In a relationship but not living together

dippy3103

Where did he live before he joined the army?

TELLIT01

You really do need to check with your local authority for a definitive answer. I don't know the rules around 'absent' partners and HB/CT. On Income Support all sorts of elements are taken into consideration in deciding whether 2 people are a couple even when living apart.

Db123_2

skcollobcat10 wrote: »

The above statement is incorrect "I get my own money" you receive it through the kindness of taxpayers, money in the form of benefits.

I do also because I am physically disabled, and I am grateful for the amount I receive.

But I do get my own money and I work hard for it too, I've only been claiming HB and council tax benefit for the past 8 weeks which is why I posted on this forum in the first place, I would absolutely hate the thought of claiming money for something I'm not actually entitled to. I've never lived on my own before and only moved into my own accommodation a few months ago, before that I was a carer for my grandmother who passed away, the house was then sold and I found somewhere to rent, I've never claimed anything other than child benefit and CTC before now, If my partner is liable for paying rent despite not living here and having his own rent to pay then he'll be more than willing to pay it. I posted on here for advice but aside from a few genuinely helpful comments I seem to have been judged for no reason what so ever. I've never once said I'm unwilling to stop claiming or pay back anything I do owe. I tried finding the advice online but couldn't and this seemed like the best forum to ask, however it feels like I've spent most of the time having to justify myself and my partners circumstances instead.
Thank you to those posters who did actually try and give helpful info and advice.

Poppie68

Blimey yet another thread where the op is judged by others that are too quick to make assumptions.
The op works and claims HB and CT she is just looking for guidance....
OP did you inform the HB office of your situation? If not speak to them as they will be the best placed to advise...

Db123_2

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Poppie68 wrote: »

Blimey yet another thread where the op is judged by others that are too quick to make assumptions.
The op works and claims HB and CT she is just looking for guidance....
OP did you inform the HB office of your situation? If not speak to them as they will be the best placed to advise...

Thank you,, I didn't speak to them as the form was to be completed online. I got the latter last week confirming both the deduction for HB and council tax but I will ring them first thing tomorrow just to make sure I'm not committing any sort of fraud.
I did speak to tax credits and inform them of my situation directly though and they did confirm I am genuinely entitled to the tax credits I'm currently claiming.
Thanks again.

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Guest101 wrote: »

The system, thankfully, doesn't agree with you.


Neither do I.

You are entitled to your opinion as am I.

Poppie68

Db123 wrote: »

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Thank you,, I didn't speak to them as the form was to be completed online. I got the latter last week confirming both the deduction for HB and council tax but I will ring them first thing tomorrow just to make sure I'm not committing any sort of fraud.
I did speak to tax credits and inform them of my situation directly though and they did confirm I am genuinely entitled to the tax credits I'm currently claiming.
Thanks again.

Good, speak to them tomorrow otherwise you could find yourself paying back the money if they don't agree his main residence is on camp.Many people don't understand that living on camp is a 'single' soliders main home as already mentioned they pay CILOT, they are registered there on the electrol roll and all business is conducted from that address...Your boyfriend doesn't live with you, he visits you occasionally but then goes home.

missapril75

Icequeen99 wrote: »

There are plenty of married couples where one partner is in the army and the other living in another part of the country. They are still classed as a couple

Yes but this is because they have already become a couple according to the specific definitions in benefit rules and they may be different for different benefits.

To be temporarily absent still counts as being a couple but there has to have been a couple situation to be absent from.

I remember that for Income Support, for example, the definition (short version and paraphrasing) of a couple was two people in a marriage type relationship sharing a household whether married or not.

Then there was a definition of household because that's not always clear. Legislation is often not as simple as people think.

The OP and the father of the child might be considered "an item" and all indications are they will share a household at some future point.

But for the moment they have not shared a household so are not a couple for benefit purposes.

When they do share a household and then he's away they will still be a couple because they do share a household normally and are only temporarily apart - not estranged.

FBaby

Op You are best ringing the relevant departments and get a definitive answer, please could you come back after and give us an update.... It will help others.

And this is what I don't understand. We regularly get similar posts asking advice whether they are not breaking the rules, claiming to be totally genuine and no intention of binding the rules or playing the system. If that is the case, why post here to ask strangers who can only provide advice, especially when needing to set up a new profile, when such posters would know 100% if they just called the relevant benefit agencies?

In the end, married or not, you are a couple who should be supporting each other, financially or not, otherwise, why even consider to get married in a few months? Do you actually go around saying you're a single mum? So the question is whether despite the status of your relationship, the system in written in such a way that you can justify ticking the right boxes, which of course, is something a bit difficult to ask the benefit agencies directly.

dippy3103

O/p - where did he live before he joined the army? I can't see the answer to my question? It's very relevant