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catkins

jhgkp wrote: »

Just had to come on and say thank you to everyone for your very kind words. I thought I was being silly, as some people have said to me "its only a cat" but she was my baby.

I am resisting the temptation not to look at kittens, but we are looking forward to the next generation, house feels so empty with out her about.

It makes me so angry when someone says "it was only a cat/dog or whatever". Years ago I went to work the day after having to have my dog pts. I didn't tell anyone but one person asked me why I was so quiet. I told her about my dog and she said "Oh is that all. Well get another one then". No one would say to someone who lost a child "well have another one" would they?

I too think my house seems empty without pets (I have always had dogs and cats). When our dog died 4 years ago we got a puppy within about 6 weeks. A few people said it was too soon - don't know why people always feel the need to comment - but it was right for us

UKTigerlily

I'm so sorry for your loss, she looks very much like my cat in the photo, just beautiful. My cat's brother (who was also mine) died just before 2 1/2 from FIP and that was very sudden. You couldn't have known, it's clear if you'd had any idea of her being unwell you'd've helped her, and cats are sneaky if unwell! Please don't blame yourself. She was warm and safe, and some wait until the owner isn't there i'm told x

tesuhoha

She looks so beautiful. I know how you feel. One of my cats got run over in August - she was only 8 months old. She had only been going outside for a couple of weeks. I still haven't got over it although I got another cat she has not replaced her. The new cat is just as loved but of course she is a different personality. Its amazing how you miss all the little things. I get tearful thinking about it and still can't look at her photo.

gunsandbanjos

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful kitty, they are part of the family.

Many years ago we lost our kitten at 18 months due to an undiagnosed heart condition, it was horrible, whole family was devastated.

Be kind to yourself and take the time to grieve.

Its also an opportunity to give a rescue cat a forever home.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

jhgkp wrote: »

Hello

We lost our wee cat a couple weeks back. She was 6 years old and we found her dead in her bed when we woke up. My OH decided it was best we bury her.

I am now having night mares. Did I do something wrong? My OH says it was probably her heart, as they remember the mother dying young, but not of what as it was a friend of a friend we got her from and it was in a passing conversation. OH didn't want to take her to vet as they have in past and the vet just cut them open, maybe not find anything and give them back as just ashes.

We are planning on getting a new kitten after the summer.

Do cats just die suddenly like humans?

Yes, they can and do.



Like humans, I think that's probably a far kinder way for them to go than being ill and in pain for a very long time. And, like humans, suddenly is a terrible shock for all around them - but the pain of watching anyone you love suffer and linger on, trying to do everything you can to care for them, is heartbreaking.

I wished that my old girl cat had slipped away whilst sleeping on my pillow on her last morning. But I had to scoop her up into her basket and walk through busy streets to the vet, then bring her home again - she went gently enough, purring in my arms, but in a stinky sterile environment where there were people in the next cubicle able to hear me and with the sound of dogs (never her favourite animals) outside. Yes, it was sweet how when I came out of the room, the woman came up and gave me a huge hug, but I would far rather have found her wrapped round my head in the early morning when the birds were singing and her ears were still warm from her beloved sunshine streaming in the bedroom window.

The Accidental Hamster was fine in the morning, fine at lunchtime and gone at teatime. I don't know how long my current two mogs have - one is at least part pedigree and is looking very old now, one has never been right since he was little. But when they go, I hope they go in a similar way to yours.



Your lovely cat went gently and quietly, no fear, no distress. She had something wrong with her that could not be foreseen or picked up on examination prior to spaying - vets aren't gung ho about neutering, it still requires anaesthetic and surgery and they check their patients out thoroughly beforehand, monitor them during the procedure and then afterwards.


Yes, it hurts - of course it does - but sometimes things happen, sometimes any creature can have something go wrong that nobody can forsee.


You Did Nothing Wrong.

It was her time.


Now, let yourself mourn her and, when you are ready, there will be another mad little fluffball dashing all over the place, completely different to her in some ways, but reassuringly similar in others.

jhgkp

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Now, let yourself mourn her and, when you are ready, there will be another mad little fluffball dashing all over the place, completely different to her in some ways, but reassuringly similar in others.

I am so overwhelmed by the very kind and supportive comments I have found here. I thank each and everyone of you and I like the quote above looking forward to the day I do have another wee fluffball dashing around. I will miss my wee girl, always will, but I know I have to move on.

meritaten

Every animal finds its' own special corner in your heart - that corner will never be replaced but can be surrounded by even more corners with more love! I remember my long gone pets Annie Timmy Meg Smokey and Nicky with fondness and gratitude for the love they brought in to our home - and the fun times. My present cat Barney hasn't replaced them - he has just been added to the family.

Smodlet

Can't say it any better.

reluctanthousewife

Didn't want to read and run! Just wanted to say sorry to hear of your loss. x

gayleygoo

I'm sorry to hear of your loss xx I'm sure you did everything right. One of our bunnies died suddenly a few months ago and we never found out why, he seemed happy and healthy the day before. I felt guilty that maybe it was my fault somehow, or that I could have done something to save him, but I can't change it now. We'll always miss that crazy little ball of fluff!

Good luck with your new fluffling when you are ready for one