Ex Owes Me Money - Refusing To Pay

chad888

My ex and i was going to rent a property together. We had been discussing it for a while, i was going to buy a house, she wanted to rent with me instead. She got a new job near to me, she was due to start in a month, she sent me loads of properties to view and arranged viewings for me (she lived an hour away).

On the day of the viewing she went in one of her trademark moods where she tries to end it, before changing her mind an hour later. She told me dont view the flat its over. I viewed it anyway and put the money down on it £600. A few hours later she came back saying she wished i had viewed the place, so i told her i had and had put the money down, she was happy and agreed to pay half when she got paid (today).

2 weeks ago, she decided she didnt want to live with me and pulled out which lost me the money, id paid it so my name was on the contract and she was to give me half.

This follows a holiday that we had booked together, then she pulled out saying she didnt know what she wanted and lost me the deposit of £500 only then to say she wishes we still had the holiday etc.

So we end it, she agrees to pay half over text message which i still have a copy of, £300. Today i text her to ask for the money now shes been paid. I get a reply saying she is blocking me on everything to never contact her again and her dad advised her not to pay anything, because she asked at the time me not to view anything. Despite her taking those words back later.

What position am i in? How can i challenge for that money back? I dont want to go to court and end up paying 1000 just to get that 300 and a moral victory, i want the money back and her out my life!

pigpen

its £300 .. cut your losses be thankful of your lucky escape and move on.. its really not worth the hassle! I'd gladly pay that to have several people out of my life forever!

And next time don't lay out anything with the other persons half up front!

sweetilemon

Sounds like a case for judge rinder! Sounds like your better off without her, personally I'd chalk it up to experience and not make that mistake again but I'm sure someone more knowledgeable will tell you how to go about a small claims court case.

Tigsteroonie

As others have said, don't bother - it'll be worth losing that £300 just to never have to deal with or see her again. People like that are trouble, let her go to annoy somebody else instead.

HappyMJ

chad888 wrote: »

i want the money back and her out my life!

Forget about it....just move on.

You could take her to court and fight it out but that just means she'll be in your life for a lot longer. Write a "Letter Before Action" to her and see what response you get before starting a court claim.

heuchera

By all means chase her up for the money, but also, be glad you got rid of her at this stage and not later on down the line.

Guest101

chad888 wrote: »

My ex and i was going to rent a property together. We had been discussing it for a while, i was going to buy a house, she wanted to rent with me instead. She got a new job near to me, she was due to start in a month, she sent me loads of properties to view and arranged viewings for me (she lived an hour away).

On the day of the viewing she went in one of her trademark moods where she tries to end it, before changing her mind an hour later. She told me dont view the flat its over. I viewed it anyway and put the money down on it £600. A few hours later she came back saying she wished i had viewed the place, so i told her i had and had put the money down, she was happy and agreed to pay half when she got paid (today).

2 weeks ago, she decided she didnt want to live with me and pulled out which lost me the money, id paid it so my name was on the contract and she was to give me half.

This follows a holiday that we had booked together, then she pulled out saying she didnt know what she wanted and lost me the deposit of £500 only then to say she wishes we still had the holiday etc.

So we end it, she agrees to pay half over text message which i still have a copy of, £300. Today i text her to ask for the money now shes been paid. I get a reply saying she is blocking me on everything to never contact her again and her dad advised her not to pay anything, because she asked at the time me not to view anything. Despite her taking those words back later.

What position am i in? How can i challenge for that money back? I dont want to go to court and end up paying 1000 just to get that 300 and a moral victory, i want the money back and her out my life!

1: Small claims does not cost anywhere near £1000
2: you need to write a letter before action to her, detailing your claim
3: I don't think you have any valid claim. Any reasonable person would see this relationship was on rocky ground, and so committing to financial outlays was not a sensible idea
4: The above point does not mean you wouldn't win. Her father is an idiot (based on the above) and would likely tell her to ignore your letter, then you issue court proceedings and win by default.

pinkshoes

I would forget it and move on.

She sounds like a deranged looney, so don't forget to block her mobile, FB etc... You can do without people like that.

lovinituk

"One time at band camp..."

When_the_going_gets_tough

Op just remember that if you take court action and the court awards you the money you will still have to enforce it against your ex which can cost further money and if they have no assets may not be successful. However there is nothing to stop you issuing a letter efore action which wont cost you anything and may make her take you seriously.

macca1974

i'd forget about it and thank your lucky stars that you didn't end up signing a 12 month contract that you'd now be responsible for. You might get lucky with a letter before action though.

Just as a thought though, it sounds to me that you made a decision to put down the £600 without consulting your ex, so initially that didn't have anything to do with her. All she would need to do would be to say "I didn't agree to pay half and there is nothing in writing" and then you are into the realms of "he said/she said" and it wouldn't surprise me that even if you did take it as far as court, the court would decide in her favour.