Would you put up with this from neighbours?

drbluebox

New people moved in upstairs and at first the noise was tolerable if a little annoying at times, they have a young baby and I think they have a cot in living room, at night I hear it crying for hours no matter what time it is and if I am just dozing off I also hear what sounds like the cot being shaken as well but I am a heavy sleeper so can handle that (I mean the baby sleeps in room above my bedroom at night)

But what is getting more common is I am hearing what at first I thought was DIY as it sounds like a hammer being hit against wall, but its increased to things like again a cot being shaken, its not constant but can go minutes or more with nothing then a few minutes of shaking.

There was yesterday when I moved my old sofa and just moving it a little set the baby off and I had to endure 2 hours of a child loud crying, and what sounded like jumping up and down and shaking cot, if the parents were there why didn't they stop it (it seems the parents always ignore the child) The walls are quick thick though we have creaky floorboards but all I heard from ex neighbour was minor child crying first thing in morning and running about for about 20 minutes when he came home and never any other noise.

I just dont want to come back from work and deal with banging about for hours.

I will speak to them once I know they are in and prepared as don't want a fight.

Would you put up with this? And what would you do?

missbiggles1

I'd be very worried about a baby's cot being shaken at all, much less so loudly that it sounds like a hammer being hit against a wall!

smallholdingsister

I would ring social services and take the consequent feelings of guilt since not doing anything would be worse.

tomtontom

If what you say is true, I would be calling social services.

If you're exaggerating, I'd get things in perspective and accept that babies can cry at times.

drbluebox

Yes I was thinking maybe I was overreacting, as not to spread stereotypes but they seem to be the type that wear tracksuits all the time and smoke cigarettes and heard them shout at each other on the stairs twice, but at least they smoke outside.

But I was worried if I did report them even if they are neglecting the child they will blame me and get agressive.

HappyMJ

I'd have a quiet confidential talk with social services. I wouldn't mention abuse or anything just call them to see what they say. They can do a home visit without accusing them of anything and have a chat with the parents and see why this child is being left alone for so long. Most of the time they'll just note down what they saw and leave it at that but at least if they visit the parents might take some action....and if they suspect the neighbours called SS they may even move.

HappyMJ

drbluebox wrote: »

Yes I was thinking maybe I was overreacting, as not to spread stereotypes but they seem to be the type that wear tracksuits all the time and smoke cigarettes and heard them shout at each other on the stairs twice, but at least they smoke outside.

But I was worried if I did report them even if they are neglecting the child they will blame me and get agressive.

How awful....tracksuits...LOL. That's definitely child abuse. :A

tomtontom

drbluebox wrote: »

Yes I was thinking maybe I was overreacting, as not to spread stereotypes but they seem to be the type that wear tracksuits all the time and smoke cigarettes and heard them shout at each other on the stairs twice, but at least they smoke outside.

But I was worried if I did report them even if they are neglecting the child they will blame me and get agressive.

Is this a joke?

Is your original post accurate/ balanced or not? Do you have concerns for the child's welfare or are these just everyday noises?

drbluebox

tomtontom wrote: »

If what you say is true, I would be calling social services.

If you're exaggerating, I'd get things in perspective and accept that babies can cry at times.

Depends how you see exaggeration, I know babies cry a lot but its rare I hear the child cry in the day but the sound like hammering or furniture getting dragged (thats what it sounds like not what is is) and sounds like things getting dropped constantly make me think if parents are there why aren't they dealing with it and for yesterday for 2 hours of on and off screeching and jumping makes it seem they aren't

The day they moved in I was bothered at 3am by drunk people having the wrong flat, and my buzzer loudly rang a few times 30 minutes later.

drbluebox

tomtontom wrote: »

Is this a joke?

Is your original post accurate/ balanced or not? Do you have concerns for the child's welfare or are these just everyday noises?

If the parents are there and just ignoring the child then its more I think they don't care which is bad, but nowhere near as bad as leaving child on its own which I think should be reported.

But as the noises are so excessive if the parents were there than surely they would try and calm child down as it would be extreme.

Just off out so back in just a bit over a hour.

HappyMJ wrote: »

How awful....tracksuits...LOL. That's definitely child abuse. :A

As in they look like there stereotypes you get of chavs, didn't want to use that word just in case but thats the idea.

Leo2020

How do you know that they are not trying to console the child? My sister has great difficulty getting her now 10 month old to sleep. I have 2 children and have trouble getting him to sleep - he can scream and scream totally consolable. It is obvious he is tired but he will not admit it and can be a right pain to get him to sleep and then when you do 20 mins later tops he is screaming his head off again. She can spends hours in the evenings with him like that until he finally falls asleep properly.

She has even seen specialist at hospital because she thought he had severe reflux, tried changing his diet, he is on medically prescribed milk for babies with milk allergies and yet he still has trouble sleeping.

In regards to the others noises, could it be maybe a swinging crib? Could bang on the floor if slightly off balance. Maybe pushing the baby back and forth in a pram? You can get seats which vibrate. Swings which swing of course. All these make noises.