Ex Owes Me Money - Refusing To Pay

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macca1974 wrote: »

i'd forget about it and thank your lucky stars that you didn't end up signing a 12 month contract that you'd now be responsible for. You might get lucky with a letter before action though.

Just as a thought though, it sounds to me that you made a decision to put down the £600 without consulting your ex, so initially that didn't have anything to do with her. All she would need to do would be to say "I didn't agree to pay half and there is nothing in writing" and then you are into the realms of "he said/she said" and it wouldn't surprise me that even if you did take it as far as court, the court would decide in her favour.

The contract is between her and the OP, it's irrelevant that he put down the initial £600.


However that's an aside, as her counter argument would be that she received no benefit from the contract. As the tenancy presumably fell through as she did not apply.

Slinky

She told you not to view as it was over, you went ahead with it anyway. How on earth does that make her liable?

kitty_cat_2

OMG she sounds like a right piece of work. Take the higher moral ground, cut your losses and thank your lucky starts that you are no longer together. £300 is a small amount in the grand scheme of things, just feel sorry for whoever has the misfortune to marry her :rotfl

duchy

You could take it to small claims but frankly you agreed to take the flat at a time you weren't together so had you not got back together you'd still have gone ahead with it - so stick to that plan .

She cost you £500 in holiday deposit- and you then put yourself in a position where you would lose hundreds more potentially.

Cut your losses and delete her number . In six months time you'll wonder why you put up with her nonsense for so long .

JasX

I think you've completely blown any legal case out of the water because *at the time you put the money down* she had explicitly told you not to do so

(after the fact agreements are very flimsey at the best of times)

ie if you take here to court over it there is a good chance you'll lose if she has any record of telling you in advance not to put money down on her behalf. And can also argue that any reasonable person would have seen the risk in putting money down on behalf of someone who had just apparently told them the relationship was "over". Upshot is you end up going to a lot of trouble, still being out of pocket £300 and having to pay for your ex's costs on top.

PasturesNew

chad888 wrote: »

She told me dont view the flat its over.
I viewed it anyway and put the money down on it £600.
A few hours later .... agreed to pay half when she got paid (today).

Apart from all the moaning waffle, you'd already PAID the £600, off your own back, at a point when she wasn't in the picture.

Then she offered you half.

Then she decided it's over.

She doesn't really owe you £300. And, to be honest, £300 is a CHEAP price to have got rid of her and got out of this ridiculously juvenile and toxic relationship.

In short: forget it, drop it, she doesn't owe you £300, why on earth are you whining and moaning.

Get on with your life.

TBagpuss

She told me don't view the flat its over. I viewed it anyway and put the money down on it £600.

So at that time you knew that she wasn't going to pay but you decided to go ahead. Why do you think she should contribute?

I think it is unlikely that you would succeed if you wwent to court, as both on your own evidence and on hers, at the time you viewed that flat and paid the deposit you knew that she had withdrawn her agreement, had told you not to view or pay anything. So the choice you made to pay the £600 was nothing to do with her and you knew at that time that she did not want to incur the costs.

Her later offer to pay £300 is unlikely to change that.

To be honest, I think you would have had more chance getting the deposit for the holiday back, if at the time you paid it you both planned to go and she had agreed to pay half.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

She'd been trying to finish things with you for a long time. She refused to buy somewhere with you, then didn't want to rent with you, either. She didn't even want to go on holiday with you.

Whatever you feel about the money, she tried to make her feelings clear, but you still carried on - and now you're after her for money she didn't want you to spend. There's only so many times you can guilt her into coming back, and you've obviously used up your nine lives in this respect.

Let the money go. She doesn't want to be with you, whether you say 'But I spent all this cash on us' or not. Still hassling her for it is dangerously close to stalker territory and nobody wants to be the crazy stalker ex.

Think of it as an investment against having a non molestation order slapped on you at a later date.

heuchera

true.. the woman could quite easily play the victim in all this..

NYGiants

My ex still owes me over £8k, I know I'll never see it so just move on and think yourself lucky that you weren't fleeced out of more.