You are cordially invited to the nuptials between X and Z

Loanranger

Just email or send a txt or a message via Messenger saying, Sue and Leo are getting married.Please save the date 30 April 2017.
If you are already stressing over the wedding then try to remember the meaning of the wedding: that it's about the marriage afterwards and not the ceremony itself.

Generali

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Don't see the point .... send your invitations early, if someone can't come then they can't, what's the problem?

Invitations can't always be sent early if you don't have a venue booked for example.

If I got remarried given the way my friends are with work travel, business and family commitments then I'd want to send out a date as early as possible so the people I'd really want there could attend easily.

tea_lover

Generali wrote: »

Invitations can't always be sent early if you don't have a venue booked for example.

If I got remarried given the way my friends are with work travel, business and family commitments then I'd want to send out a date as early as possible so the people I'd really want there could attend easily.

But they're your friends, who you presumably keep in touch with in person, via email, via text, facebook etc. If you* were planning a big party/event for any other reason you probably wouldn't start posting them cards to let them know about it - but when it's a wedding people seem to lose all sense.

*generic 'you' there.

seven-day-weekend

Generali wrote: »

Invitations can't always be sent early if you don't have a venue booked for example.

If I got remarried given the way my friends are with work travel, business and family commitments then I'd want to send out a date as early as possible so the people I'd really want there could attend easily.

OK...we did our wedding totally differently, we got married four months after we met and organised a wedding in a week, so to me it all seems like so much faff.

Each to their own though

suejb2

I'm old school on these , don't see their function. Back to your question, however, these are merely asking/ telling people to save the date your wording has invited them surely that is the point of the invite that will follow.

Spendless

However you want to word it, please name all the people on the invite that you'd like to see there. My past 2 evening invites have said Mr and Mrs Spendless, so that's just who went, only for the bride and groom's first question to be 'haven't you brought the kids?'
errmmm no, how am I meant to know you'd have liked them there them if they aren't named on the invitation.

Georgiegirl256

cashewnut wrote: »

I let people know to save the date via Facebook or email, or as a Ps in letters or birthday cards I was already sending.

My cousin sent out save the date magnets which were pretty groovy however

We got a 'Save the date' magnet too. A chunky wooden bottle opener one to be precise. Yeah it was pretty cool, but also IMO a horrendous waste of money!

Another one here who thinks they're a pointless waste of money, but if you do send them OP I wouldn't word them like that, but use one of the less formal examples posters have given above.

DigForVictory

This is where the good old extended family & gossipnet used to save a bundle, and where I'd have thought the new social media could step in.

I mean, if your family don't know & your facebook friends don't know then from the "if a tree falls unobserved, has it fallen" perspective, is this wedding happening?

Save the date is a bit nouveau for me, but for the massive organised in 30 second increment displays I suppose it has a place. Here on MSE, I do rather wonder - surely the right phone bundle and a few strategic phone calls spares you postage?!

Plus you can actually talk to relatives and start expectation management, laying open space for helpful suggestions about extended family who have access to venues, or can cook, or sew, or do various things the bride & her team may find financially advantageous & even discuss whether to invite Great Aunt Nellie's gentleman caller given that she's expected to be in a hospice next month...
A card does not always suggest dig out the pretties & wonder if the bride would like to borrow, whereas a cheery natter opens more possibilities.
If you can, devote a few evenings to phoning people instead. The older creaks will adore you all the more for it!

burlington6

It's not about ''saving the date''

It's about outspending your recently married friends and doing something bigger and better.

The fancy writing on the special paper wrapped in a bow is just a way of showing everyone you're better.

pigpen

Generali wrote: »

Invitations can't always be sent early if you don't have a venue booked for example.

so how do you know the date to save if you've not already booked it???

The date you want at your chosen venue might not be available so of course you need to have something booked to send out a save the date..