Too many questions - Mum in meltdown

deedums

girlfrommars666 wrote: »

which college is he going to - facilities vary wildly from one to another?!

but in general, agree with rubuhoe - my college had cooking facilities but eating in hall was much cheaper and healthier (and more sociable)

He intends to eat in hall more or less all the time I think (and is quite looking forward to it), but he wanted to know if there would be somewhere to make snacks; would he need crockery etc and those are the questions I don't have the answers to!

Thanks for your help

hogshead

deedums wrote: »

He intends to eat in hall more or less all the time I think (and is quite looking forward to it), but he wanted to know if there would be somewhere to make snacks; would he need crockery etc and those are the questions I don't have the answers to!

Thanks for your help

My son shall be off this year too, staying in catered accom.
We are supplying bedding ( as non is provided. Be sure to pack a matress protector ) & a few basic kitchen supplies.
Despite being in catered your son may still want to make a snack, late supper so taking basics is not unheard of. Catered students do I believe get a basic shared kitchen facility just not an oven, don't quote me on that though.

A few cups/plates/bowls, cutlery, corkscrew, bottle opener, tea towel, saucepans etc. All these can be smart price/tesco savers etc range. Don't send him with your best Le Cruset & Royal Doulton pieces as it may not reurn in one piece, if at all.

Don't worry re asking ? or being concerned, you're simply being a caring parent.

Savvy_Sue

But if you can't get a list beforehand of what IS provided, then leaving him to sort out what he actually needs once he's there makes sense. Unless like me you've got 6 of all the things you only really need one of ...

DS1 DID get a list of what was provided in his halls (basically not a lot) so I sent him off well equipped, but I KNOW he didn't use half of it.

The one thing I'd insist on sending him with is a few mugs and whatever YOU like to drink in the way of tea / coffee / hot chocolate. There WILL be somewhere to boil water, and if you're staying to help him unpack you'll be glad of a cuppa. Sadly DS1 doesn't 'do' hot drinks, and doesn't see the need to offer them to his visitors, so I now have to remember to take my own on the beginning and end of term trips!

PasturesNew

He's a boy.
All he will need is pot noodles and biscuits. Maybe noodles.

looby-loo_2

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

The one thing I'd insist on sending him with is a few mugs and whatever YOU like to drink in the way of tea / coffee / hot chocolate. There WILL be somewhere to boil water, and if you're staying to help him unpack you'll be glad of a cuppa. Sadly DS1 doesn't 'do' hot drinks, and doesn't see the need to offer them to his visitors, so I now have to remember to take my own on the beginning and end of term trips!

This is exactly the same as my son!

hogshead

They'll leave as boys & come back as men....mummy boys no more

I'm sure they'll all survive, chip in with one another & have a blast whilst we're sat by the phone waiting for a call.
To be honest I'll be glad when he's all packed & gone as the prepping, fretting is not much fun.
Go out for a meal, cinema etc ( orange do 2 for 1 on wed ), last supper style & savour the moment......enjoy.

XX

deedums

hogshead wrote: »

My son shall be off this year too, staying in catered accom.
We are supplying bedding ( as non is provided. Be sure to pack a matress protector ) & a few basic kitchen supplies.
Despite being in catered your son may still want to make a snack, late supper so taking basics is not unheard of. Catered students do I believe get a basic shared kitchen facility just not an oven, don't quote me on that though.

A few cups/plates/bowls, cutlery, corkscrew, bottle opener, tea towel, saucepans etc. All these can be smart price/tesco savers etc range. Don't send him with your best Le Cruset & Royal Doulton pieces as it may not reurn in one piece, if at all.

Don't worry re asking ? or being concerned, you're simply being a caring parent.

Thanks, that's made me feel a lot better.

My son is quite a confident and focused person and has been since the age of 9 when, having done some research, told us (quite out of the blue) which school he would like to go to! Since then we haven’t had to help with many of the decisions he has made. He wants to get as much organised as he can (and I use the ‘organised’ very loosely because he is a boy) and we’ve found it strange because DS1 had so much information sent to him.

As I’ve explained before, DS1 went to uni 2 years ago and we’ve got used to sometimes not hearing from him for a couple of weeks and then him phoning or turning up with loads of washing and/or friends. I think this time it must be that ‘empty nest’ thing plus DS2 isn’t going to be 18 until the new year (although this isn’t and hasn’t been a problem).

Thanks to you all for your advice and patience, I really do appreciate it.

Savvy_Sue

deedums wrote: »

we’ve got used to sometimes not hearing from him for a couple of weeks and then him phoning or turning up with loads of washing and/or friends.

Oh no, that's not on in this house!

You can fail to be in touch with me for a week or so (but I'll look out for you on MSN and say hello if I can!), and you're welcome to come back with your friends. But you do your own washing! :rotfl: (Of course you can bring it home dirty if you like, but there's no point looking pathetic!)

deedums

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Oh no, that's not on in this house!

But you do your own washing! :rotfl: (Of course you can bring it home dirty if you like, but there's no point looking pathetic!)

That's how it started with us too, but then in 2nd year DS1 moved out of halls & into a house and surprisingly the laundrette was such a long way away :rolleyes: and the 1½ hour journey home seemed much easier even with many bags of laundry!! Though I have to admit he washed it himself I did end up doing most of the ironing because he was in definite student mode - the one where you don't actually iron anything if you can help it.

pixiedust_2

Nah, not ironing has nothing to do with him being a student - from my experience, that's a male thing!

Altho, to be fair, I do tend to shop on the basis of picking things that are tumble-drier friendly and/or don't need ironing later...