Am I just broody or am I grieving for DH's swimmers.

neneromanova

after my 3rd pregnancy I thought I was done. My mind (and hubbys) was set on just 3 kids. We went down the vasectomy route, had the appointment to get it done but he was unable to have it under local as he has "Tight Athletic Balls" :rotfl: Anyway. We have been referred to hospital for it done under general in early June. Everything was fine, we were both happy with our decision, Then BAM!!

I had a mega weird dream about being pregnant with a 4th, woke up the next morning and spent the whole time at work just feeling broody. Chest hurt it was so strong. I told Hubby (who remember was dead against it) and he said ok, well we'll see if this carries on. Shocked me to say the least as he was originally dead against it.

Do you think it's just my body "pre grieving" for the loss of DH's swimmers or do you think I actually want one? Since having this dream about 3 weeks ago, the thought of another baby pops into my mind and it's not a bad thought. My heart says "go for it, you're still young, what's the worst that could happen", my head says "you'll need a new car, holidays will be dearer with 4 kids, the house will definately need extending or we need to move, but you are financially sound for it to happen".

I even thought about getting a puppy to see if that's what I needed :rotfl: but haven't done anything about it yet. DS is 2 1/2 now and if starting to sleep through the night now :eek: and is becoming more and more grown up so could it be mummys baby is growing up and not needing me as much any more?

Sorry I'm rambling, Just want to get all thoughts out of my head as I can't really ask friends as they'll look at me like I'm crazy. lol.

Thanks for reading guys :beer:

onlyroz

Sounds to me that you like the notion of having another cute cuddly baby to hold, but probably don't want an extra child.

System

Obviously only go ahead with the snip if you're both 100% sure you do not want any more children, whatever happens, come what may.

lika_86

I had a dream like that about a guinea pig and woke up really wanting one. Whilst I'm not averse to the idea, the longing soon passed and I reminded myself of the hassle of having a pet.

piglet74

onlyroz wrote: »

Sounds to me that you like the notion of having another cute cuddly baby to hold, but probably don't want an extra child.

I think this may be true.

I constantly dream about being on holidays I cant afford... And I hate flying!

Good luck, whatever you decide, and at the end of the day... You could get a lot worse than a new wee baby, so if that's what happens, so be it , your in a position to do it, so dont rule it out x

FBaby

Call the hospital, say you are going away and ask if surgery can be reschedule for the following month. If you still feel broody then, cancel it all together.

belfastgirl23

I think your subconscious is talking to you here and this is something I'm always inclined to listen to - though I don't know if I'd make it the boss in something like this. So for now I'd cancel the op but not do anything about getting pregnant (presuming time is on your side) and see if the feelings settle down.

Mupette

I think its a lot to do with your youngest no longer being a baby.

We've all been there.

other questions to ask yourself..

What would happen if hubby lost his job
can you afford the extention


write a list of pros and cons weigh them up.

Is it the idea of being pregnant or having a baby, if its pregnant how about surragosy for those who can't

seven-day-weekend

A vasectomy is a big decision. You should not go ahead if either or both are not sure.

I never wanted my husband to have one (he didn't either). My feelings were, I will become sterile eventually, he will not, and how do I know, I might die and he might want a child with someone else? I did not like the thought of him having his fertility taken away. and neither did he.

I know a man who was going to have a vasectomy after his second child, and then didn't. His marriage broke up. When his children were teenagers, he married again, to a much younger woman and they are planning on having children. He would not have this choice had he had the vasectomy.

We're in our 60s now so the situation won't arise.:)

Anyway, what I'm saying is, be absolutely sure before taking the plunge.

pigpen

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I know a man who was going to have a vasectomy after his second child, and then didn't. His marriage broke up. When his children were teenagers, he married again, to a much younger woman and they are planning on having children. He would not have this choice had he had the vasectomy. .

My friend had 5 children and then her hubby had the snip.. he then trotted off with another woman and he had it reversed and his new wife is now about 4 months pregnant.. so there are options still. .. But I do agree it should be something both parties agree on.



You've managed 2.5 years since your last one without having a whoops moment.. if you're uncertain I'd postpone for a bit it can't make much difference surely?

heartbreak_star

Just whatever you do don't "accidentally on purpose" have a whoops moment.

Have you talked to your husband about this?

HBS x