Tuesday 22 March - What small DFW things will you do today?

PurpleFairy26

Done well on my list today

Bob well done on your business
MTC sending you hugs
La E :T on a tenant

make_the_change

La_escocesa wrote: »

So with it being a private rental does that mean that you could hand in your notice and maybe be out of there come May? I know that might sound like a massive upheaval, but if it's an option it may work out better for you.

Yes, but I have nowhere to go and I don't have the funds for a new place. I would get money back from deposit but would need to find a lot more to cover the deposit and rent in advance. Rents where I am are in excess of £1100pm for a two bedroom. I don't have that kind of money and would also need to find a landlord who accepts housing benefit and they are few and far between x

YORKSHIRELASS

MTC I cant imagine what you are going through and I wish I had some practical advice. It sounds feeble but I hope things get better.

Good news Bob!

Tired tonight, been struggling a bit with anxiety, nothing new there and I am under a fair bit of pressure at the moment at work which doesnt help. Need to take care of myself a bit more.

On the plus side I am sticking to my mealplan, getting washing dry outside, and keeping on top of the housework. Managed to buy new cricket trousers for DS2 yesterday without buying anything else which was a result!

Bobarella

Make the Change ok all situations are different of course. All I can say is what happened to me. I was the owner of my home and my neighbour who harassed me was a council tenant. I kept emailing the council until the anti social behaviour team within the council took me seriously. They sent someone round and I had to fill in a diary over 2 years. We had 3 occasions of police involvement in that time. In the end the council helped me take her to court and she was signed into a behaviour order so she could no longer do anything on the list of things that were considered harassment. I had to do that to sell my house as no one would buy it with her there without the protection of that order.

Appreciate you are renting but it shouldn't matter. No one is allowed to harass you in your home. The council must listen to you and take you seriously.

I know exactly the feeling you describe believe me. Our neighbour would beat on the wall with what sounded like a sledge hammer if my husband turned the kettle on at the wall. She also has a major issue with my then toddler running up and down our wooden floor. Baring in mind she lived next door on the ground floor. Her issues were exacerbated by heavy skunk usage....


It pains me to hear of aanyone else going through the same thing. I felt at times I was so alone as although the situation bothered my husband for me it was a million times worse as I am sensitive to others moods and atmospheres in places. I want your bully to be brought to justice. But if you feel you can go and stay with your mum for a time and figure out another route then why not. Life's too short. If there had been another way for me I'd probably have taken it.

make_the_change

Bobarella wrote: »

Make the Change ok all situations are different of course. All I can say is what happened to me. I was the owner of my home and my neighbour who harassed me was a council tenant. I kept emailing the council until the anti social behaviour team within the council took me seriously. They sent someone round and I had to fill in a diary over 2 years. We had 3 occasions of police involvement in that time. In the end the council helped me take her to court and she was signed into a behaviour order so she could no longer do anything on the list of things that were considered harassment. I had to do that to sell my house as no one would buy it with her there without the protection of that order.

Appreciate you are renting but it shouldn't matter. No one is allowed to harass you in your home. The council must listen to you and take you seriously.

I know exactly the feeling you describe believe me. Our neighbour would beat on the wall with what sounded like a sledge hammer if my husband turned the kettle on at the wall. She also has a major issue with my then toddler running up and down our wooden floor. Baring in mind she lived next door on the ground floor. Her issues were exacerbated by heavy skunk usage....


It pains me to hear of aanyone else going through the same thing. I felt at times I was so alone as although the situation bothered my husband for me it was a million times worse as I am sensitive to others moods and atmospheres in places. I want your bully to be brought to justice. But if you feel you can go and stay with your mum for a time and figure out another route then why not. Life's too short. If there had been another way for me I'd probably have taken it.

Oh wow, that sounds horrid. I really don't think I could go through that process for that long. Life feels like hell at the moment and I have to leave when my OH leaves for work and come home when he does as I refuse to come home alone. I'm that scared.

I'm really trying to convince my mum to help me.

Bobarella

So sorry Make the change you must do what feels right for you. And keeping yourself and the children safe is priority 1. If I can be of any help please feel free to DM me. Otherwise good luck and I will be reading here as much as possible.