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step family dispute following death

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  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,574 Forumite
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    My friend is just worried that by the time they see a solicitor the step sister will have cleared the house & thrown all her dads stuff away. Can she do that?

    Can she - yes.

    Should she - no.
  • Oh dear. Sounds like its going to get more stressful & upsetting for her then.

    Thanks to everyone for responding. Shame circumstances make loving families turn against each other.
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,574 Forumite
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    My friend is just worried that by the time they see a solicitor the step sister will have cleared the house & thrown all her dads stuff away.

    If the step-sister does take things away from the house, it will be theft. Not much comfort if things you want get destroyed but perhaps letting her know that you would take it further will make her hold back.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    Oh dear. Sounds like its going to get more stressful & upsetting for her then.

    Thanks to everyone for responding. Shame circumstances make loving families turn against each other.




    Sorry but they cannot have been very loving in the first place for the step-sister to shut them out like this.
  • POPPYOSCAR
    POPPYOSCAR Posts: 14,902 Forumite
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    Just out of interest how has the step-sister 'locked' the son out of the bank account?
  • I guess she has the internet banking password. She set all the direct debits up for dad when her mum died.
  • Mojisola
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    I guess she has the internet banking password. She set all the direct debits up for dad when her mum died.

    So the POA was neglecting his duties? You can't take on a legal role like that and not take control of the donor's finances - that would include changing passwords that someone else might know.
  • Im not sure of the details of the poa. Theres nothing they can do to change that now.
  • 74jax
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    I have poa for mum and dad. Dad died a few months back so I believed it my responsibility to gets mums bank accounts sorted. Direct debits made, passwords changed etc. I wouldn't have dreamed of not doing this, are you sure your friend hasn't done this? It just seems a bit thing not to do.
    Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....
  • No the step sister did it all without poa. Not how i would have handled it but as ive said they all trusted her.
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