son wanting to meet his father

Mojisola

paddyrg wrote: »

Do childline or a similar agency have any advice? Your son is not the first teenage boy to need to find a father/father figure, this is well-trodden ground, and you may find some sound advice out there from the specialist charities/agencies. They may even make the initial approach to help broker the meeting.

The Salvation Army have a good reputation -
http://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/reuniting-families

theoretica

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Also it gives your ex a chance to think this through rather than having a knee jerk approach, which can only be to your sons benefit.

This is a very good point. People's first reaction is often not as good as their considered thoughts later.

lizzy85

Yes be honest with him. Your son has the right to meet him no matter how awful he had done to you.

jansus

paddyrg wrote: »

Do childline or a similar agency have any advice? Your son is not the first teenage boy to need to find a father/father figure, this is well-trodden ground, and you may find some sound advice out there from the specialist charities/agencies. They may even make the initial approach to help broker the meeting.

The father may well be regretting having walked away, and turn out to be a splendid father just when your son needs one. Either way, can you make sure there are some good male role models around in your son's life - if he can't get a literal father from this encounter, it's clear he needs some fatherliness in his world. Even if it's simple things like learning how to be a man in terms of shaving, fishing, going to football/ballet/whatever!

My son has a lovely stepfather who has been in his life since he was 9 years old, i think it's more a longing to see and meet his birth father.