Mothers Day...........

dirty_magic

Dementia is a terrible disease, I wish there was a way to prevent or cure it.

My Nan has it, and whilst she hasn't got to the stage where she doesn't know who we are yet I wish we could still have a proper conversation with her. It's impossible now because she fixates on certain things when you're talking and she'll keep repeating the same sentence.

It gets harder every year to remember what she was like before the dementia took hold.

System

Mothers day can be painfu for many reasons, whether its because of losing a parent, an absent parent, or one who for whatever reason isn't the mum you remember them as.

I'm sorry today as difficult for you, it must be hard to see your mum as she is now compared to your memories, but you will always have those memories and she will always be your mum.

I feel bad tbh, i sent my mum a card and sent her a text today, but in light of what i;ve just read i think i should call her and have a chat. I'm thankful she's in good health now but who knows what can happen.

Mr_Toad

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Mothers day can be painfu for many reasons, whether its because of losing a parent, an absent parent, or one who for whatever reason isn't the mum you remember them as.

I'm sorry today as difficult for you, it must be hard to see your mum as she is now compared to your memories, but you will always have those memories and she will always be your mum.

I feel bad tbh, i sent my mum a card and sent her a text today, but in light of what i;ve just read i think i should call her and have a chat. I'm thankful she's in good health now but who knows what can happen.

Yes do that, there are so many things I wished I'd said to Mum and will now never get the chance.

System

Yes do that, there are so many things I wished I'd said to Mum and will now never get the chance.

Mr_Toad Tell her anyway. You dont know what she can take in.

My Mother has dementia. 2 years ago she couldnt put a sentence together. Today she can only wail but i tell her each time i see her how much i love her and remind her that she is my Mum.

I like to think that the only reason she hasnt tried to batter me like she has battered everyone else is because she knows i am her daughter and despite everything she's put me through, she loves me, just as i love her.

seven-day-weekend

I agree, tell your mum the things you want to say. You don't know whether at some level of her being she will be able take it in, and it will also be healing for you.

McKneff

I just wanted to say also that my lovely younger brother started with Alzheimers at the age of 49. It was so aggressive that by the time he was just 52 he looked 90 and was taken from us, and he left his wife and 3 beautiful daughters behind. I was lucky enough to see him within the last week of his life, not sure if he knew me or not but I hugged him hard and I said 'I love you bonny lad' The very last words I said to him. I will swear I saw a smile on his face.....A lovely memory that makes me cry but Im glad I have it. x

Mr_Toad

Judi wrote: »

Mr_Toad Tell her anyway. You dont know what she can take in.

My Mother has dementia. 2 years ago she couldnt put a sentence together. Today she can only wail but i tell her each time i see her how much i love her and remind her that she is my Mum.

I like to think that the only reason she hasnt tried to batter me like she has battered everyone else is because she knows i am her daughter and despite everything she's put me through, she loves me, just as i love her.

Yes, I do tell her things but I know she doesn't remember and that's the hard part.

When I'm with her if I leave the room, even for a minute, when I come back she thinks I've just arrived.

Mr_Toad

McKneff wrote: »

I just wanted to say also that my lovely younger brother started with Alzheimers at the age of 49. It was so aggressive that by the time he was just 52 he looked 90 and was taken from us, and he left his wife and 3 beautiful daughters behind. I was lucky enough to see him within the last week of his life, not sure if he knew me or not but I hugged him hard and I said 'I love you bonny lad' The very last words I said to him. I will swear I saw a smile on his face.....A lovely memory that makes me cry but Im glad I have it. x

How sad that one so young should get it.

I know someone, via a mutual friend, who's wife was about the same age when she got Alzheimers, for several years it was difficult to tell unless you knew her and her husband was wonderful, he would always find a way to say the persons name when in company.