forum regulars can suggest a next step, this would be the time to pass that info on.

And help your friend find somewhere to live, and store his stuff in the meantime.

did contact council who say as he just moved here he cant even be put in homeless hostel.

i can store stuff but as its like 4 small but heavy boxes its best to have 1 big box as i live like 200 miles away.