Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

tunathe_cat

Pyxis wrote: »

He collects Lego, Whitewing.

He's a Lego version of Swain, who collects cuddly toys.

I have a lego anorak for a son! he makes lego films phantoncheesecake So proud of himx His in 6th form but off as his media/music area been flooded too.

calleyw

Guess what I have ordered for myself for my birthday next month :j



Yes it is lego and yes its £79.99 :eek: but its hard to get hold of and people sell them on ebay new for £100 +

Yours

Calley

Waves_and_Smiles

Awww, Calley I love that! I have a soft spot for campervans, Lego Man will be impressed! Does he know yet?

Hope Mr CP feels a bit better today, Code.

How is the flooding, tuna?

I agree, report it to the police, MU. He is likely just mouthing off but report it to make sure.

Hope your foot is getting better, Faerie!

calleyw

Waves_and_Smiles wrote: »

Awww, Calley I love that! I have a soft spot for campervans, Lego Man will be impressed! Does he know yet?

No he does not know I treated myself. I will get him to help me build it. And my xmas present to myself will be the lego vw beetle roughly same price.

Hows it all going with you WaS?

Did I mention I have a birds and a bees nest in my roof :eek:

Yours

Calley

elsien

If anyone needs a giggle the highlight of my afternoon involved splitting the front seam of my trousers getting into the car. I spent the rest of the afternoon (as obviously today is the day with numerous appointments instead of hiding behind a desk) rocking the navy trouser/white pant look whilst trying to tug my shirt down as far as it would go. Not helped by having to simultaneously get down to wheelchair user level. Happens to the best of us.

Waves_and_Smiles

I am jealous, Calley! I would love birds and bees in my roof! I still miss Monty the Rat!

How sweet of you to ask about me, I am ok! I spent yesterday, over 12 hours online with my american friend playing games and chatting. It is her birthday which is sadly a horrid reminder of something bad that happened to her (we have that in common) so she always feels very vulnerable and distressed on the day. Once this week is over she will feel better and we will have got through it for another year. I am just trying to be a good friend right now, really and prepared to drop everything else until she feels better just as she would for me.

Oops, elsien! At least it kept you cool? :rotfl:

Waves_and_Smiles

Here's a question. How self-reflective is everyone on average? Do you consider why you have specific motivations and do the things you do?

I was talking to my teacher friend about self-analysis and he was saying he would be horrified to look at things the way I do. Whatever his motivations are he doesn't want to know and it it would terrify him to find out. So he loosely thinks things through and makes decisions for the most part (big decisions that could hurt people aside) and thinks most people do it that way.

It is very ingrained in me to analyse everything, I began psychotherapy twice a week at age 13 until 21 and I learned how to self-analyse as I learnt how to read and write. It became part of me growing up so I don't consciously do it, it is completely automatic to look at why I do things. Then my psychology degree, therapist training and further self-therapy just ingrained it even more into my personality. It is also pretty essential for me because of my often delusional thoughts.

My teacher friend said he can't grasp how I can do it without constantly hating myself if I find a bad thought and finds it unusual, whereas I don't consider any thoughts particularly good or bad, it depends what you do with them. Am I odd? Mildly paranoid now! Is it wrong? See??? I am analysing whether it's ok to analyse now!!!

elsien

I am reflective at work, because I'm working with vulnerable people and I want it get in right.
But in my personal life I'd run kicking and screaming before getting into any level of analysis. I don't want to know why I do what I do because then I'd have to do something about it!
I am very impressed by the level analysis you do as a matter of course and your reflections are fascinating. And certainly nothing to be paranoid about. For myself I find it a bit (ok, a lot) scary and it's somewhere I just don't want to go. I appear to be one huge avoidance mechanism.

Pyxis

No, you're not odd.

I find it helps if I can understand why I do things or feel certain ways.

Apart from the fact that I tend to deconstruct most things I encounter!

By understanding stuff better, it enables you to feel and be more in control, and helps with memory, too.

System

I've started being more self reflective

Recently i;ve had a lot of bouts of irrational irritability, every time i;ve made myself take 5 minutes to reflect on it. I ask my myself why i feel this way? What has triggered it? am i thinking ratioionally or reactivly? what will be the consequences if i act on my feelings etc. Its actually really helping me. I;ve managed to calm myself down and avoid unnecessary confrontation or arguments.

Not sure if thats the same thing you do WaS but i dont see anything wrong with doing it.

Also after atching izombie if i'm having a particularly bad day and thoughts i tell myself its the "bipolar brain" i'm on thats making me think/feel like that :rotfl: (for context she eats brains and takes on the persons personaility and thoghts)